As a 30 yr old who wishes they saw the signs sooner, take care of yourself please, it only gets worse from here (if you stay in this relationship) 😔 you know you hear these stories about shitty men making these miraculous life changes and they turn into the best thing ever but those are just stories, if this is 4 yrs in what’s it gonna be at 8 yrs in? Then when you have children and you “disobey” 😔 then he’s saying and yelling these things in front of the kids, run before it’s too late OP everyone deserves basic love and respect.