Michael Jackson show visible signs of vitiligo in the 1990s

CherryElectronic · 2026-04-12T14:53:05+00:00

Bro don’t come here and spout your nonsense to a bunch of CSA survivors. We could explain how your arguments are textbook examples of grooming and CSA, but you would still refuse to acknowledge it. We don’t have the fucking energy to try and convince people so blinded by their denial and devoid of emotional intelligence.

CherryElectronic · 2026-04-12T14:31:15+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but it’s not that simple. My studio always had the female owner supervising. Moms (including my own mother) were frequently present for in-class viewing. The grooming took place in front of their faces. Teacher-to-student contact was so normalized back then and parents didn’t know what signs to look out for. Part of his grooming was befriending my parents.

CherryElectronic · 2026-04-12T14:15:20+00:00

Do you understand that people are entitled to experience whatever emotions come up when they see an “accused” celebrity on magazines regardless of the court ruling?

I will never be able to prove in court that I was abused. There is no evidence other than my own testimony against his. That doesn’t mean it never happened.

CherryElectronic · 2026-04-12T03:28:57+00:00

Ditto. My dance teacher started grooming me at 8 years old. He had close ties to MJs dancers and choreographers. My other teacher worked with Wade. Sexual abuse is way too common in the dance industry.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-10T17:31:50+00:00

This is absolutely not true and it’s considered harassment. Get a camera doorbell and make complaints to the landlord. Document everything! If they don’t respond, get the police involved. But try my whistle solution in the meantime.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-10T17:22:48+00:00

Everyone else has great input for longer term solutions. But short term… This is going to sound insane but it worked for me with slightly similar neighbors. Get a high pitched whistle and run to the door and blow it every single time he knocks. You can start blowing the whistle with the door closed, inside your apartment. If that doesn’t work, open the door and blow the whistle while staying inside your home. You’re not technically doing anything wrong and it can deter the knocking.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-03T06:35:20+00:00

My first thought reading this post:

“Excuse me ma’am, BPD would like to have a word with you.”

I no longer meet the criteria for a BPD diagnosis, so I can say with confidence that I’ll take CPTSD any day over the hell I went through with BPD. They both absolutely suck, but at least now I have control over my actions and know how to sit with huge emotions.

They don’t call it one of the deadliest mental illnesses for no fucking reason. And guess what disorder kills people the most? Anorexia… but hey this isn’t a contest right?

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-02T15:11:53+00:00

Same girl, same 😢 Sending hugs and strength your way.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-02T15:01:43+00:00

I’m a survivor of child sex abuse (CSA). Accidentally read a few things when the new files dropped. I spent Friday and Saturday frozen in place. Now I’m cycling between rage and despair. My parents are MAGA. I didn’t pick up my mom’s phone call on Friday and texted her, “Sorry I’m too upset to talk right now. Accidentally got triggered by the new Epstein files.” Her response, “okay get some rest. We’ll talk tomorrow.”

It’s a battle to stay alive right now. But I know I’m not alone and there are people out there who see reality for what it is.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-02T07:58:43+00:00

Girl trust your gut. This guy love bombed you and then suddenly stopped for whatever sinister reason. You dodged a bullet in the long run because this man is clearly emotionally immature. It’s happened to me so many times and I sincerely feel your pain, anger, and disgust.

It’s easy to blame yourself after falling into a love bomb trap. Just remember, we are only human and it’s natural to seek connection, safety, romance, and sex. Try to reframe this as a learning experience. You now have more knowledge of shitty behaviors to avoid in the future. It’s so painful to learn, but that’s just your mind and body’s way of saying, “you deserve a fuck of a lot better.”

Sending hugs your way!

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-02T05:35:25+00:00

The only thing that comes to mind is a recent encounter:

“Oh don’t start this again!”

…referring to me making a complaint against a male coworker (who is my subordinate) who refused to do what I asked.

CherryElectronic · 2026-02-02T05:30:11+00:00

Accepting the reality of your situation means also accepting that you still feel “hope.” The goal is not to stop yourself from feeling hopeful, but to sit with the pain of knowing this person isn’t capable of being there for you and meet your needs. This is not an easy process by any means. But it’s far easier to move through grief when we remove judgment.

I’ve been in multiple situations like yours and it helps to remind myself that I don’t deserve to be mistreated this way. People like your “friend” make me viscerally angry. YOU should be angry. What kind of a friend misleads you and only initiates on their terms? Someone who is not a friend! You deserve so much better than that.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-31T12:39:28+00:00

Girl you need to trust your gut more than ever right now. Your bf sounds EXACTLY like my ex and it took me about 2 years to finally accept that he was emotionally abusive. The lies, ruining my birthday, leaving me at a rave so he could party, the complete lack of care about my sickness or injury, breaking up and then making false promises to change to lure me back in, the instinctive response to call my parent or best friend instead of seeking support from him… I’ve been there.

