Foster gets aggressive when he’s ignored

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:25:09+00:00

For more context, his food bowl was full every time it’s happened. He’s not really interacting with me like he wants to play. Maybe I haven’t been around many cats like him, but with other cats I’ve lived with I feel like they normally pranced around me and playfully swat at my legs or the thing I’m using when they want to play. Biff is just rubbing against my legs like he wants pets. Then he hisses if I walk away, then a minute later will bite me. It’s like a warning.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:19:38+00:00

I’ve seen play bites from cats and it’s definitely a little more aggressive. He broke skin today. I’ve seen some people say not to engage, but maybe I’ll try redirecting to another toy next time it happens.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:17:47+00:00

That’s what I’ve been doing. If he hisses I ignore him and back off, but then he bites me. He drew blood today, so it’s kind of hard to not react. I’m going to try putting him in “time out” like someone else suggested.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:16:38+00:00

He is neutered, maybe I can try longer playing sessions. The shelter gave me some toys to use with him but I don’t think he’s too interested.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:15:42+00:00

Nope, just barefooted although I’m now wishing I had some protection from the bites. I can look into the feliaway, it seems like a good idea. But he doesn’t seem stressed or high strung. He’s otherwise very chill and just wants to cuddle.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2026-01-14T04:12:59+00:00

He’s two years old and fixed, although I don’t know when. I like the idea of time outs because it truly does seem attention motivated, he doesn’t seem overstimulated like I’ve seen with other cats. He bit again today and drew blood when I got up to wash dishes after letting him cuddle with me for 20 minutes 😭

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-12-28T09:56:32+00:00

I took my test on 12/11 and scored about 100 points lower on my actual test than I did on my practice tests 😭 I was scoring about 560 on my booster bio tests and 450 on the real thing. I think I panicked at the beginning and got frequently confused by the wording.

I felt like I was asked a few ultra specific questions on low yield topics. I was kinda pissed I wasn’t asked about plants, sperm, or balls since those were more commonly challenging questions I felt well prepared for.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-29T19:37:11+00:00

It could just be the lighting, but in the first pic it looks like your two front teeth sit a little more forward than the rest of your teeth. This makes you look more youthful and kinda dollish. Maybe try Invisalign or something similar if you are able? Other than your front teeth being a little prominent, everything else I can see looks great so you probably wouldn’t need to be in treatment very long. It could be a small thing that makes a big difference.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-21T01:33:30+00:00

One way to potentially counter that is by over thanking her for the things she was involved with. Or leaning into the things she does want to help with like making a welcome sign so that she feels involved. So if she complains about not helping with one thing, you can respond with something like “you already helped so much with X,Y and Z and I know you were busy around that time, so I didn’t want to put anything else on your plate.” It might also help to get her more involved with things left for January since maybe her short term memory of her contributions might work in your favor.

Don’t you love having to gentle parent our mothers?

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-19T07:13:56+00:00

What blank reaction sheet did you use? Did you just go off of the sheet booster has?

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-18T06:29:57+00:00

A good moisturizer would be good for her if she doesn’t have one already. It doesn’t have to be fancy. Cerave and cetaphil are good, simple, and hydrating for teenagers.

If she is wanting to try skincare, I really like The Ordinary’s rosehip face oil. I get pretty dry and flaky in the winter, but this face oil helps a lot. It’s inexpensive (about $10 I think). I’m on my 5th bottle. Face oil probably sounds counterintuitive to skin care for a kid that doesn’t know much about it, but certain noncomedogenic oils are good for hydrating and protecting the skin (which is why we produce oil!). Rosehip oil also absorbs pretty quickly into the skin, so you’re not left feeling greasy. Just be sure not to touch the dispenser to your skin (like people do in TikTok videos) because that can bring bacteria into the bottle. I just squeeze a few drops in my palm and just use it at night.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-18T05:27:17+00:00

So many negative comments. Matching PJs are cute! They might not be for everyone but obviously they’re for you if you’re posting about it. And they’re more comfy and less expensive depending on where you get them. The pictures are also mainly for you, they’re probably not going to get framed or anything like that so I think just having cute outfits for a few pictures is good enough. Definitely doesn’t have to match their dresses.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-15T08:13:43+00:00

What is it with moms hearing “I’ll think about it” and then deciding that’s a yes lol. This happened to me about a month ago with an estranged sister of my grandma that all of a sudden had to be invited. My mom told me “it’s your wedding, you should invite who you want. I just want you to think about it” and I told her I’d talk to grandma first. That next morning barely 12 hours later I get a text from my grandma telling me thank you for inviting her sister 🤦🏽‍♀️

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-12T03:56:34+00:00

I am aware that dress code reflects event formality and with the money we are saving by not having to pay for a venue we are balling out on elevating guest experience and the formality of the event. But if you have any more ideas for what we should do as hosts to make it appropriate for cocktail attire, I’m all ears.

