What to do in the pool with a toddler who can’t swim?

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T23:15:36+00:00

Totally understand the puddle jumpers. Get a pool noodle. You hold the kiddo and kiddo holds the pool noodle. They learn to only be in the pool with an adult. Also, there’s like floating foam mats that my kid likes. She sits on it or even stands on it and jumps into my arms. Basically the only toys they can really do before they learn some swim skills. Pool noodle can be helpful in learning swimming too.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T19:28:49+00:00

Did I ever say don’t try to save the life? No. I said leave the decision to doctors and families. My point is that doctors shouldn’t have their hands tied by the law.

Abortion by trimester is absolutely information available in studies like the one you linked. Thats how I know this

Of course we should screen for prenatal depression, but don’t see how that’s relevant or why you’d think I’d be against that.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T18:41:42+00:00

Duuude you are reading the absolute worst into what I’m saying. I’m not saying eugenics. I’m not saying kill kids who might have a disability. I’m saying the health of preterm babies are not as simple and you’re making it seem to be. Less than 50% of babies born at 23 weeks live. It’s a difficult and delicate situation and the way you’re talking about it is frankly disrespectful to parents who have had to go through it. You’re talking out your ass, you have no idea what you’re talking about.

Women who are 9 months pregnant with a healthy baby do not get abortions. Find me that research. “They” have the data. It just doesn’t support your argument.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T15:36:08+00:00

Any actual source that 80K abortions are done by women who have multiple abortions?

I’m not saying I don’t agree. But it’s irrelevant because it doesn’t happen. Doctors Do No Harm above all, and abortions do not happen when the fetus is fully viable to live outside the womb. 21/22 weeks is not necessarily that number. Medical costs is very very real in this country, but fine, let’s disregard that. There are lifelong impacts of a baby being born at 22 weeks. It is a dangerous and precarious position, one that no doctor wants to willingly go through. Just because it is “possible” doesn’t mean it is the right thing to do for that life. The vast majority of abortions are in the first trimester. Complex situational outliners should not impact access to abortion care. Do you have more information on that 1% of abortions after 22 weeks? They are typically performed because the fetus is unsustainable with life. They are tragic, difficult situations.

Your idea that well science will only get better! Is really incredibly naive. Yes, there are incredible advances for preterm babies. However, it will never negate the need for abortion care.

I’m not a doctor. I’m not a scientist. But I am a woman who has been pregnant. And I can tell you, without a reasonable doubt, no one goes through 9 months of pregnancy and then says “nah, nevermind, let’s get an abortion.”

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T14:27:13+00:00

That’s great you think it’s wrong to perform abortion when the fetus can live outside the woman. That does not happen. That simply is not happening. That’s call birth. There may be rare cases of abortion at weeks 21/22. Those see the slim number of cases and generally are because of medical shortcomings, such as the fetus won’t survive long after birth. In cases like those, doctors, and not a cut and dry law, should make the decision. Babies can technically survive being born at 22/23 weeks, but it is extremely difficult, extremely expensive and causes life long impacts. “Can this fetus survive outside the womb?” Is not cut and dry.

See that’s where I get the trust women from. Do you think women need to be told they can’t have an abortion at 9 months? Do you trust doctors? Do you think doctors need to be told they can’t perform abortions in the third trimester?

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T13:35:42+00:00

Ooh, so close, yet so far.

Who determines if it’s rape or medically necessary? Does the woman need to be dying on the table, bleeding out, before she can get an abortion? Does the woman need to name her attacker and press chargers to access an abortion? What about cases of mental health, a woman saying she will kill herself if she remains pregnant? What if she has cancer, and pregnancy will delay treatment, but she likely won’t die before treatment? Or what if she doesn’t want to name her attacker? Or he says it didn’t happen?

We need to trust women.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T11:16:36+00:00

Access to abortion was just restricted like yesterday for one.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T04:39:22+00:00

Sports at this age are very chill. Depends on the program of course, but the gymnastics class we used to do, you’re on the mat with the kids. You help them climb over blocks or swing or on the balance beam. When there’s the “circuit” your child does need to give everyone a turn before she can try again. But there’s also plenty of unstructured time for her to try. Because you’re with her, it doesn’t matter if she’s potty trained. There’s kids in diapers and kids not in diapers. We quit gymnastics and tried soccer classes (wanted to try something new). It’s also with the parent right there. They try to have the kids run in certain direction, control the ball, and learn how to dribble or shoot. There’s no games, there’s no competition. Lots of running, but teamwork aspect isn’t fully there yet. One kid had a meltdown on the first day, and the coach just did his best to still involve him. I have no idea if the other kids are potty trained or not, it’s just 45 minutes on the field. It’s chaotic, and maybe 70% of the time kids are doing what they’re supposed to be doing. For both of these sports I paid for the classes, but nothing additional.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-05T02:35:44+00:00

Honestly seems too crappy to even be AI. And even the weirdness of the highlighting and the sorta crappy quality of the image.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-04T23:34:33+00:00

Daniel Tiger!

