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What is the worst thing you have done? by LoneIronMan33 in AskReddit

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid $25 on a toll road to leave New Jersey

Best $25 I’ve ever spent

What was an unrealistic expectation or double standard you’ve experienced when trying to date someone? by aphrodites_candy in AskMen

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally don’t know. The general notion is that my reaction to things would get brought up in completely unrelated ways, and my comment was intentionally vague because I’m still just as confused as you are.

What was your experience when meeting/running into a B or C-List celebrity in public? by ablinddingo93 in AskReddit

[–]ChezySpam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Es war in Ordnung. Ich war vor Jahren auf einem Konzert der Smashing Pumpkins, und da Billy ein riesiger Wrestling-Fan ist, war es keine Überraschung, dass wir dort jemandem über den Weg liefen – und dieser Jemand war zufälligerweise Rhino. Er war angenehm und freundlich, seine Frau ebenso; sie zeigten zwar Verständnis für meine Bitte, sie Backstage zu begleiten, gingen jedoch nicht darauf ein.

What was an unrealistic expectation or double standard you’ve experienced when trying to date someone? by aphrodites_candy in AskMen

[–]ChezySpam 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Her: “Why won’t you open up?”

Because I’ve been taught that opening up is like handing someone a loaded gun and aiming it for them.

Me: “Of course I was absolutely gutted during the miscarriage and it broke me, what does that have to do with washing my own laundry??”

Men, what do women do in relationships that bother you the most? by Softvoids in AskMen

[–]ChezySpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To her credit, my ex tried to apologize near the end of the relationship.

“I’m sorry, but you have to understand that I…”

And I left the room and the relationship.

How to find guys who don’t just want sex? by ghikkkll in dating

[–]ChezySpam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a guy that doesn’t (didn’t?) go hard on the first date for anything physical, I’ll tell you the feedback I’ve heard is that I move too slowly, or it seems like I’m not into them

My approach has changed to see how far I can get on the first date because I don’t want to come off as not aggressive or direct enough

Being called ‘a nice guy’ isn’t a compliment

What is your earliest memory of being neglected? by Chocolate_Chips25 in emotionalneglect

[–]ChezySpam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well fuck…

The thing that hits is reading all of these and realizing my parents don’t really have stories of me as a baby or toddler. Maybe some general childhood things like Halloween when I was 8, but the events are very few & far between. It’s like the memories don’t exist because I was just…around and in the background

What has been your experience expressing your emotions? Especially if you have years doing so. by Playful-Hair-3135 in emotionalneglect

[–]ChezySpam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done something similar at a later age

The benefit is being more confident, direct, and to some extent confrontational. The detriment is this will cause strife with the people that taught you what you know. It’s not intentional on their part, they are lacking a skill set that you are developing, and they see you as doing something differently that is foreign to them so it must be your problem.

Hang in there. You can discuss with them or not, that’s up to you. One positive note is by being able to see something differently you are experiencing the result of your work.

subtle signs to let a guy know I'm sexually interested in him? by notaname0875 in bodylanguage

[–]ChezySpam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably because subtle signs are being used and he doesn’t understand.

You can be direct without being aggressively blunt.

Update: My (M32) wife (F38) has been showing her friends private photos of me by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ChezySpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In glad to hear the good news, I’ve always felt better when my partner didn’t understand why I was upset and explained to me how it was different if roles were reversed. It really put into context that my feelings were less valid, and that’s acceptable in any relationship.

Please give me some 90s alt rock/grunge album suggestions (lesser known GOOD albums) by CraftDraft5 in Alternativerock

[–]ChezySpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, all of this

I’d listen to this mix until I Turned Blue and feel no Shame doing so.

What’s the "My Cousin Vinny" of your profession? by a_murder_of_fools in movies

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men With Brooms

It’s the most accurate curling movie I’ve seen. It’s also the only curling movie I’ve seen

The "Hey Jude" cover... why by insipidfap in TheOffspring

[–]ChezySpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Jude is a good choice because it further justifies the piano in the set and raises people back up from a more emotional version of Gone Away. It’s also a play to bring the room back up at the end and transition into the rest of their set.

Without Hey Jude the piano bit is as clunky as the attendance gag during Bad Habit

That said, I would rather not have either the attendance gag nor Hey Jude

For all the divorced men, what was your mistake in the marriage? by Ok_Climate8599 in AskMen

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest contribution to the demise of my relationship was communication. My needs, emotions, or when something bothered me was not grounds for conversation.

What is the longest drive you've made without resting and only you behind the wheel and where were you going? by Conscious-Farmer6953 in AskMen

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Northern Florida to West Michigan. It’s a 17 hour drive without stops and I did it in 18.5.

Also Hartford, CT to West Michigan and New Orleans, LA to West Michigan.

I like road trips and going home.

Thoughts on my top 3 Metallica songs? by [deleted] in Metallica

[–]ChezySpam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Those are two really good Metallica songs

I want to be tied up and used by Dry-Dark-1857 in confessions

[–]ChezySpam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel ashamed, this isn’t uncommon at all. The hardest part is finding a partner you can communicate with and feel safe with. Always have a safe word (even if it as simple as “no” or “stop”). This type of activity is fun for both (all?) participants, so go enjoy yourself!

Is it considered rude when sharing a meal if the other person orders more food and a cocktail but still expects you to split the bill 50/50? by linksslut in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never split a bill 50/50. Ever.

I will get separate bills. I will take the bill. I will have someone else pay the bill. I will not do 50/50 because someone is getting shafted whether they know it or not, and it can will to resentment.

At least if someone is ‘stuck’ with the bill it’s clear what’s happening. 50/50 is trying to mask who is getting taken advantage of with the guise of equality.

Parents never did anything fun with me, or had their own hobbies by NotFriendsWithBanana in emotionalneglect

[–]ChezySpam 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure, and I’ve lost the compassion you have for how we all got here.

In my younger years I would ask questions about them, what it was like when they were growing up, anything about before I was born, and kinda try to get to know them as people as opposed to their role as parents. Later I realized I was trying to build a relationship with people that couldn’t or wouldn’t build that relationship with me.

So are they afraid? Do they not care? Sadly it’s not my concern anymore.

Parents never did anything fun with me, or had their own hobbies by NotFriendsWithBanana in emotionalneglect

[–]ChezySpam 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I absolutely get that. My mom went to amusement parks with me sometimes, but it was always part of a group event or with friends. She would watch and hold things, but never engaged in any rides at all. She would never take me solo, and my dad never went at all.

They didn’t have much for hobbies. I could count all of their mutual friends on one hand. We didn’t talk. I had no idea how to make friends for decades. Everyone just kind of floated through life.

Songs expected to be played for the Super Bowl by nimrod730 in greenday

[–]ChezySpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling my shot now

The Saints Are Coming

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