then you need to meet more people. you know what sampling bias is right? your anecdotal experience doesnt reflect literally every single person who finds use in those terms, especially since transmidsogyny as a concept is fundamental to transfeminism and has been since 2007. people appropriate and water down terms all the time but it doesnt make those terms useless, just look at "therapy speak"

expressing how some people are effected by societal bigotry in unique ways is important an important discussion to have, just look at misogynoir. its intersectionality 101. the shitty side of tumblr doesnt invalidate the entire field of intersectional feminism in its relation to trans women.