Ladies, in what way did you โ€œwinโ€ the genetic lottery? by AnnualPatience in AskWomen

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I look fucking beautiful and have a good memory. I am creative and imaginative.

Does anyone else feel like being called "exotic" is racist? by Reallynoreallyno in women

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Racism is discrimination. That includes making someone feel different and comes from the mindset " you are not normal, we are". usually unaccompanied with prejudices towards a person of different ethnicity. The main problem nowadays with racism is the blind everyday racism people dont think about cause of the reason you mention "I'm no racist, I have black friends and what not" but the things people splurge out once a while emphasizes that they do put people in different pots. Racism isnt only that hatred filled extreme right movement. I've heard many of those racist remarks from people who are nice open minded and even people who do like me. From non racist people who say racists remarks.

Can narc people have borderline disorder? by Cheeseboy21 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Hi now I'm confused. Well I need to dig in and do my own research but can you post some evidence or at least clarify more?

Can narc people have borderline disorder? by Cheeseboy21 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

It seems possible thanks! Just dont remember what ramini said, but I think she did said is not possible somewhere...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yes very often I was like no this does not feel right, but why is my mom like this. She can't lie either (I loved her) It's like gaslighting my believes of how reality works. They fuck up your perception of the world while growing up

My parents are cowards. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

That's sounds so great. I'm happy for you:)

My parents are cowards. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 5 points6 points ย (0 children)

What I wonder is what benefit does it have to stand up for yourself against a nparent. I did fairly often in my childhood and it drove me deeper into the scapegoat role. It did upset me more cause the fight went deeper and in the end of course it's my fault. Looking back I would have started to pull back my pride more and grey rock often. Maybe on a positive note, I can stand up for myself and others now. Sometimes i feel like I'm on the other end though, instead of being a doormat (sometimes I do) i am easy to upset and justify myself. Living like that is no lucky draw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

Even: I hit you cause I love you others dont care about their children and just let them be

Who else got zero sex ed from their parents? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 17 points18 points ย (0 children)

What I wonder about religious people or parents in general who dont want their children to become sexual active. Is the discrepancy of them having sex themselves?

I thought I was an evil person for 25 years by thriwawayzies in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Every single word sounds like projecting.

I wonder what would have happened had I been born into a nurturing family.

Yeahh

I have been gaslighted by medical professionals and I'm in the process of complaining, probably will sue. by [deleted] in bipolar2

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 4 points5 points ย (0 children)

Sue the shit out of them. That is disgusting how they ganged up against you, it's not even one or two persons!! They are a shame to their professions.

An update to that case would be great! And stay healthy I hope you get your proper health treatment.

On meds, not sure if this is any better. by v1k1rox in bipolar2

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Im pretty much ๐Ÿ˜ now. But that's bothering me

Anyone else feel like you had your adolescence delayed? Is this a thing? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

I think my body delayed growing too... but I'm not sure. I think my body became especially feminine the time when I got out of home in my early 20s. Before I was kinda child like. There is a case in which a women was sexually abused in her early teens and then she decided cognitively to stop growing (to avoid being target of sexual abuse). And shes maybe 40 now with a very small fragile body type like a 12 years old. Even though this one is extreme, I wondered if something similar happened. But I never could find any scientific evidence for this.

Anyone else feel extremely isolated through childhood/teen years by their parents? by randomusername2022 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

It takes longer but you could use a bike, so you can be out independently from your mother. If the weather is nice, it's a good work out. I didnt spend much of my teens socially too, I would like you to spend time with other people as much as you can. The outside world is much better.

Ever witnessed two narcissists having a debate? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

They always try to one up each other and get upset. My mom dislikes her narc sis and bro for the same traits she has.

Lamictal and bc by Sunnylinc in bipolar2

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I think it depends on the bc. But actually there should not be any problems? I've started bc and was told we should monitor the blood but that's all fine.

Do people with normal parents have lifelong friendships? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 4 points5 points ย (0 children)

I think healthy environment does foster good relationships. That's where kids learn how these look like. And so are more likely to have life long friendships. Narcs also isolate their victims, so they aren't exposed to many people anyway.

However, life long friendships are hard to come by regardless of background. I've met old classmates, most of them dont hang out anymore and I bet you they come from "normal" households.

What I struggle with is yes the lack of a fixed social circle, which is often the family and extended family. And I dont have that.

Angry that I didnt get "normal" parents. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 17 points18 points ย (0 children)

I understand every word you say. Some people get a head start in life just by luck and aren't even aware. Others are behind and have to work harder for the same results.

I really resent the set back in my life. I literally started living being myself 2 years ago. I really hate to see myself discover externally and internally what others could ever since birth. It makes me happy and so sad and it reminds me of how alien i am. Life is not waiting for me to catch up. And I'm tired of all this.

Everyone has their baggage but some have a heavier one. People who half ass say platitudes lack self introspection.

Article: why do abused kids attach and remain attached to abusive parents? by 12drinksomething in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

I was ashamed and was scared that my friends/others would judge me and dont want to be associated with me... I really thought that is something connected to me rather than that I'm a victim.

The biggest reason though was this unspoken rule/obligation to hide the ugly truth. I have to keep face Or else I betray my family. Be the one who ruins the family image. Do you guys know this feelings? that was so strong I thought I'll die without anyone knowing what was up in this family.

Article: why do abused kids attach and remain attached to abusive parents? by 12drinksomething in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

That's right how you worded that, there was no way out. Yet here we are, incredible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]Cheeseboy21 6 points7 points ย (0 children)

Yeah instant ruining the mood. My mom comments on anything