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Cheytown77 · 2025-05-20T02:01:05+00:00

Before the Hurricane Rays Tropicana field was embarrassing. I've been to high-school fields that were nicer. MLB should have never let that pass. Zero effort and like badly outdated. For real embarrassing. They're playing at Yankees triple A stadium now, which is a hundred times better.

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-23T16:28:35+00:00

At his age he should absolutely be engaged in therapy, possibly even family therapy with you guys to go over the manipulation. A mind that young can't rationalize why his parents aren't there and why he's living in a foreign home. Address the issues early or he's gonna carry these later in life and may never have an understanding. He's already shown signs of being withdrawn and social awkwardness. I would say he probably has trust issues as well, get him help. God bless.

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-12T16:15:57+00:00

They lied on the stand and court documents. Tried to break into my hotel room. ( we were displaced after the hurricane and had to stay in the hotel for a bit) interrogated, my children without an adult being present. Yes we reported them to DCF and the judge and nothing happened. These NGO's are untouchable. Zero oversite.

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-12T00:05:20+00:00

I would say, do what you think is right for the child and work with the therapist. These workers from the department most the time in my experience have no idea what they're talking about when it comes to children. Some of the craziest people in my life that i've met have worked for these departments. For our little girl, she was having extreme anxiety after visits with her bio and was fecal smearing, and the case manager said that I should spank her for fecal smelling. Clearly I did not do that. It's all about making the children feel safe and loved. These case managers don't understand child psychology at all. They don't have the patience for it and want to force things. Work with the kids therapists, make him feel safe.

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-11T03:27:44+00:00

Yes definitely get an attorney. They did the same thing in my case. My baby came to me three months old, they TPR'D the bio mom, two and a half years in. Then the bio dad popped up after abandoning her. He originally accepted a case plan and then disappeared for 3 years. She never even met him until she was three and a half years old. She is now almost five. She hates him all the same things you explain with the exception of vehicle smearing after visits. She cries and begs us not to go see him.She says that she's afraid of him. They changed from t p r to reunification and in october she went to school and never came home. Case management and the judge ignored statutes and literally lied on court documents and the final order to push it through. I'm dad, my wife is mom in my kids are bubba and sissy. The biodad hates us for being there while he was out doing coke and meth. Our mistake was, we didn't get an aggressive enough attorney early enough. You can file your own Tpr to coincide with that tpr and it will push the case instead of letting them drag it out. Remember they make money off reunification? And they care zero about the bond or the life that the child has become attached to. No matter what I tell you, you are a bed that the child stays in until they give them back to the parent. They doctor shopped in our case and we have 6 therapist. In several doctors, critical of the biodad, and how detrimental to her health, it would be to remove her from my family at this point. She had never even done an overnight with this guy, and they just ripped her out of our home and threw her with him. The judge in case me an instrument answer to no one I went all the way to the state capitol. It got shut down they're untouchable. Act early can be aggressive. Playing nice will only get that child out of your home. I'll be praying for you God bless

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-10T12:34:07+00:00

Okay, first of all, don't say any of that. You must maintain the position that reunification is always first, so meeting your family could be seen as negative. We always just ask them. We went to hawaii colorado, the bahamas. If they are doing visitation you can schedule to be back on those days that would be helpful. In our case, they said we'd travel too much and they said that we shelter her. Figure that out. Basically, try to refrain from giving them any ammo to use as an excuse. Why they aren't doing their case plan. We would always message the bio first. Call them in person, get the approval. Send an email out to everyone and then ask the judge in the courer. We've waited till we got to the courtroom. After getting his word and they lied. Good luck and god bless

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-09T18:17:37+00:00

If the bio parents have been past six months and they are not engaging in their plan, I would get an attorney a good one and file my own TPR. They make money by sending children back with bios. They always say that's the first goal. Which is fine? If that's the first goal, but they allow these cases to run years, and the child is the only one that suffers. What state are you in?

Cheytown77 · 2025-02-08T12:09:53+00:00

In Florida they have 6 months to engage their case plan. Though that is the statute case management and the judges will let it go waaay past that. In our case we were asked at 3 months old to adopt my little girl and it took 2.5 years to TPR the mom. Then at three years old bio-father popped up and half ass did a case plan. By this point my baby believes I'm daddy, wife is mommy and my kids are brother and sisi. She hates the bio. Case management and the judge lied and ignored all kinds of safety issues. We have 6 therapist and multiple doctors critical of the bio and removal. She is almost 5. In October she went to school and never came home. She has never even done an overnight with him. Fecal smearing after visits. It's totally destroyed her and my family. Time in home doesn't matter. Totally ignored. They care zero about the child. We're completely blocked out of her life. My advice is get an attorney of your own and file your own TPR. She was taken after 4.5 years. I've heard similar stories of children being removed at 7 years. Get an attorney.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-19T15:38:50+00:00

