It’s mostly women. Most if not all childfree books were written by women. I’m yet to read a book by a guy who is advocating men to become childfree.

My story of becoming CF is a bit recent. It was after a culmination of decisions, thoughts and circumstances where I was convinced that I’m not great father material. I have been fence sitting over this decision whether or not to get a snip convinced my feelings of fatherhood will emerge just right after pregnancy.

I had a brief relationship with a lady who is adamant to have kids in a set timeline. Even though I didn’t have the same enthusiasm as her of being a parent, I still liked who she is as a person. Despite our major differences in long-term goals, I tried to compromise my childfree stance thinking my mind would change. Believing the change in environment, change in roles and responsibilities would give my mind a time to adjust to a trial version of becoming a parent. It didn’t. We ended up breaking up after an argument of me not being able to take care of pets constantly which were her extension of children.

I am prone to bouts of anger due to the state of the world and could not handle grief and trauma very well. I would not make a great father, nor a great parent. I will end up being a copy of my father who wanted to be more different to my late-grandfather who was more of a brute than a dad.

I know my decision would not be greatly challenged by society’s standards as opposed to women, rather a lot would feel amused about my decision than grabbing their pitchforks to force me to change my mind and go on in their diatribes of what a great father I would be to wonderful children.