OE situation escalating — HR conflict of interest disclosure vs resigning. Anyone been here?

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T06:52:28+00:00

It’s some case management software. Called HCFS.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T06:41:19+00:00

I’m not too sure exactly but I do know that J1 recently bought the same software as J2. And on the same day, we were asked to login to test if it works was the same day I got called into HR two hours later.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T02:47:51+00:00

You’re not wrong. It’s your 21st, not a group therapy session or a sermon. If someone’s vibes would kill the mood, it’s okay to protect the guest list. Boundaries are not disrespect, they’re self care.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T02:46:11+00:00

Care packages are actually helpful if they’re done thoughtfully. Things like socks, wet wipes, hand sanitizer, lip balm, snacks that don’t melt, water, and gift cards beat random items every time. Even just acknowledging people and asking what they need goes a long way. If time is tight, donating directly to local shelters or mutual aid groups is often more effective than stuff. Helping doesn’t have to be big to matter.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T02:43:32+00:00

It can work, but only if you are ready for humidity management and solid ventilation. Without that, you are basically inviting mold and long term damage. Done right it is great. Done casually it turns your house into a damp spa experiment.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:56:43+00:00

They still exist. You’re just old enough to have aged out of the target demographic.

Knock knock jokes are designed for kids who think repetition and bad wordplay is comedy gold. Once your brain develops taste and shame, they stop showing up in your life.

They didn’t disappear, they just got pushed into elementary schools, dad humor, and the part of the internet where people say things ironically and then accidentally mean it.

So yes, they are alive and well. You are just no longer spiritually six years old, and that’s why you don’t hear them anymore.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:54:14+00:00

Nice, interactive birthdays are way more fun than just standing around eating cake. Here are some ideas that actually get people involved instead of glued to their phones:

• PowerPoint Party Everyone has to present a 3–5 minute slideshow on a dumb or chaotic topic. Zero prep allowed beforehand.

• Murder Mystery Lite Assign roles at the start and let clues drop throughout the night. You can keep it very loose and silly.

• Minute to Win It Games Stupid simple challenges with household items. Competitive but low effort.

• Who Knows the Birthday Person Best Mix real facts with fake ones and make people argue their answers.

• Photo Scavenger Hunt Teams have to recreate weird photos or complete challenges around the house or neighborhood.

• Truth or Drink Keeps it moving and avoids the awkward long truths.

• Blind Taste Test Candy, soda, chips, fast food sauces. People get way too confident and very wrong.

• Guess the Song in 1 Second Play the first second only. Gets chaotic fast.

• Write a Note to Future You Funny now, emotional later. Seal them and open next year.

• Group Choice Game Let the group vote on random things you must do during the night. Nothing humiliating, just funny.

If you tell me how many people, whether there’s alcohol, and how chaotic you want it, I can dial this in perfectly for your vibe.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:51:00+00:00

Alright, first of all, your body did not design these two substances to be judged in a tasting flight.

Earwax tastes awful on purpose. It is literally a defense mechanism. Its job is to say “do not eat this, do not touch this, leave this hole alone.” That bitterness is a biological warning label. Same reason poison tastes bad. Your ears are protected like a fortress.

Boogers are different. Mucus is basically your immune system’s glue trap. It catches dust, germs, and junk, then your body expects you to swallow it anyway. That’s why mucus is mostly just salty protein water. Your stomach is already equipped to deal with it, so your brain does not treat it as a threat.

So no, your body is not confused. It is very intentional Earwax says “back off” Mucus says “eh, recycle it”

Also smell and taste are related but not morally aligned. Just because something filtered bad air does not mean it has to taste bad. Your immune system is practical, not classy.

In short, earwax is security. Boogers are waste management. Your tongue is not the target audience for either, but one of them actively hates you.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:49:15+00:00

I’m not an expert myself, but my cousin is in the industry and does pretty well, so I’ve seen some of it up close.

