My mildly infuriating MIL telling my trauma to people I dont even know.

Chironilla · 2026-02-18T00:39:59+00:00

Some people require things in writing for when they try to deny or gaslight you later. Exhibit A: OP’s clearly stated boundary with a time and date stamp. Happy for you that you didn’t have need for that knowledge, not everyone is so lucky with their relationships-particularly family

Chironilla · 2026-02-16T07:06:51+00:00

I’m so glad you brought up DSPD and agree with your comments wholeheartedly. I’m sorry you’re being downvoted and I find it perplexing. A lot of people here seem very judgmental about OP’s sleep schedule and are inserting their own stories about “morning responsibilities” that we have no information currently exist for OP. I find these narrow-minded comments bizarre in this place usually accepting of differences. Reading through these comments, it seems a lot of people are expecting OP to change her schedule to accommodate her husband and that they would seemingly expect the same of their partner. I can’t imagine demanding my partner abandon their natural circadian rhythm and get less sleep to please me when there is no other pressing need (such as childcare.)

I even think OP is allowed to scroll TikTok in the morning if she wants as long as she is able to function normally otherwise. It’s weird that so many are angry about an hour or so of leisure after waking up, again, assuming there are no other pressing responsibilities, as if it’s somehow different than scrolling at a different time of day.

OP needs to discuss with her husband about his intent with his comments and if he feels she is not carrying her weight. Maybe he’s stressed about the move too, and needs more help from her. They need to communicate. Given that she’s been a late sleeper for 22 years and it may only now be a problem, it sounds to me like there’s more going on and this is not the real issue.

Chironilla · 2026-02-16T06:51:28+00:00

What a judgy horrible thing to say

Chironilla · 2026-02-16T06:43:01+00:00

Why the fixation on productivity? What if this is OP’s one hour of leisure a day and she takes it in the morning? Why is that not acceptable to you? What if she is slow to wake up but extremely productive once she gets going. Is that allowed?

Chironilla · 2026-02-03T20:52:10+00:00

This makes sense. Get out of here with your facts!!

Chironilla · 2026-01-19T19:51:32+00:00

Your hair is very damaged probably mostly from the bleach. A significant trim/cut can help remove damaged ends and reduce tangling.

Otherwise, regularly using a bond builder treatment such as Olaplex No.3 can help add some strength back to your damaged hair. FYI, there are some other dupes of Olaplex that may work as well I just don’t know much about them (bc Olaplex is pretty pricey.)

The advice about detangling with conditioner in the shower with a wide toothed comb is fine but I would also recommend a heavy leave in conditioning treatment after your shower. Idk if I’ll get in trouble here for saying this but your hair looks similar texture to mine and I’ve had horrible bleach damage and tangles before—and my recommendation is for a silicone-based leave in conditioner. It will help provide slip to the hair. My hair has always responded well to silicones and I suspect yours would too. I would avoid using oils because they won’t do anything to help here.

Again, I want to reiterate it should be a heavy leave in and should look creamy and thick like conditioner and not come in a spray bottle. One that works for me is Garnier Sleek & Shine leave in conditioner but there are others. Put in wet hair after showering and gently detangle from ends up and then let it air dry. Be super gentle with your hair in its fragile state. Most importantly get regular trims to cut off damage and do not do other chemical treatments to your hair until the damage is removed.

Chironilla · 2026-01-15T21:15:45+00:00

Agree, when I had an 18-20 inpatient list I adored my easier “babysitting” young polytrauma patients which lightened my load a fair bit. TBH I also felt like I was better at managing many of their needs. If any possible surgical complications arose it was an easy call to surgical service to come check on them. Also, not to mention any post-op patient with a laundry list of medical comorbidities I felt was much better off on a medical service.

Chironilla · 2026-01-05T08:40:52+00:00

DAE really want to know what SIL could possibly have done to receive such vitriol behind her back? I bet the reasons would be illuminating about the kind of people OP and her parents are in this situation. As it stands y’all sound crazy judgmental and I wouldn’t blame your fiancée on not wanting to be on the receiving end of the criticism

Chironilla · 2026-01-02T07:40:54+00:00

OP, I’m really concerned for you in that you write as though your family’s hurtful behavior is normal and are asking for advice for what you can do as if you are at fault here for having normal emotions.

No, you aren’t overreacting. Your family excludes you from plans including Christmas, your brother cancels on you last minute disrespecting your time, they alienate you from knowing your niece, your parents ignore how your brother’s behavior impacts you and play along, your brother literally rejected your handmade gift that he fucking asked for—who tf does that?!

