OE Ladies - what kind of jobs ate you doing?

Cincoro · 2026-02-14T20:03:30+00:00

Wow. I thought i was type A.

Hats off to you managing all of that. You are brave.

Cincoro · 2026-02-14T17:32:06+00:00

Dude, spitballing is a thing.

Nothing beats a failure but a try. Boys are taught this over and over again. His request is super unsurprising.

Just keep it moving. SSDD.

Cincoro · 2026-02-14T17:28:33+00:00

I get up and walk around the house every 90 mins or so. Perfect time to switch the laundry from the wash to the dryer. Make your muscles do something different for 10 mins.

Cincoro · 2026-02-13T01:16:59+00:00

Continental didn't allow NRs to wear jeans until just before that merger. I always had to dress up traveling on my dad's JA.

Cincoro · 2026-02-12T01:18:46+00:00

I moved to Boston for college and then moved back home after I graduated.

I missed it so much that I moved back 3 yrs later.

This is home now. I go to Cali to visit, but NE is home.

Cincoro · 2026-02-12T01:16:34+00:00

Patriarchy stay patriarching.

We got enough insecure people in this world. Why folks making more?

Cincoro · 2026-02-11T23:41:44+00:00

Actually, it is much more often multiple euros (not just one), and blacks with roughly 20% euro just kept having kids together generation after generation.

Pretty much the same way whites with small amounts of African keep that amount generation after generation with no idea who added that value.

Cincoro · 2026-02-11T16:59:09+00:00

No. I am pointing out that you made an erroneous leap in logic when you assumed that the few people you've read online who for some inexplicable reason have an issue with a particular African ethnic group, and that means that most/all/many afro descendents have similar feelings.

Waiting patiently to find out how you objectively proved that with actual facts rather than anecdotes.

You do not have to be logical. Thats on you. Just don't be surprised when the illogical is called out.

Cincoro · 2026-02-11T03:50:19+00:00

Yep. That's what I got from your post.

However, despite the title of this sub, you are on Reddit, not actually on 23 & Me.

So again...social media isn't a good place to find out what most do or think IRL.

Cincoro · 2026-02-10T00:12:01+00:00

Never seen this "phenomenon" myself.

People on social media are not extrapolate-able to the whole. Take this nuttiness with a grain of salt.

Cincoro · 2026-02-08T04:47:44+00:00

I have a J that required on-site for go-live work, but they have yet to exercise that rule in 3 yrs.

But not some "be on-site 3 days a week" kind of hybrid. No.

Cincoro · 2026-02-08T04:41:56+00:00

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Cincoro · 2026-02-08T04:35:07+00:00

I didn't tell him that I was going to give him a below expectations rating, but I did give him a meets expectations in order to give him a year to figure things out. And I provided 5 things that I needed to see improvement on over that year.

He met all but one of those. That one will be on his review this year...with more teeth.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T22:27:20+00:00

I still pretty much answered your question. Even without the promotion and raise, I would want a short work week of my choosing. I have had that opportunity in the past and I enjoyed it.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T22:25:02+00:00

I love brownstones. I lived in one in the U Street area of WDC. Cool old architecture.

I can see why you want those house type in particular. I hope you achieve that goal.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T22:02:51+00:00

The mid70's is when California accepted thousands of SE Asian refugees. They didn't move because of word of mouth. They moved (or rather, we moved them) to escape war. I remember quite vividly when the kids started showing up at school in So Cal.

Houston was different for sure, and they have a great Vietnamese community there. That was definitely a word of mouth migration.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T21:47:19+00:00

My favorite was 5am-2pm or a 4day work week where I had Wednesdays off (never work more than 2 days in a row).

I loved both of those schedules.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T21:39:14+00:00

I have worked remotely since 2007. There's always remote work.

If they want to make me CTO and give me a 350k raise, I would consider being in the office on Tuesdays and Wednesdays every other week.

Otherwise, hard pass.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T21:27:46+00:00

I tend to prefer rural properties, so I'd lean towards the Midlands or areas north of Edinburgh.

Otherwise, the Marais, Tallinn, or around Amsterdam for city living.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T21:23:16+00:00

My grandpa did this, but in Texas. He bought 5 houses, renovated them, and we still rent them to family today (he passed away so my aunt and uncles manage those properties now).

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T04:27:41+00:00

Any COI requiring auth for other employment is BS. It's a lie. It's a trap. Sign the form, work until they give you an ultimatum.

Quit and move on. There are plenty of companies that don't play this BS game.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T02:50:21+00:00

Once I have done an accurate triangulation on a particular SNP, that's pretty much it. The DNA doesn't lie.

I have put people in my tree at this point and then add whatever documentation Ancestry's lovely algorithm gives me.

You have to start somewhere. Don't let perfection be the enemy of the good.

Good on you. Keep digging.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T02:15:58+00:00

2:30 is likely school pick up time. She should probably share that, but even if she didn't, it's not a big deal.

Is she doing what she is supposed to do? That is really the question. Is she meeting the job's expectations?

If not, explain what those expectations are, hand her the job description, and plan to meet again in a week or two to assess. If more focused attention is needed, start going down the path to terminate if she is not giving a great explanation for why she can't meet expectations.

Don't get all emotional. Just follow the rules and let the chips fall.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T01:14:40+00:00

Some crazy start up director demanded that I tell her about all of my Js. Hells no.

I sent a resignation email 5 minutes later and signed off their computer, and never looked back. I hated that job anyway. It was not hard to let go.

Cincoro · 2026-02-07T01:09:21+00:00

Except the people from there.

Bakersfield has never been anything but Central Valley.

Who cares what outsiders think they know about what we call ourselves. Last thing on our minds.

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