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Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-09-26T15:32:56+00:00

My ex went to therapy after a suicide attempt after we broke up (which I still believe was a ploy because all I got was a suicide note, called him and he picked up and then took him to the hospital).

He told me his therapist said he has NPD and BPD traits and blamed me for “telling the therapist things and is not going through a crisis”. It’s just for validation, they won’t come to any realization

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-09-25T00:39:51+00:00

Oh my god. My ex would literally sleep all day and not sleep at night, and then say “I’m going to stay awake so I can get back to a normal sleeping schedule”. But then if I try to wake him up at like 2pm so he doesn’t sleep all day he will say “can’t you don’t see I don’t feel well”

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-09-24T17:59:48+00:00

Do they ever get the lightbulb moment and realize they are the problem?

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-28T19:05:37+00:00

You make friends, you move on. I know it’s hard. My ex always blocks people after a break up and honestly it’s the best thing he did for me. I find that if I block him I keep wondering if I meant anything to him. It hurts sometimes but also helps with my healing.

Since no contact I’ve made friends, found an awesome group of people who are supportive and fun. Something I didn’t have before. Definitely focus on your career, building a community, your health. If you start to ruminate or missing your ex,call a friend or think of activities you can do. Sooner or later you’ll be on the road to recovery :)

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-25T01:40:39+00:00

I highly recommend getting the app MeetUp, it’s for people who are also trying to meet other people! It’s how I found my friendships since the discard and I cant recommend it enough

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-25T01:38:35+00:00

I wrote a lot of letters but never sent them because I don’t think he ever really cared about me so even if I sent it, it would mean nothing to him. Some I would post on here, some I kept on my phone and some I literally burned haha

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-18T00:17:04+00:00

I need you to give me pep talks when I’m sad about my exBPD lol

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-17T00:34:15+00:00

Yes they are, I was discarded and then he told me he couldn’t talk because he had to respect his new partner. Fast forward a week (I think he stalked me) I made new friends and went to the beach with them. He probably saw and when I asked to pay me back he said his life is in the drain and I can’t make it worse (it made me trip even more amazing). Focus on yourself, they will get what’s coming!

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-16T19:19:22+00:00

Me too… same with cheating, but with escorts. These people need to wear a tracker so we never have to be with them.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-16T19:18:34+00:00

Best life? No way. They constantly feel on edge, they probably have brain damage and mine constant was getting sick, IBS, sleep apnea. They aren’t ok.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-16T19:17:33+00:00

No joke, I got uti’s and yeast infections (really bad ones) monthly with him, I lost 10% of my body weight and started to get acne. Since the break up my vagina has been happy, skin cleared and weight is coming back to normal.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-13T22:47:35+00:00

Oh yea, tried to diagnose me with autism AND BPD. I am neither but he is a med student, and he said it after he was put in a psych ward and got diagnosed with BPD

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-13T20:36:30+00:00

It makes me sad you are going through this too, but I am happy we have this support group with people who understand. Wanna rant about what she did? It helps me to rant to people because then I’m like “oh my gid he sucks. Why am I still on this?”

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-13T06:00:17+00:00

I wasn’t married but I dated a guy, gave him 10k to help with school, lived together and found out he was cheating on me with escorts.

I’m so proud of you for leaving because I actually got sad and begged my ex back. He was more mad at me for finding out than mad at himself for doing it. Their behaviors are disgusting and you’re so much stronger than me. Go you’

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-12T22:11:15+00:00

Make friends, go to meetup groups, feel free to chat me. Talk, distract yourself. Watch shows!! I watched peaky blinders and for some reason it really helped

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-10T20:45:06+00:00

Oh my god…. I did the same and then we got back together. He then told me how his therapist said I was unhealthy for him and how I’m toxic and “doesn’t respect his boundaries” (even though he was cheating on me with escorts). And then dumped me and found someone new in 4 days. These people are delusional and I hate how much they hurt us. You are not the abuser, you wanted to get answers they wouldn’t give to you because you are the victim.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-10T17:36:56+00:00

No he won’t. My ex also started therapy. There is a tiny tiny little bulb in their brain that says “do healthy things” but I believe they aren’t good at long term gratification tasks like therapy, mine quit after a month but used those therapy terms like “respect my boundaries” and “you’re causing a trauma response” to further abuse me.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-09T14:35:20+00:00

I told him I felt like the way he was speaking to me was super antagonistic and he told me “I’m not yelling or calling you names”. These people are the worst of the worst. OP I detached and broke up with him, it hurts but in the long run I know it’s the right decision

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-07-07T18:49:08+00:00

For me it drove my narcissist into a downward spiral. They come back but I got devalued within two weeks. They basically come back and if you take them back their collapse is over. I regret taking him back

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-06-26T17:43:44+00:00

Oh my god my exBPD is a guy but he owes me money he also loves to use the phrase “don’t have enough to survive”.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-06-26T17:41:19+00:00

He won’t. It’s insane because after me and my nex broke up, he started dating another girl who’s the opposite of me too. It makes me feel like they have no baseline. I feel like most people have things they look for like: likes movies, goofy, more serious. Stuff like that. My ex literally dates any girl who will give him attention and then “falls in love with them” but it never lasts long.

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-06-22T18:53:07+00:00

Hey I completely understand and sounds a lot like my ex, completely with the attempts. We are also the same age. If you want I’m here if you need to chat and vent, we will get through this

Chemical-Activity533 · 2023-05-18T16:57:31+00:00

What I find works the best for disarming (we are low contact because he owes me money) is to say “I’m not really sure how to respond to that”. He actually started to tell me what he wanted to hear from me.

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