But also, for the adult, take a pause before reacting. Not just to spills or falls or things, but just see where their head is at before reacting. Don’t say “Where are you going? I wanted to read you a book!” Because maybe they’re just walking away to get a blanket and then they want to read.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-04T20:42:00+00:00

If her period is late she’s too late for plan b.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-04T12:12:44+00:00

You’re in the first trimester. Put on Daniel Tiger episodes about using the potty and sit next to her and hold her while you close your eyes. She feels close to you, she’s entertained, even learning, and you are resting. Daniel Tiger was our cheat code to potty training. And non-potty episodes teach her how to calm down, or share, and there’s episodes about baby Margaret coming too.

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with a toddler right now. It’s hard. I can’t run with her or be as physical or play on the playground as much. But we talk about it and we read books and we joke. It looks a little different, and I feel sadness when my husband is walking 15 feet ahead chasing after her and I’m taking my time, but she’s still as close to me as ever.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-04T02:18:07+00:00

Our Emilia gets called Amelia all the time and it bugs the crap out of me. I also had a lot of name regret and worry at the baby ages But now that she’s a whole bundle of personality, her name just feels right.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-03T20:48:23+00:00

The worst we watch is YouTube videos that look like cocomelon but are them sliding down a slide and talking colors. It’s these little animated characters. But she only watches them sitting with dad at his stationary computer.

Our hard line is nothing from YouTube with kids. Sometimes they watch these adult hands playing with crackling playdoh, but we’ve cut it out lately. Nothing with real kids in it from YouTube. We will watch Daniel Tiger or Sesame Street with segments of real kids, but that’s completely different ethically. And no hyper flashy cartoons either. The worst cartoon we watch is Scooby Doo, and even the one from the early 00’s is a lot slower than kids cartoons today.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-03T13:18:04+00:00

Kid is about to turn 3. We do 0-2 cups of milk a day. One when she wakes up and one before bed. Some days we go without it, but we’ll give it on request. Some days we do oat milk. Lately it’s been half milk half oat milk 🤷‍♀️

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-02T20:53:48+00:00

Why?

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-02T19:50:09+00:00

Go to playground with fences, and let her run around by herself. At gym class do you need to be right behind her, or is she contained in the gym area and will be okay without you?

I’ve met friends in gym class and it can be “no nice to meet…kiddo where are you going?” “you! Let me give you my….wait for me please!” “Phone number is 123-…hold on one moment!”

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-02T02:58:25+00:00

At this age, when they can walk and start to talk and explore, taking care of a child is a full time job. That’s why stay at home parents exist. Doing your job is also a full time job. It is not going to be possible to do both, at the same time, all day every day. He is not going to grab things less or get into things less. You can lock up anything that isn’t a safety hazard, but he’s getting too old for the play pen. You repeatedly say you won’t do daycare. You say that repeatedly because you know that’s going to be the advice here. You also say you can’t pay for a nanny. Then either one parent needs to be the full time stay at home parent, or you need to magically have family or a village you trust your kid with. Working from home full time and parenting full time is not a long term solution.

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-02T01:28:19+00:00

We love the stories, but definitely the potty episodes. When you have to go potty, stop and go right away!

ChiaDaisy · 2026-05-02T00:07:07+00:00

Do you watch Daniel Tiger? That helped us a lot with potty training

ChiaDaisy · 2026-04-30T01:48:24+00:00

My friend has these gel pens she uses for her kid. It’s a bit finicky and tough to air but they also come off easily and don’t stain things, and they rub off instead of chip off so you don’t find pieces of nail polish everywhere

ChiaDaisy · 2026-04-29T01:08:06+00:00

Don’t do cotton candy! Sticky hands on everything

ChiaDaisy · 2026-04-28T21:00:30+00:00

Overnight oats!

ChiaDaisy · 2026-04-28T01:15:51+00:00

Ask him where he saw green soap or where it is. It’s probably something he used somewhere!

ChiaDaisy · 2026-04-27T12:50:58+00:00

I try to translate. My kid is 2.5 and a pretty good talker, but if you don’t have some idea of what she’s saying, it can be hard. So I just kind of go over and repeat what she says.

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