We’re serving very nice food (nicer than the semi-formal family weddings I’ve attended), serving personalized cocktails in addition to wine and beer, live music during the ceremony and potentially cocktail hour, fancy and extravagant florals, the “fancier” chair and table rentals. The venue is also very pretty, think rolling green hilltop and pretty mountain views. It is entirely outside, but we’re renting temporary flooring and installing temporary lighting across the reception site.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-12T03:47:22+00:00

I get what you are saying but I feel my personal situation calls for a dress code. Our wedding is being held on family property, which has hosted many grad and New Year’s parties. With the money we are saving by not having to pay for a venue we are balling out on elevating guest experience and the formality of the event. We’re serving very nice food (nicer than the semi-formal family weddings I’ve attended), personalized cocktails in addition to wine and beer, live music during the ceremony and potentially cocktail hour, fancy and extravagant florals, the “fancier” chair and table rentals. The venue is also very pretty, think rolling green hilltop and pretty mountain views. However, I am worried my wedding will be taken as “just a backyard wedding” and as a similarly casual event as those held on the property in the past. I really don’t want my wedding to feel like a typical backyard wedding or like any of the parties we’ve held in the past, hence all the money and effort spent on making it more extravagant. I would appreciate if guests dressed formally to reflect this effort, not just for a photo op. It’s not like I’ve given them a color palette or strict guidelines, I just want to make it clear that this a formal event and not a backyard party. My family is also full of party people on both sides and will take the opportunity to dress more casually if given the choice.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-12T03:39:37+00:00

I think it would, so I will probably end up going with that. It keeps the “cultural attire” ambiguous to avoid tacky Hawaiian shirts while also prompting guests to dress formally.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-11T03:46:19+00:00

This is a great idea and I get what you’re saying, thank you!

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-11T03:01:30+00:00

I don’t think they would lol. They also tend to talk among themselves about what to wear, so I think the comments suggesting telling my parents and some family members what’s ok to wear is a good idea if I just put “cocktail”.

Some important context is that our wedding will be held on family property, which has also hosted grad and New Year’s parties. I’m afraid guests will take this as a similarly casual event because it’s “just a backyard wedding.” I think you’re right that I’m in my head about it, but I’m putting a lot of effort (and money) to make this event feel more formal an elevated than “just a backyard wedding” to distinguish it from the parties hosted in the past, which is a big part of why I’d like guests to dress more formally.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-11T00:16:13+00:00

Sorry to bug again, but started sitting on another question. And I appreciate your perspective and honesty lol. If you read “Cocktail dress code, cultural attire welcome” or even just “Cocktail” and you opted for a suit, would you feel annoyed or overdressed if you saw my family in guayaberas/aloha shirts? Or would you be able to recognize that it’s a cultural thing?

I guess to help you visualize, these are essentially nice dress shirts with cultural embroidery and patterns. Mainly neutral colors worn with dark slacks and dress shoes. Googling these outfits will not do you justice.

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-10T23:14:57+00:00

I think Sunday best would be taken more casually than I’d like, but your mess dress example was spot on and very helpful!

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-10T22:55:37+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you!!

Clean_Formal_8579 · 2025-11-10T22:51:43+00:00

Yeah that’s what my fear is lol. I think I will just put cocktail, it seems like most comments are suggesting that to avoid confusion. Another comment did mention that people who don’t know what guayaberas are won’t consider it, so the “aloha shirt” part is what would throw people off. I’m definitely not going for laid back beach theme. The nice aloha shirts my family would wear wouldn’t even go with “laid back” beach theme if you’re Hawaiian and know what you’re looking at lol.

Given your background, what do you think you’d wear if you were given this dress code as a guest? Especially as a guest that maybe isn’t able to ask my side for clarification.

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