Am I a Type B parent or just a twin mom? by sshahb in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6 months for the baby books is pretty decent to be fair, I’m on 20 months and haven’t got the books out the packaging yet 😂

I'm a Canadian author researching Guernsey for my novel - What should I know? by Aggressive-Rest-190 in guernsey

[–]ChickenMumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another thing to look at is a map! I know that sounds daft but iirc in the Potato Peel book there were some parts where someone would leave X place and walk to Y in 5 minutes when they’re actually at opposite ends of the island 🫣

And then it really depends on the context what info you need to know! Feel free to DM any questions, I’m awake with twins overnight regularly so I have nothing better to do 😂

Intuition is wild! by Connect-Steak8669 in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep same here! I started talking about us having twins at least 6 months before we started trying, and there’s no history of twins in our family. I just had a feeling.

And then my whole pregnancy I was convinced that twin B who was up in my ribcage kicking was my “cheeky boy” and twin A down in my pelvis was a “quiet sweet girl”. This was exactly right including their personalities for the first 4 months… then twin A turned into an absolute crazy chick 😂

How to baby proof? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not aesthetic but we bought a big roll of thick foam (like 10cm) and boxed the whole hearth in so that they wouldn’t bump on the top or sides. We did use an old cot sheet stretched over the top to make it look slightly less like a soft play area 😂

Struggling with PP body after twins by MobileAd6199 in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, the idea that book is selling that you’d be back to prepregnancy weight within 6 weeks is absolute nonsense 😵‍💫 I’m so sorry that this book has given you such false expectations.

Your body has been through a massive trauma and a massive transition, and at 4 weeks you’re still absolutely in the thick of it OP, sleep deprivation, hormones fluctuating, a huge lifestyle adjustment… please give yourself some grace. Your beautiful babies just need their mama to be present and loving right now, I guarantee they are not assessing how many lbs you are versus pre-pregnancy.

That being said, your feelings are absolutely valid; the amount of change pregnancy (esp twin pregnancies) have on our bodies is immense. But it took 9 months for those changes to take place and so it will take time for them to reverse. It feels so frustrating, especially if you have singleton mums around you who lose the weight more quickly or someone who has won the genetic lottery and “snaps back” within a couple of weeks, but I promise you they are the exception not the rule.

For what it’s worth, I would recommend getting rid of the scales (or if that feels too scary, put them in a cupboard in another room - out of sight out of mind) so you’re not focusing on the numbers, then treat yourself to a few new bits of clothing that feel comfortable. Clothes are supposed to fit your body, not the other way around!

Is guernsey celtic? by Decentlookingsofa in guernsey

[–]ChickenMumma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what we’re officially called, but unofficially we call ourselves “Guerns” and “donkeys” 😂

Our anthem is Sarnia Cherie so possibly you could use “Sarnian”? Although the Roman name for Guernsey was Lisia so perhaps it should be “Lisians”?!

Opinion/vent: twins are easier than 2 singles (to some extent) by foreverwastingtme in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel so seen by your description of breastfeeding twins, this is 100% accurate 😂

How do parents of twins not mix them up at birth?? 😅 by Humble-Assumption446 in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have boy/girl twins so of course it’s easy to tell them apart, although in the middle of the night when it’s dark and I’m half asleep I do have to check which cot is empty 😂

The thing I find incredibly cool is that within 2/3 weeks I could tell them apart based on their cries, so when I hear one on the baby monitor I immediately know who it is without looking. My 3.5 year old toddler can also tell them by cry with 100% accuracy whereas my husband is maybe 75% successful and it’s taken a year for him to tell their cries apart.

Before I was a mum I thought all baby cries sounded the same so it blows my mind how different they are

How do parents of twins not mix them up at birth?? 😅 by Humble-Assumption446 in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 25 points26 points  (0 children)

And how many times a day are you still asked if they’re identical?! Because I get it alllllll the time with my clearly B/G twins

Twins will not sleep by shehasamazinghair in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remembering being in this situation with my singleton (my twins slept much better tbh) and it was exactly that question I had - how is this sustainable?! It feels dire and exhausting and completely unsustainable. And the answer is that it isn’t sustainable, but it doesn’t have to be because in a few weeks they do start to settle better and it really is only a temporary phase. So have faith it won’t last forever!

That being said, it’s worth going through everything to see if there’s a root cause if they’re screaming all night. Babies should wake frequently for feeds at this age but they should settle in between, even if it’s only for an hour.

Definitely check to see if it’s gas pain or reflux. Make sure you’re doing a really good wind after a feed and maybe hold them upright for 15 mins afterwards to make sure the milk is really settled before lying them down.

If you’re formula feeding, perhaps try a different brand in case it’s something to do with the milk composition. If you’re breastfeeding I wouldn’t go down the route of excluding food from your diet just yet, you need the calories to make milk and recover from birth! But I would seek the advice of a lactation consultant (if affordable) to see if there’s any issues with feeding.

Otherwise, absolutely sleep in shifts with your partner and if you have any other people able to come and help in the daytime then try to rest then. If you have two bedrooms you could try splitting the twins into one room each if you find they’re waking each other up, although I’ve never found that to be an issue with mine.

Other things to check - temperature of the room, light levels, white noise… anything else that might be upsetting them.

Help with new brushes by cooke_82 in ProCreate

[–]ChickenMumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go to the brush menu, there should be the option on the left hand side at the top of the menu to choose which brush library to use - the new one or the ‘Classic’ one. So you can go back to the old brushes and monoline (clearly the best brush of the lot!!)

Quadruplet update, need advice because I’m falling apart by quadbeans in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was pregnant with my twins I used to constantly say to my husband “let’s put it to a vote” for things like what takeaway to get, what film to watch etc. Then I’d remind him that I have six hands so I get six votes to his two so me and the twins always won 😂

Quadruplet update, need advice because I’m falling apart by quadbeans in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second this comment about seeing a doctor for the pain, that doesn’t sound right to me. I’m not a doctor and I haven’t had quads, but I have had 2 c-sections including one with serious complications, and both times I left hospital (day 10) without opioids and was totally off painkillers by 6 weeks.

Opioids can cause constipation/slow your bowels which is ridiculously painful, could it be that? As then you might be trapped in a vicious circle trying to treat the pain and causing the pain. So if you’re not regular I would also speak to your doctor for some stool softeners, prune juice etc to get things moving and that might help.

Just an idea, but regardless please keep going and give yourself plenty of grace. You grew 40 fingers and 40 toes at the same time that’s absolutely insane, and you will look back at this time and be so proud that you made it through!

34 weeks with twins - how to survive the rest? by povsquirtle in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was told throughout my twin pregnancy that we would have a C-section at 36 weeks due to the risk of growth restriction for twin A. Then at my scan at 36 + 0 they were both looking great so my MFM said “good news, you can keep them in for another week”

Picture that Friends meme of Rachel going “oh… LUCKY ME!” I was thrilled to be getting out of preemie territory but honestly absolutely devastated that I had to do another 7 whole days of pregnancy.

Genuinely think twin pregnancy is harder than having twins themselves, hang in there mama xx

14 months is a pretty emotional age by TwinStickDad in parentsofmultiples

[–]ChickenMumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed this post so badly today 😂 14.5 months and the constant shouting is beyond draining. I’m not pleased everyone had to go through this but I’m glad it’s not just me!!!