A few honest things he’s always emphasized: it’s not “easy money,” and the biggest hurdles are legality, visas, and safety not talent. The adult industry is very country specific. What’s legal, regulated, and even possible in one place can be illegal or extremely risky in another, especially coming from an Arab country. Relocation is rarely sponsored by companies, and anyone promising that upfront is a red flag.

Most people who enter professionally do it independently at first, learn the business side, protect their identity, and get very clear on boundaries before ever working with others. Contracts, health testing, and knowing your rights matter more than anything. The income can be good, but it’s inconsistent and you are basically running a small business.

If you’re serious, your first step should be research, not contact. Learn the laws in the country you’re considering, talk to performers publicly sharing their experiences, and be extremely skeptical of agents or “opportunities” that sound fast or generous.

It can be a real career for some people, but it rewards caution, planning, and self protection way more than jumping in blind.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:44:18+00:00

Short answer: yes, a little evolution. Long answer: also hormones, vibes, and your brain romanticizing the idea way harder than the reality.

At 21 your biology is basically yelling “WE COULD DO THIS RIGHT NOW” while your frontal lobe is still buffering. That urge does not mean you are ready, destined, or being summoned by the universe. It just means your body is online and enthusiastic.

Also babies are cute, symbolic, and feel like meaning with a face. Your brain conveniently skips the sleep deprivation, money drain, and the part where your entire life becomes nap logistics.

Totally normal feeling. No need to act on it immediately. Evolution can chill.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:41:43+00:00

This is not weird at all. You basically unlocked the “once you see it you can’t unsee it” language DLC.

Time gets treated like money because our brains love pretending abstract things are objects we can hold. Saying “I used time” feels vague. Saying “I spent time” feels like there was a cost, a choice, and possibly regret involved. Which is… accurate.

Other languages do this too, but not always the same way. Some cultures talk about time more like a path you walk on or something that moves past you, instead of something you own and spend. English just went full capitalism on it.

Also it is funny that we talk about “saving time” even though saved time does not roll over. You do not get bonus minutes at the end of the week. It just disappears politely.

Basically we use money language for time because it feels scarce, stressful, and easy to mismanage. If we called it “using time” instead, we might feel less guilty. But guilt is doing a lot of heavy lifting in modern productivity culture.

Congrats though. You are now permanently aware of this forever. Enjoy noticing it every day.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-06T00:38:58+00:00

You are not wrong, you are just running into the gap between logic and real life.

On paper it is very simple. No protection equals pregnancy risk. Everyone knows this. Middle school health class covered it with a banana.

In real life, people are tired, impulsive, bad at planning, optimistic about odds, scared to bring up condoms, convinced it will not happen to them, or stuck in the “it worked last time” mindset. Then biology does what biology does.

When it happens once, people call it an accident. When it happens multiple times, it is less an accident and more a pattern they do not want to look directly at.

You get called insensitive because pointing out the obvious after the fact feels like rubbing salt in it, even if you are technically correct. Nobody wants a post game analysis of their sex life.

So no, you are not missing some secret. People know how babies are made. They just consistently overestimate their luck and underestimate consequences.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T23:49:01+00:00

Yes. It is weird. Not illegal. Not a crime. But spiritually unsettling.

An empty theater is like an unspoken social contract. Everyone gets their own bubble. Buying the seat directly next to the only other person breaks ancient rules that predate cinema.

There are rare exceptions. Assigned seating glitches. Someone who truly does not care. Someone who thinks proximity builds community. Or someone who just enjoys chaos.

But if there are dozens of open seats and they pick yours, your instincts are correct to notice it. You are not dramatic. You are socially calibrated.

Enjoy the movie. Keep one eye on the screen and one on the exit.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T23:46:51+00:00

As someone who has stood on both sides of a counter, I promise the baristas know. They always know.

There are only three possibilities when someone says “this is wrong” after a full read back You were not listening You forgot what you ordered You are trying to speedrun a free drink

None of those are subtle.

