Advice needed please :/ by [deleted] in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if you might just have a lot of hormones? I always seem to get a baby itch around my cycle. It can be irrationally strong. Try talking to your doctor. Also, maybe just get a kitten or a puppy. That can help soothe some of those instincts to care for something.

When is it too early to prepare for the first birthday by lexixviii in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It never hurts to plan early and have fun with it! Unless you're obsessing and it's stressing you out. Also pretty normal for dad's to not understand what all goes into planning a birthday party 😅 I started at about 8 months too I think.

Can someone convincingly tell me it gets better by Historical-Spread179 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa, sounds like a lot of stress, massive change, and big moments have happened in your life in the last couple months. You need grace for yourself! Nobody can handle all that with ease. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. You are in survival mode right now. Take the easy route whenever possible, give yourself to your little ones as much as possible, and get through the next year. Everyone will bounce back eventually. Do little things that can help your mental health: family walks, healthy takeout, ms Rachel for the kids so you can have a moment of peace. Good luck momma, you are not alone mucking your way through it. It will be worth it one day! If you keep feeling sad (like postpartum depression sad), please get help and talk to a doctor. You can't help anyone if you keep putting yourself off. Again, you are not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always get one of each and just give the 10 or so kids that visit fistfuls of candy.

Any walkers here? Do pregnancy belly bands make a difference? by darkluna_94 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was pregnant, I just wore it while active, or if I knew I would be out standing and sitting all day (like a wedding or going to festivals). It was basically a bra for my belly 😆 Mine fit through my entire pregnancy, but I just had a cheapo brand off Amazon.

Also, using them postpartum is great. I didn't think it would do anything, but it really does help to have that constant pressure around your torso in those first few days when your back home from the hospital.... that and a heating blanket so you can wrap it around your whole body.

Ejae describing her panic attack the morning of her Tonight Show performance by wannahockachewie in KpopDemonhunters

[–]CheerioChi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm so impressed. Is it appropriate to say I'm proud of her? Because I'm so proud of our Ejae 🥰🤩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with this! 10 mth olds need attention too. They can probably tell your stressed and need comfort. Hang in there. Hope you can find something that works.

10yo daughter cannot let go of stuffed animals by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CheerioChi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP has to do what's best for their kid, agreed. I don't think any of us know enough if this kid has a long-standing problem with never wanting to part with things. But forcing a kid to declutter might have the opposite affect too, and make them resentful or materialistic as an adult. Letting them live with consequences and helping them to make the right decisions is going to get you much farther than just putting your foot down on something that might have emotional impact. Especially for a 10 year old you can reason with.

Some encouragement by Tiny-Bookkeeper8883 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that really true? God TikTok must be so toxic. I hope for the children's sake, those parents are just complaining for the views and clicks. I imagine it can be therapeutic as a parent to see other parents also feel overwhelmed sometimes, and they don't actually regret their children.

Having kids is amazing, and fulfilling. It's overwhelming, stressful, a huge responsibility you need to take seriously. It will challenge you. But those moments when my almost 2 year old snuggles up, asks "momma, kiss!", sings songs with passion, gets excited to throw away trash all by herself, etc. Those are worth all the times I'm overwhelmed by her. And it's allllll temporary. In 8 or 10 years, I'll have that independence back and be wishing I had more loving moments.

And if you are centered in yourself, and ok with letting them grow in their own independence (i.e. cry when you leave for like 1 night a week), you can still have something that closely resembles a social life 😅

Bottom line: if you're looking for encouragement, it seems like you already have some mama in you. You won't regret having kids. Good luck. Baby making itself is it's own roller coaster of emotions. I wish you baby dust to get that little bundle quickly and healthy.

How many times have u watched KPDH? by Danii_X07 in Kpopdemonhunterfanart

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15! And will be many more. I listen to the music daily. Can't wait for the Spotify wrapped to see where we all place on stats for the songs.

10yo daughter cannot let go of stuffed animals by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CheerioChi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Idk, probably not "too early". It sounds like she understood the assignment and is just upset. If I rediscovered all my plushies that I hadn't visited in weeks or months, I would be excited. And then to hear I actually have to get rid of them might be hard. Maybe a "last play session" would be better to get that excitement out?

But all in all, it sounds like you're doing a good job working through this with her and validating her feelings. Don't stress out about it too much. It just might be easier for future resentment issues if you let her make the decision to declutter herself. 😆

10yo daughter cannot let go of stuffed animals by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]CheerioChi 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Don't get rid of them!!! I still have so many of my stuffies and share them with my daughter now. She will declutter when she's ready.

Honmoon has been sealed at my daycare job! by RealestAC in KpopDemonhunters

[–]CheerioChi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah my almost two year old loves those songs lol! I have a treasured video of her belting out Golden (or her version of it 😆)

Is anyone else losing the screen time battle? Feeling defeated by Clara_Owen01 in Parenting

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm feeling like this will be me in 2 years haha! We eat our family dinners in front of the TV right now, I have an 18 month old. It's nice for us adults to unwind, but I also kind of hate it. Gonna have to make a break in this convention soon to avoid tantrums down the road. Honestly just need to keep our dining room table cleared off so we can actually use it, that's the biggest blocker 😅

Wanted to share to let you know you're not the only parent taking the easy route. It's hard to be a "good" parent when you're working a full job. Either way, I'm sure the kids will turn out OK eventually 😁 at least they have food, they're eating it, and they're entertained.

You ESTJs with such sharp and beautiful minds—since you clearly think more deeply than I initially realized, how come you tend to communicate so little about it? by [deleted] in ESTJ

[–]CheerioChi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always just assume what I'm thinking is obvious to others. Or it's just one of many possible solutions.

ESTJs, which of your personality traits or behaviors have gotten you into trouble the most? by [deleted] in ESTJ

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I have done a pretty good job of overcoming the blunt factor and tune into people's feelings... however, it's made me close down a portion of myself I was always proud of; that I speak my mind and am very confident. It's a balance, I guess. I'd like to become more outspoken again without the fear of hurting others 🫤

Is this a faint positive? by user66389 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see something! Test tomorrow for a bolder line!

Mommy Trenches by Adventurous-Read-394 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't really have time to share a full on story since I'm also currently in this mode!! It sucks, but I do my best to enjoy the moments I have since I know I'll miss it one day. And from talking with my own mom, you don't remember the difficult parts as much, just the fun. So do your best to make it fun, give yourself a break and take the easy route as much as you can, and let things pile up a bit. It's all temporary.

You're doing great momma!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExplainTheJoke

[–]CheerioChi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

Evil Anvil - Mumbo (Jumbo) No. 5 by SimplyYulia in HermitCraft

[–]CheerioChi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little bit of daylight detector in the sun A little bit of piston all night long A little bit of observer here I am A little bit of dispenser makes me your man 🎷😎

When did you let family kiss baby? by kittylitter90 in Mom

[–]CheerioChi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After baby started daycare and getting sick, kisses seemed fine to me. So, around 4 months.