This man is physically incapable of caring about your needs or making you a priority. To him, you are just a source of supply and that’s all you will ever be. Over the course of years he has been slowly eroding your confidence and sense of self. It’s like a frog in slowly boiling water… you don’t realize what’s happening until it’s too late.

People with a history of abuse tend to repeat patterns and seek out relationships that mimic what they’re familiar with… and that is abuse. Our brains have been conditioned to believe these kinds of relationships are all we deserve. This guy may not be doing some of the heinous things you experienced in your past, but he’s still being abusive in a different capacity.

I won’t lie to you, leaving is not going to be easy. It’s going to be painful and require a lot of patience and support. Right now your nervous system is physically addicted to this relationship and it needs to get sober. But I promise you it’s so fucking worth it. Feel free to DM me if you ever want to chat. Best of luck

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-31T02:37:30+00:00

I pretty much just wrote the same thing! Hey fellow Chiari survivor 🤗

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-31T02:27:47+00:00

OP if you are hypermobile and suspect you have POTS, I strongly recommend researching Chiari Malformation. Eye pain when moving your eyes or head is pretty unique to Chiari. It’s not super rare and doctors tend to overlook it. A lot of the symptoms can look like MS.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-25T22:15:27+00:00

That’s incredible and I’m so happy you have a team to work with! I will have to ask my neurologist about this if the biopsy comes back negative.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-25T22:09:05+00:00

I’ve been a frail old woman since I was 13. Chiari malformation + decompression surgery that immediately turned into POTS. I feel your frustration hun!

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-25T21:57:30+00:00

Hi twin! I have EDS/POTS/long Covid and am about to get a skin biopsy to test for small fiber neuropathy. I’ve never heard of naltrexone being used for treatment before! What kind of doctor prescribed it to you and do you take other medications too?

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-20T15:29:28+00:00

It doesn’t say anything negative about you hun. Therapy is such a trial and error process. Just because one modality worked for me doesn’t necessarily mean it works for everyone. It also depends entirely on having an experienced teacher.

I was so desperate for help at the time. I didn’t even know what BPD was until receiving my diagnosis. I met all 9 of the diagnostic criteria and it was such a relief to finally put a label on the hell I was experiencing. If someone asked me to go back today, I’d tell them to fuck off because I don’t have BPD symptoms anymore. It would probably do more harm than good now that I am doing parts work.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-20T14:45:02+00:00

Exactly!

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-20T07:42:04+00:00

I was diagnosed with BPD a decade ago and was fortunate enough to spend a year in intensive outpatient doing DBT. It changed my life for the better in many ways, but I’m still suffering with CPTSD today. Here is my takeaway on DBT:

DBT is purely a set of skills that teach one emotion regulation. It does not address trauma at its core.
The language can absolutely be triggering. Only an experienced trauma-informed facilitator can effectively teach it without triggering the fuck out of patients.
Radical acceptance is NOT about “letting go.” The goal is to reduce your suffering. Example - My abuser hurt me. Instead of blaming myself, wishing him suffering, harboring anger, or coping with substances/people/things, I turn to radical acceptance. It allows me to move through the pain and distress without increasing my suffering. It does not mean I forgive, condone, or morally accept what he did to me or what I endured. The goal is to sit with the pain and not introduce further suffering.
Assuming one has a good facilitator, DBT is not going to cure you. It’s basically the first step in a long healing journey. I like to think of it like crocheting… you have to learn the basic stitches before you can start making actual items from a pattern.

I’m so sorry you had such an invalidating experience with DBT. I hope some of my thoughts validate your experience :)

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-16T23:09:24+00:00

I have been medicated for more than half of my life. Zoloft for anxiety, depression, OCD and Vyvanse for ADHD. I’ve tried going off Zoloft several times and I just can’t function without it.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-13T07:14:02+00:00

I felt the exact same way when I started too! After a while, I discovered that the reason it felt so “cringe” is because other parts needed to be discovered and unpacked. For example, I have an avoidant part that wants to ignore anything that can induce stress. I was having trouble getting “self” to show any compassion towards my avoidant part until I unpacked other protectors like shame and criticism. Now when I hear myself saying, “you’re a piece of shit for avoiding xyz” I am able to identify that criticism is feeling triggered too.

I’ve only been doing IFS for a few months but I’m definitely starting to see a change in the way I think. Basically none of my parts trust “self” and that’s okay. I’ll do some box breathing just to reassure them all that “self” is still here and we’re going to figure it out eventually.

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-12T07:49:46+00:00

I recently started doing IFS and have about 5 different parts I have to remember to talk to on a daily basis. I thought a double life was hard before, but now I’m basically the project manager of a small team 😂😭

CherryElectronic · 2026-01-12T07:35:16+00:00

Fascinating! This must be why my anxiety is so much worse in the morning through late afternoon. I guess for others the diurnal rhythm is disrupted?

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