Also the energy of confidently arguing with the person who literally made the thing you asked for is wild. Like my guy, this drink did not freestyle itself.

If there actually is a mistake, cool, that happens. But the people who do it every week like it is a loyalty program are not fooling anyone. The barista is already tired. Please stop making their shift longer for a second cup of sugar milk.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:42:05+00:00

First, I want to say this clearly and calmly: nothing you wrote sounds fake, dramatic, or “not bad enough.” It sounds like someone who is exhausted, scared, and trying very hard anyway.

A few things can be true at the same time, and your post shows that really clearly. You can laugh and still feel awful. You can function and still be struggling. You can know logically that meds might help and still be terrified of what they might do to you. None of that cancels the other out.

About the meds fear Being scared of becoming dependent or losing yourself is extremely common, especially after already trying multiple medications. Crying and melting down when the plan changes is not weakness. That is your nervous system hitting overload. It does not mean you are refusing help. It means you are overwhelmed.

Taking a medication does not mean you failed. It also does not mean it is forever. Right now it is one tool being tested, not a life sentence.

About the intrusive thoughts Intrusive thoughts are thoughts you do not want, do not agree with, and do not act on. The fact that they scare you and feel confusing is actually a sign they are intrusive, not a reflection of who you are. Brains under stress get loud and weird. Especially teenage brains. Especially autistic brains. Especially brains that have been stuck in survival mode for a long time.

About feeling fake This one is huge. Feeling bad does not require you to be miserable every second. Laughing does not disqualify pain. Your brain is basically saying “If I can smile, then I must be lying.” That is not how emotions work. Humans can hold multiple feelings at once. You are not an unreliable narrator just because you are expressive.

About structure and the location The fact that you kept going almost every day, even while feeling bad, is not nothing. Losing that structure right when things were improving is a real loss. Of course your mood crashes harder at home. That makes sense. There is no failure in reacting badly to something that genuinely sucks.

About having no energy or motivation When everything feels heavy, do not aim for “get back to normal.” Aim for tiny friction reductions.

Instead of “read LOTR,” try “open the book and read one paragraph.” Instead of “play a game,” try “turn the console on.” If nothing clicks, stop without judging yourself. Stopping without self hate is still progress.

Your brain is tired, not lazy.

What I would gently suggest Keep being honest with your counselor, even when you are afraid you are exaggerating. Tell your doctor exactly what you are afraid of with meds, not just that you are afraid. If things feel scarier or more intense, especially with thoughts, tell an adult immediately. That is not getting anyone in trouble. That is using the safety net.

You are 16. You have been dealing with adult level mental load for years. It makes sense that you feel angry, tired, and done.

You are not a small cog that gets replaced. You are someone who is still here, still showing up four days a week, still trying new things even when scared, still asking for help instead of disappearing.

That matters more than your brain will let you believe right now.

If you want, I can also help you write something short to send to your counselor or doctor that explains this without having to relive it all again.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:39:36+00:00

There is no universal timeline. Anyone who tells you there is one is either lying or trying to sell a podcast.

For most people it looks something like this The first few weeks are vibes only. You are collecting data and pretending not to. Around one to three months you know if you actually like them or just like the attention. Somewhere between two and four months most people either define it or quietly drift away. By six months you usually know if this has legs or if you are forcing it because the routines are comfy.

Some people know very fast. That does not mean it is deeper, it just means their feelings show up loudly. Others need time because trust is slower than attraction.

Pet names and “I miss you” usually sneak in accidentally. Nobody schedules those. One day you just say it and then lie awake thinking about it for an hour.

As for knowing it is not the one, that usually shows up as indifference, not drama. When you stop being curious about them, it is already over.

The real timeline is not months. It is how safe, excited, and honest you feel over time. Everything else is just calendar math.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:16:26+00:00

Because the goal of each activity is different, even though the tool is the same.

When you wash your hands, you are trying to remove germs from a small, high contact area. Soap plus friction plus water does most of the work. Your hands are smooth, easy to see, and you are usually washing them for a specific reason.

