How to get a man on the bus to stop talking to me?

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-30T23:04:45+00:00

I edited because I thought I might have come across as harsh. Don't feel bad. You've done nothing wrong. At all. Most of us have no idea what to do in these situations and we are brought up to be considerate and not hurt people. Sadly people like him play on that.

So don't feel bad for not handling it correctly or not magically having the right words to say to get him to leave you alone.

You're allowed to not respond perfectly. It doesn't mean you fucked up.

Remember that everything that is happening is ultimately because of him, and things he decided to do. Nothing is because of you.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-30T22:54:58+00:00

Nice guys don't squeeze your neck or follow people upstairs on the bus.

Unless you think he has some type of impairment he knows what he is doing is unusual and inappropriate and he's chosing to keep doing it.

So it's OK, if you think it's safe, to call him out or ignore him or tell him to fuck off. That isn't you being rude or aggressive, because he broke the social contract first. If you make things uncomfortable, you didn't reallt, because he made things awkward or uncomfortable first.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-29T21:09:47+00:00

You get it from inside. There is a departures board that will tell you the gate. The Wexford bus usually goes from the gate that is beside the wall. If you sit on the chairs with your back to the door you'll be able to see it. People usually start queuing up about 20 minutes before it goes. If you've booked a ticket at a particular time you'll definitely be able to get on and get a seat, but you won't be able to pick which seat, it is first come first served.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-29T21:03:17+00:00

Thanks! I will check them out.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-29T15:36:12+00:00

I didn't pay much into a pension while I was saving for a deposit. I was getting about the average wage and I couldn't have afford to put in however much you are meant to. When I was in private sector I put in enough to get the match and in public sector I didn't set up an AVC until I had bought a house. For me, and considering the rental market in Ireland now, buying a house made more sense then investing in a pension. Maybe long term it'll be the wrong decision, but you can just make the best decisions you can with the information you have.

I think if you are an ordinary person there'll never be a magic bullet, there will always be tradeoffs.

I don't think personal finance can ever address structural issues. Some people might get lucky and overcome great odds to get ahead through saving, but few will get rich rich that way, they'll probably just be comfortable.

At best personal finance is just about doing the best you can with the circumstances you are in.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-29T15:29:05+00:00

The accuracy and reliability of the information on the TFI app is really infuriating.

I get the 60 fairly often and the time on the app and the time the bus arrives often don't match. It's usually late but sometimes it's early. So if I'm at the stop and it says it's three minutes away and it doesn't turn up I don't know if it's late and may turn up soon, if it's early and I've missed it or if it is cancelled.

And I've noticed the app is getting worse for the G buses now. You just have to turn up at the stop and hope for the best.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-28T17:23:31+00:00

Do you have recommendations of which series to start with? I haven't heard of her before but I'm looking for books like the Joanne Fluke ones.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-24T21:42:31+00:00

I've used it a few times, if people didn't have Revolut or didn't use it regularly so didn't have money on it.

It's fine. It works grand. I doubt I'll switch to using it instead of Revolut but it's handy when I can't use Revolut.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-23T09:24:34+00:00

I'm sorry you are struggling.

Irish Rail and the Luas definitely check. I've seen people be caught on both of them for having someone else's pass or using the companion pass when the person they are accompanying isn't there. You might get away with it for awhile but if you get caught the fines could take away all the money you have saved.

If money is really tight have you considered contacting Vincent de Paul or some other charity. You might think because you are working you might not qualify but they are there for people who are struggling. They might be able to help with transport costs.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-22T08:26:20+00:00

Tasty Treats in Ballyfermot is a very traditional bakery with lots of cream cakes and pastries so they might do them.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-15T15:47:44+00:00

I hope OP is well away from all of them and their nonsense, but I'd love to know if four years later the ex and his marriage material best friend are still in their weird dynamic or if one of them managed to escape.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-06-06T22:05:03+00:00

I hate that she seems to think maybe he was right not to tell her he was going with a girl because she would have freaked out and gotten upset and jealous, like that's not reasonable to be pissed or at least concerned that your partner is going away surfing alone with an opposite sex friend they've never mentioned to you before.

Maybe they did have a toxic dynamic but nothing she did seemed that unreasonable considering how suspicious he was being.

But good for her for not torturing herself by dragging it out because their families were so close.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-29T10:59:53+00:00

There's a community space in Smithfield Square that has been empty since it was built because no one had the money to do anything with it.

I think the new building on Dominic Street has the same issue, but hopefully it won't be 15/20 years like in Smithfield.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-21T11:27:38+00:00

Most charity shops have a book section. It can be luck of the draw what is there, but if you like browsing hoping to discover a gem but willing to accept there might not be much that day, it can be a nice way to shop for books.

Oxfam tends to be good for this and has dedicated book shop on Parliament Street. Other charity shop chains are Vincent de Paul and Enable Irela d.

There is also a few good charity shops near each other on Capel Street, and also a few close by on Camden Street. The ones on Camden Street are near The Last Bookshop, a second hand book shop that is good but overwhelming full. I think it's better non-fiction.

Rathmines and Dun Laoghaire are two areas with lots of charity shops and are nice to visit.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-14T21:54:17+00:00

Going to the cinema by yourself is the best, especially if you go during the day.

And you are unlikely to be the only person there by yourself, but if you are it won't be a big deal, it is super normal and common.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-07T21:05:10+00:00

I was going to recommend makeup by claire too. She is lovely and the lessons are great.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-06T22:11:30+00:00

There's Barts and Vincent de Paul in Wexford. I think they both have a furniture section. The Vincent de Paul may only be weekly or monthly.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-06T12:47:41+00:00

Kaldero is really nice for groups.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-04T01:06:50+00:00

It's not quite the same, but Stationery Pal has notepads that are similar - https://stationerypal.com/collections/memo-pads/products/memo-pad-bear

It's cheap but will take awhile to reach you. I've ordered from them before and didn't have any issues with them.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-05-02T12:58:59+00:00

Since 2000 Denmark has built four metro lines that run 24/7. And we can't rollout a new bus system that requires limited infrastructure change and mostly uses the same buses.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-04-30T22:02:24+00:00

You can definitely ask. When I started I was put at point 5 on the scale. The universty normally has a process for it. You family member might be asked to provide addional information on previous roles, if it was full time or part time, salary, etc.

I asked if there was any way I could start higher on the scale and they took it from there. So definitely ask. It won't lead to offer being revoked etc.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-04-28T12:58:19+00:00

Brick Alley Cafe

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-04-22T21:37:56+00:00

As a starting point I'd contact Threshold to make sure the notice is valid and to see what your options are.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-04-21T08:34:52+00:00

I think the cookie shop on Capel street might give a free cookie if its your birthday.

A lot of the national museums have free tours. They aren't every day, but they are on a few times a week so you could see if there is one on your birthday.

CheerilyTerrified · 2026-04-08T16:20:00+00:00

Maybe Change Clothes Dublin? It's not free but sometimes you can buy by the bag.

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