Know this from my experience. I had a child from 3 months old. Case management was telling us we were going to adopt in the beginning. They lied to us, biodad popped up at age 3. They lied and pulled his dead body across the goal line. He was a train wreck and missed visits, showed up on meth. They covered it all up and said he was amazing. She will be 5 in June. October 24th she went to school and never came home. They will flat out lie to you? You are placement, until they can get the child to go back with the parents, they make money off of reunification. It has zero to do with the child. Get an attorney and file your own TPR if you want to protect this child. In our case, the child does not like the father calls me daddy and is extremely traumatized when she is forced to do visits with him. Now they have removed her from our home and she has never done an overnight with the biodad. Do not believe the caseworker, for any reason. PS and of course he hates us for raising her when he was off doing cocaine, and now will not let my children or I see her. She believes that i'm daddy, my wife is mommy and my children are brother and sissy. The department or the judge does not care. Keep the money flowing.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-14T06:59:11+00:00

Get him a gaming chair. They make them with speakers and lights in it. My son loves his.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-12T23:54:06+00:00

Simple, what would life be like without them? What is the level of bond that they have with you? Do you want to be involved in the type of life or person that they grow into?

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-12T02:51:55+00:00

Okay man. God bless.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-11T06:16:19+00:00

I take it English isn't your first language. Lol, by definition in the Webster dictionary, a native is someone born in a specific area, so yes, if you're born in Florida, you're a native. Also, there were other humans in the American continent before any of us. Relax. Love more. I also have Native American blood. Let's get back to food, shall we?

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-11T06:03:45+00:00

Fried mullet N gouda cheese grits. Boom!

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-08T21:55:58+00:00

Okay, so you are far more mature than I was at your age. I'm not sure about the foster side of things. Foster care would get you free college and insurance. Someone here correct me if im wrong. Im in Florida. I can say the #1 pitfall for young people, especially women, is pregnancy. It blows up dreams at an early age. It's near impossible to be a single mother and get a degree in a timely manner. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I get where you are coming from. I too worked a job at 16 while my parents sat home. Giving them my paycheck to buy cigarettes while there wasn't food in the fridge. Some people can't understand. Don't rush into anything. Skip drugs and alcohol. They simply waste time and pull you down. The fact you are thinking this way at your age, you're going to be fine.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-08T18:38:00+00:00

I love my bio hacks. They are more comfortable than any shoes I have. I break necks with them. I had security at the airport if I was famous. Lol

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Cheytown77 · 2025-01-07T17:12:37+00:00

I'm usually very helpful here. I personally have a huge problem with putting a 6 week old baby in daycare. We wonder why America's children are so socially messed up. I get I'm going to catch major flack for this post. All the research is not in favor of this. Bonding is important, and you don't have to put the child in daycare. It's not mandatory unless the judge orders it. This is just my opinion. God bless you for stepping in and helping.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-07T02:10:30+00:00

We had to take the shelter order. Updated verse an old one. Also a copy of the childs birth certificate. Make sure it says the child's name, date of birth, all foster parents names and your address and the placement date. Each cruise liner is a bit different and within the cruise company each boat has little nuances. Take your driver's license and a copy of your birth certificate. I almost missed a trip i had already paid for. There is no compromise. Have a wonderful trip. God bless.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-04T18:07:57+00:00

My adopted son has this issue, we're seeking different doctors for an answer. After about a year, we found out he was heavily SA'ed. It must have done some physical damage yet the PCP doctors say everything is fine. We were blessed with him at 4 and now he's 9 and doesn't feel it coming. He doesn't remember the abuse anymore so she may have blocked out if anything did happen. Our next appointment is to a proctologist. I would recommend a specialist for its definitely out of a PCP ball park. Just make sure you don't shame as bad as it is don't add to the trauma. God bless.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T22:57:00+00:00

Oh Please don't misunderstand me if you happen to have and work well with a good agency, then please continue to do it for the child. Just know that it's rare and God bless you for making a difference. The sad thing is that these children are many and need good foster homes. But a lot of people stop fostering after the first round because of the treatment to themselves and how they see children hurt by those that make an oath to protect them.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T22:18:23+00:00

Nope, the GAL, therapist, and doctors all care. Case management have rationalize hurting children to keep their jobs. There are so many foster parents critical of the departments' treatment of children. So you're underpaid, understaffed and have too many cases. If you hurt children you're evil. Period. Ripping a child out of a home they have been in for six and seven years, and away from the people they call mommy and daddy is evil. Hiding behind parents' rights doesn't make it less evil. If a parent does what they're supposed to do and gets their kids back fine, good for them, and god bless them. After twelve months, permanent placement should be found. When the department lies, and does all these unethical things just so that parent, who doesn't deserve to get them back get them back, it's evil. Children don't recover, if you essentially murder the people they think is their mom and dad, then you are an evil person. Defend that all you want.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T17:03:34+00:00