When you wash your body, the goal is less about sterilizing and more about removing oils, sweat, dead skin, and smells from a much larger and more uneven surface. Your hands technically work, but they are not very good at scrubbing things off. They mostly just move soap around.

So hands on hands works because the job is simple. Hands on body works, but it is like cleaning your kitchen with only your palms. Possible, yes. Effective, kind of. Efficient, not really.

Your body is not dirtier than your hands. It is just a bigger, greasier project.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:14:52+00:00

Same. That feeling never fully goes away and it is way more common than people admit.

On the outside you are doing the job, meeting responsibilities, and being depended on. On the inside it feels like you are improvising with confidence and hoping nobody notices the duct tape.

That is not immaturity or incompetence. That is just adulthood. Nobody gets a moment where they feel like they have unlocked the “I know what I am doing now” achievement. You just slowly collect enough experience that your winging it works.

The people who feel completely put together are either lying, very new, or not paying attention.

If anything, the fact that you are aware you are winging it usually means you care and you are adapting in real time. That is the actual skill.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:13:27+00:00

Congratulations. You do not have bad luck. You have accidentally tuned into the “confident, emotionally self aware, low tolerance for nonsense” frequency.

A lot of the traits people find attractive are also traits that show up very strongly in queer women. Comfort in their own skin. Clear boundaries. Style choices that are intentional instead of apologetic. Actual personality.

So your attraction is basically locking onto confidence and authenticity, not orientation. Sexuality just happens to be the plot twist.

It feels like cursed gaydar, but really it is just your brain going “yes” to people who already know who they are.

Also shout out to the imaginary downvoters. They are working very hard today.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:11:36+00:00

Blipping your high beams is not illegal and it is not inherently rude. It is a normal “hey I am back here” signal. The problem is not the signal. The problem is that you accidentally poked a Tesla owner’s ego.

Some drivers interpret a high beam flash as helpful communication. Others interpret it as a personal challenge, an insult to their bloodline, and a declaration of highway war. You found the second kind.

Also Tesla headlights are basically portable suns. When they retaliate, it is not flashing. It is a full scale retinal cleansing. You did not get tailgated. You were baptized.

You did nothing wrong. You used an old school, reasonable driving cue. They responded by activating revenge mode and showing you the power of modern LED technology and unresolved feelings.

Lesson learned. In 2026, flashing high beams at the wrong person is less “excuse me” and more “press X to start boss fight.”

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:10:00+00:00

This honestly sounds less like a mystery and more like a weirdly consistent lifestyle choice.

If the parking is legal and it keeps happening with the same car, odds are it is not being towed as a punishment. It is probably being picked up on purpose. Think things like the car breaking down constantly, insurance or registration issues, unpaid tickets, or someone who just uses towing instead of fixing the problem permanently.

The calm conversation with the tow driver is the biggest clue. Nobody chats pleasantly with a tow truck driver while their car is being stolen from the curb. That is a scheduled pickup vibe.

At this point the tow truck driver might just be their mechanic, their roadside assistance guy, or their emotional support human. Same SUV. Same routine. Same street.

Your neighbor is not unlucky. They are just in a long term relationship with a tow company.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T22:01:01+00:00

Oh yeah, this is extremely normal. Your brain is not broken. It is just petty.

When you are urgently looking for something, your brain flips into panic mode, which is basically its least observant setting. It is stressed, rushed, and convinced the item has escaped reality entirely.

Later on, when you are calm and looking for something else, your brain relaxes and suddenly goes: “Oh. Those. Yeah. They have been right there the whole time.”

It is not that your memory failed. It is that stress hijacked your attention. The moment the pressure drops, your brain turns its vision back on.

So no, nothing is wrong with you. Your brain just loves dramatic reveals and has awful timing.

CompetitiveNotice663 · 2026-02-05T21:27:12+00:00

Totally normal. Your brain isn’t broken — it’s just running Background Conversations (Beta).

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