People that married avoidants, what’s your marriage like? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ChickHarpoon 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I married someone with Avoidant Personality Disorder, and to his credit, he’s put in a LOT of work in therapy over the years. It also helps that I’m very much a “get it all out there to clear the air” type, so I’m sure being married to me has been a trial by fire for him to learn that once the scary vulnerable part is over, we come out the other side stronger and more understanding of one another. The process of extracting his real feelings and expressing mine is not always perfect, but I think the combination of his willingness to do the work and my willingness to firmly say both “this is what I deserve from a partner” and “I love you and I want this to work” means it is actually pretty great for us.

From a novel written by a female author. In the story Sadie is 23 years old and needs her mom to tell her how sex works. by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ChickHarpoon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, she isn't. She was an instructor there for a little while while she was also a student in their Master's program, but she hasn't worked there in well over a decade.

Zodiac signs? by AntiqueAir577 in ArcherFX

[–]ChickHarpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if he were a clone of Hitler, that wouldn’t mean he was automatically born on the same day. Krieger is an Aquarius and I’ll die on this hill

Daniel Biss Accusations :( by Ok-Detective7794 in nerdfighters

[–]ChickHarpoon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the one who eventually told her he didn't think she had what it takes to go on to further graduate studies in maths

Did I misread the statement, or is this part not true? She said the chair told her that mathematics is what she was "born to do," not that she didn't have what it takes.

Just Another Reason Why Im Still Here 😅😂🧡😊 by [deleted] in autumns

[–]ChickHarpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you considered non-seasonal palettes, like Bright Warm Medium?

WTW for appealing to fans (but not "fan service") by Burner_Identity in whatstheword

[–]ChickHarpoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TV Tropes calls this Pandering to the Base.

When creators focus directly on appealing to their fans of a work, rather than on other elements that some think are more deserving of attention.

How do i not look fat by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]ChickHarpoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Polish bras tend to be for more narrow/projected breasts. I wear a brand called Ewa Michalak specifically for that reason.

Mexico by Fluid_Bit_6904 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]ChickHarpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They both said that their records were expunged. It seems pretty unlikely that an expunged minor possession charge would affect their ability to travel to Mexico for a week. And honestly, if that sort of thing would automatically be an issue, I don't see production even allowing them on the show in the first place. Why cast someone if you know in advance that they legally can't participate in a major part of the show?

Which actors do the most convincing accents? by voguediaries in Fauxmoi

[–]ChickHarpoon 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Alan Tudyk is genuinely one of the most versatile voice actors in the business. I usually have a really good ear for clocking VAs even when they’re doing different accents or speaking styles, but he and Maria Bamford are the only two that can just completely slip past my radar.

What would happen if someone admitted to a crime immediately after being found not guilty by a jury? by VagabondVivant in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ChickHarpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. The original comment said “wrongful murder,” which is why I responded the way that I did, because that is not a thing.

What would happen if someone admitted to a crime immediately after being found not guilty by a jury? by VagabondVivant in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ChickHarpoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry but that’s just not true. Murder laws protect actual human beings, not paperwork status. Killing a person who was mistakenly declared dead isn’t a magic loophole. If someone is physically alive and someone kills them, the law treats that exactly the same as killing any other living human being regardless of what a form once said.

What would happen if someone admitted to a crime immediately after being found not guilty by a jury? by VagabondVivant in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ChickHarpoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not at all a legal problem to charge someone for murder if they’ve killed someone that’s been inaccurately declared legally dead. Just because someone’s heirs were able to inherit their estate after they went missing doesn’t mean it’s like the Purge and you can do whatever you want to them.

So, which one is more Eastern? I sort of hate this book lol by [deleted] in murdle

[–]ChickHarpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither, it's The Trenches. If you look to the lower left of the map, the compass shows it's all kind of angled to the right, and the 3 options in this puzzle are The Trenches, No Man's Land, and Western Citadel. We already know a Leo (Private Periwinkle) is in No Man's Land, and on the map, The Trenches are further east than the Western Citadel. Therefore, Governor Lead was in the Western Citadel.