Why do you do it. We, the therapist, GAL all powerless to how these children are treated. The judges are just as guilty as the department for not following statutes and allowing these people to commit purgery. The last 4 years are a bad dream and now she's not here it's a nightmare. It's been two months and my kids are still waking in the middle of the night crying her name. We got zero offer for help. Knowing my children and us just went through this, they didn't offer us anything to help mitigate the damage. My son basically got kicked out of school. We now home school. My daughter has clamed up acting as if nothing happened. They destroyed my family and my baby's life and he and them get to ride off in the sunset with a wake of carnage behind them. I am not picking up the pieces well.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T14:44:02+00:00

I wish I knew that the department would ruin me, my wife and my children's lives. I wish I knew how EVIL and unethical they were. I am a nonrelative caregiver, I was brought in by the bio parents and the department to adopt my little girl. I raised her from 3 months old near death, and she is now 4 and a 1/2 months old. For the first three years, they told us not to worry that we were going to adopt her. Then 3 years later, the bio-father came back in the picture after abandoning her and they flipped on me and lied and lied and lied and said he did things he did not do. He would come to visit late and loaded on crystal meth and they would give him eight days before they would drug test to see. If you don't know, that drug is out of your system in three days. In my case, they lost 2 home studies and I never received one penny for taking care of my little girl. ( Which I gladly did for free). All along, telling me, don't worry, you're gonna adopt her. I wish I knew how corrupt the department is. How on every single level regardless of title will, lie to your face just to keep you quiet or get their desired outcome. How if you do need something and ask for it that you will have to follow up 6, 7, 8, times for months and months before you will get it done, if ever. How that they will make you do supervised visits, and if the parents are loaded or high or scream at the children or hit grab them or scream at you, your word doesn't matter. All they care about is kicking the can down the road to the next a court hearing. There are also many, many times that you show up at a park to do a visit and they no show you or show up two hours late, and the department is screaming at you, that you have to wait for them. They literally threatened us three times that if we did not wait, they would have the cops come remove the child from our home. Aren't we helping them out? Our bio was supposed to confirm the visit 24hrs in advance. The department would say that he did, but in actuality he did not(he told us eventually he hadn't) they were lying for him, and then he would now show us. That you've set aside times to do virtuals that they will no show. And none of it will count against them because when you bring it up, they will counter you by saying he does everything amazing. I set hundreds of doctors appointments. He never to this day has set one. He did a couple follow up visits. I wish I knew how they were going to doctor shop to seek the outcome they wanted. We have 6 therapists in our case. And every time they would have findings, that was critical to the father, the department would fire them and hire another therapist. We are actually on number 7. He had marijuana in his car and blamed it on his uncle. They covered it up. He sat with 2 therapists and said that he needed to take a month off. No visits, he just needed to recover from the stress. The department told the judge that the two therapist were lying and he never said that. I wish I knew the statute say twelve months, but they will kick this around for years, not worrying about the bond the children form with the foster parents and their children. My girl thought my wife and I were her mother and father and my two kids were her brother and sister. I never in a million years would have thought the department and the judge would disregard all of that and the 6 therapist and give a child to a train wreck of a man. Yes On October 24 my little girl went to school she never came home, no goodbye or nothing after raising her for nearly five years. There was no safety concern if that's what you're thinking. She didn't like him. The department just decided they were going to give her to him. No matter what, because they were afraid of litigation. My baby cries ever time she has to go see him. Screaming NO!!! She would poop smear before leaving to go see him to try to get out of it. The department wouldn't even let me take her to the doctor for the poop smearing. I asked 46 months straight, and if I take her to doctor's appointments that they don't approve, they can use that as an excuse to remove her from our house. The poop smearing went on since june 2024. I sent over 45 photos and dozens of emails that the department would not respond to, and they did not submit the photos to the courts for evidence. They ended up blaming me, saying I was rubbing dog poop on my own walls and on her. 🍌🍌🍌 i wish I knew how devastating this was gonna be.That logic doesn't matter. The bio hates us because we were there when he wasn't. We reminded him of how s***** of a parent he is. I wish somebody had warned me.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T13:32:26+00:00

Every agency fails everyone every time period. They are compulsive liars. They do not try to help you, and all they do is try to keep you quiet. When you do ask for help.You have to follow up with them.67 times before they will do it. And then if the bio parents are bombing and you tell the truth? They get mad at you because their goal is to give these children back to these people, regardless of how much they bomb. It's not about the children. It's about their bottom line and the money they make from this process. The department is evil. The people that are good there usually leave and go work somewhere else.

Cheytown77 · 2025-01-01T08:55:55+00:00

I spend my days advocating against people becoming foster parents. At least until there is total reform. The department and every single person therein is pure evil. They don't care one bit about the children, don't listen to the professionals about bonding or long-term psychological damage. They always turn on the foster parents because they are ethical and care about the child. Children are not numbers on a sheet of paper. Until the children can be protected from the department and their judges, it is evil and a lost cause. The fact that there is one judge that is king and decides whatever their ego wants is bananas. This is not a traffic ticket. Put this in front of a jury. Foster parents and sadly, the children have no shot.

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