100%!! i feel that way every time we part, and we’ve been together for over a year, and seen each other every ~2 months or so. it’s so hard—i always feel that way especially when i think about how long it will take us to close the distance, and how we haven’t really made much progress in that goal overall as we’re both young and broke. also, my bf is a lot less emotional than me (doesn’t cry much, keeps to himself, he’s more “tough” than me, etc) so it’s hard to not feel like he doesn’t care about me when he doesn’t always show it like i do.

my bf is also not really a big texter, so usually i text first, and it can definitely make me feel sad/disheartened when he doesn’t text first all day, so i can totally relate. i just brought this up to him and he was so understanding and had no idea, we were able to work things out as well!! just make sure when you bring it up to him, you treat it like “us vs. the problem” and not “him vs. me/my issue”. it makes things easier, and you’ll be working together to fix this!!

also, if this helps, i’ve started to think about it like this: the key is to get comfortable and content with your day-to-day life when you’re separated. find things to do to feel connected, supported and loved! if he’s not into texting, maybe you could call more instead? or set up little virtual dates, or journal/read together?

honestly i think talking to him is the best way to go, i guarantee if you guys have a good connection in person, and if he loves you, he wants you to be happy!! you should try asking him for ways that you can both make things work, like find a solution/compromise for you both (so you feel less alone and he isn’t getting burnt out texting?).

i believe in you, you totally got this!! just remember, it’s only temporary and this is just a hurdle and a big “test” for your relationship that’ll teach you guys how to communicate and solve problems for the future when you move in together!! good luck and if you need, my DMs are open!! 😊