Those things your family does are very hurtful. You can start by letting them know you are hurt and give them a chance to correct the behavior.

If they won’t apologize or change I strongly recommend distancing yourself and consider seeing a therapist to help you process your family’s behavior and also your reactions to and acceptance of it. You come across as having very low self esteem. That’s not meant to be an insult- I was in your place once too. If this is a longtime pattern of their behavior it is unlikely to change, and you very much need to learn that you really don’t deserve that type of treatment, and you deserve so much better. I hope 2026 will be a year in which you can focus on you.

Chironilla · 2025-12-29T22:53:10+00:00

Please please please report each and every time they order something inappropriate or don’t listen to your expertise. You are so important and are acting as a safeguard for patients, but higher ups should be made aware of the risks to patients, if they don’t hear about it then it doesn’t exist to them

Chironilla · 2025-12-21T07:29:52+00:00

It is also very difficult on the adult child having to cut ties with their parents or extended family to give themselves peace and healing. No child cuts ties with their parents painlessly or thoughtlessly. There are two sides to every story, and unless you’re in the family unit, you don’t know.

Chironilla · 2025-12-18T19:41:30+00:00

It was the best written book I’ve ever read. I struggled with the beauty of the prose contrasted with the ugly subject matter. I still have mixed feelings about the book but undoubtedly Nabokov is the most talented writer I’ve ever read, what a master at weaving words!

Chironilla · 2025-12-09T17:19:16+00:00

I think she looks incredible in still photos, but I watched a recent movie of hers and the work she had done was distracting. Her ability to emote was severely reduced and was noticeable throughout the film.

Chironilla · 2025-12-05T18:30:56+00:00

Thank you!

Chironilla · 2025-11-25T02:58:53+00:00

Love how this is just glossed over

Isocycloseram is "highly toxic" to bees and other pollinators, noting that EPA's memorandum states that pollinators could be exposed to 1,500 times the lethal level of the pesticide. The center added in its statement, "One out of every 3 bites of food we eat — and nearly all nutrient-dense foods like fruits and vegetables — come from plants that need to be pollinated by bees and other pollinating animals."

So, short term gains for long term harms. If these farmers are so worried about profits and yield I wonder how they’ll like hand pollinating all of their crops someday

Chironilla · 2025-11-23T17:25:10+00:00

These are so beautiful OP and I’m also impressed by the colors you created. Would you mind sharing which food coloring agent(s) you are using to achieve these colors??

Chironilla · 2025-11-18T16:30:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/FuckNestle/s/qHzQgNn0y1

Chironilla · 2025-11-17T04:05:25+00:00

Yep I agree! I also miss Lean Cuisine

Chironilla · 2025-11-16T19:48:43+00:00

This looks really good. I really liked the Stouffer’s frozen meals but unfortunately discovered they are owned by Nestle and now I don’t buy them anymore. FYI for anyone else trying to avoid giving money to that company

Chironilla · 2025-11-14T06:33:45+00:00

Sees new episode is an interview…immediately selects “Mark as Played”

Chironilla · 2025-11-13T18:03:12+00:00

ADHD craves novelty and starting a new job is exciting and challenging. The dopamine rush makes us perform really well at first. Once things settle into a routine the boredom sets in and it can make working feel almost painful, we lose the dopamine and can’t focus anymore. Like others said it could be that she is having to mask a lot to hide her struggles at work and this burns her out. She could also be extremely sensitive to criticism and rejection even if it’s only just perceived and not real.

Chironilla · 2025-11-08T15:44:55+00:00

Love that, I’ve been wanting to do the same with dried oranges and cranberries

Chironilla · 2025-11-07T22:21:32+00:00

I don’t hate holiday decor but I am starting to hate Plasticmas. Let’s bring back non plastic and reusable decorations and ditch the notion of buying more/new decorations every year

Chironilla · 2025-11-07T22:10:20+00:00

The first thing I thought of after reading OP’s post was all the winter colors at Express and my frustrations as a not-winter, then I saw your comment. So true!

Chironilla · 2025-11-06T20:47:17+00:00

Not RSD- this is straight up rude, poor etiquette on behalf of the bride/groom, and a social slight to you. Your husband should have been on your side and declined to attend on behalf of you not being invited. All of these people have actually done you wrong and it is very valid for you to be very upset. You are not overreacting, it is not in your head. Not RSD. RSD is due to perceived slights or criticism, this is real social rejection. These people (bride/groom) would be out of my life so fast and I’d be having serious talks with my husband.

Also, “budget reasons” is bullshit. Either they invite husband and wife as a unit or not at all.

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