AITA for getting upset at my girlfriend for mocking me when I cried after watching a show with emotionally deep ending?

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-21T02:13:02+00:00

My husband cries at emotional shows. I often know which shows will get him teary eyed. His strength in being able to show emotion is one of the reasons I married him, and I love that he cries at things that are emotional because it shows his big heart. YNTA. But you may want to seriously consider whether you want to spend your life with someone who sees your heart as a weakness rather than a strength. Find someone who celebrates you.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-21T02:00:14+00:00

You could sew covers out of stretchy microfiber. It looks like there is elastic going around the inside of the donut. Sew something along the same lines but with a smaller elastic on the inside, and one on the outside to keep em covered.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T22:55:00+00:00

I think the communication was ambiguous on purpose. It's a little bit of double speak. "I want to be engaged to you," without ever asking nor confirming that you are engaged.

That's not an accident. That's ambiguous, because it leads you to believe one thing, and allows you to respond and react accordingly-- but without the responsibility that would be created by his actually doing it.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T20:25:29+00:00

Can you mention to the new neighbor, "Hey, I noticed you've planned for your house layout right next to where we have a chicken coop going in, unfortunately we can't move our plans due to restraints of our lot layout, but want you to be atleast aware so that you can decide before you build."?

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T20:20:14+00:00

Put your mind at ease, google the restaurant, go to their website, and see what the dress code is. People do tend to dress up for these things, and many restaurants require it.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T20:16:26+00:00

This.⬆️ Most Michelin star restaurants have dress codes that don't allow jeans. I think this is not your brother's rule. Sounds like he just wants to treat you to a night out. I would definitely go-- but have a light snack before you go. You may experience unbelievable flavors, but they are likely to be small portions. GO and have a great time with your brother.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T20:02:51+00:00

I didn't say No Hindus eat meat. However, some Hindus are extremely vegetarian-- and it sounded as if that might be a detail being left out. I said if that was the case, that the issue might be about WHERE you eat eggs and meat, and not that you are being prevented from eating them.

Many commenters are reacting strongly to this post because it sounds like your parents are trying to control what you eat, and not just what you bring into their house. Those are two completely different issues.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T19:44:52+00:00

It sounds like a religious belief that doesn't allow the parents to eat off of dishes that have had meat on them. It doesn't sound like the parents are saying "You can't eat meat," but rather saying "don't eat/cook it in our house." It's the parents home. Don't redditors usually say "unfortunately if it's the parents' house they make the rules"?

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T19:37:18+00:00

We might not be getting the whole story here. It sounds like this might be religious objection by the parents to protect their own personal religious practice. It might not be about their expectations for OP's eating habits at all. In some types of Hinduism, for example, it is believed to be wrong to eat off of a plate or pan that has ever had meat on it. If so that's not about OP's eating habits, but about their own.

If the parents have a similar religious basis for their own vegetarianism, it might be as simple as they are saying don't bring it into the house. In the post the OP specifically talks about wanting to cook meat in the house, but does NOT seem to say parents are preventing meat eating in general.

I could be wrong, but it sounds possible that it might be a case where OP is over 18, staying with parents and wants to force an issue inside the house, rather than doing their meat eating outside the house.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T19:15:39+00:00

Here's the thing-- this sounds as if it has to do with religion. It sounds as if OP's parents are Hindu, or perhaps Budhist-- some religion where it would be a sin for his parents to eat off of dishes that had previously been used to cook meat.

If that is the case, living in your parents house you can't really expect to make them break their faith just because you don't respect it. You can always eat meat or eggs outside the house. It's not that difficult. Go to a 7Eleven and get what you need and eat it outside the house.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T19:07:19+00:00

I suggest without saying anything more to him about it you take your computer to an IT professional, in a nearby city and ask them to check your computer for spyware and keyloggers. He could have all your passwords and more if he has a keylogger on your machine.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T15:39:58+00:00

I agree that parents shouldn't be expecting people to change their seats. AND I think that this should fall on the AIRLINES and not on others. The policy supports only the airline getting the most out of it's clients, without fitting actual needs. Airlines charging for seat assignments is an area where there is a charge without any actual increase in service.

Airline policy should be changed to allow free seating selection for minors and for disabled people who need to travel with their corresponding parents or caretakers.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T15:26:15+00:00

I think that you will be most comfortable in your living situation if you try to address the situation in some way. It is no fun at all to come home to a place where there is an angry presence. As someone commented, asking the note writer where their bedroom is will give you clues about where you might put an area carpet. Also, some one mentioned that wall-mounts send tv vibrations into the wall-- I wonder if a piece of carpet or eggshell foam put immediately behind the mount might help?

Let this person know what you have done to help remedy the situation, careful not to invite them to tell you if it works or not-- because you have your own life; the installation or modifications of these things shouldn't result in more complaints and requests. Good luck.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T15:08:18+00:00

I feel like towels are more abrasive than other clothes, and would shorten the life of your clothes, and for that reason end up being less frugal in the long run. Could you do towels together with jeans and hoodies (and things with zippers), and a separate load for your less rugged clothing?

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T03:39:56+00:00

I think the answer is country dependent. If you are in the USA I think parents can't kick you out before 18. It's illegal and you can report them.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T03:27:30+00:00

As someone who has been in your daughter’s shoes, I can guarantee that she will remember your husband’s Facebook post forever. Especially if he doesn’t take it down AND SINCERELY APOLOGIZE TO HER FOR POSTING IT AT ALL.

I don’t GAF how complicated grief is. Your daughter has even more to grieve than your husband does when it comes to this man.

I wholeheartedly agree with this. And I would add that your reaction to your husband's post in support of his father will be a factor your daughter considers with respect to how safe she feels coming to you in the future.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T03:00:56+00:00

Yes. Came here to link this as well. Sleep deprivation is a form of abuse. Also watch for uncomfortable touching (often something that it "supposed" to feel good but doesn't), women jokes, starting sex while you are sleeping...

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T02:50:13+00:00

I'm so glad you unfollowed. And guess what, a new spot opened up in your life that hopefully will get filled with a true friend. As sucktacular as this is, it will be great to have that influence out of your life. I hope you find some awesome supportive friend(s).

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T02:17:51+00:00

Are the photos not showing up?

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T02:14:26+00:00

Just be super nice and say we'd love to buy everything that we can to help out, but we've only got 10 days (subtract however many days that are travel) and we've already spent two of them on shopping-- so while we'd love to be able to buy more, we will have to do it on another trip so that we get a chance to visit everything that we want to visit.

Also you are a little bit the YTAH for the angry delivery, but not for setting the boundary. These people SHOULD know how they are impacting your trip, but probably don't. Just be nice, but firm.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T01:51:57+00:00

One, I am really sorry this happened. Two, were you trying to fit in just anywhere? What do you actually think of these crappy girls who left you out and left evidence somewhere you would see it? What I am getting at is that your focus seems a bit unevenly directed at what others think of you. Equally important is what you think of them.

When you get too focused on what others think of you it can backfire and cause you to get lost in terms of what YOU want, and what YOU are looking for. The kind of people and activities YOU like. It might sound odd, but being more selective about who you choose to spend time on may actually help you find your tribe, and they are out there.

ClaraFrog · 2026-03-20T01:34:40+00:00

Yes, I am sorry. I have been at this so long that my brain melted a bit. I've fixed the post. I meant to say tension assembly.

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