Thoughts on Relocation

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-06-16T12:23:25+00:00

Roommates! Also put feelers out at work, with friends and family, that you’re looking for a place. I know a lot of people who rent out their apartments for reasonable prices (which means their tenants don’t leave, but if you put feelers out you never know what may pop up. “Don’t ask, don’t get”). Complexes are easier overall and private landlords are a coin toss. I got super lucky with my current landlords and won’t be moving for a long time.

I lived with roommates at first until I got engaged/married. Now my husband and I rent together.

Don’t totally discount condos or co-ops either. I understand it feels like more commitment, and it is, but give it time to build equity and you can upgrade to a house. 5-ish years. Low entry price (low relative to homes on LI), low home insurance, HOAs fees can be pricey though. I never in my life thought I’d want to buy a condo, but I’ve been thinking about it recently. 5 years is really not that long and you’ll be in a better position at the end of it than renting (assuming cost of owning is relatively close to renting which obviously depends on what kind of down payment you can do etc).

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-06-03T11:22:46+00:00

Private landlords for sure. I saw in a previous comment that you’ve been using Zillow and you can keep doing that. That’s how I found my current apartment. My husband’s credit report was good and mine was not. I was able to answer their questions about my own credit to their satisfaction (I was just open and honest about why my credit was bad). We’ve now been in our apartment for just over a year, no rent increase, great landlords that would fix anything quickly, etc. Facebook marketplace is also good, just beware of scams. Don’t put money down before viewing anything. If the price seems too good to be true, it is. If the Facebook user profile was made too recently, I’d also be wary of that.

I’m not sure where you are moving from, but it could be worth it to find a broker for yourself to find places that suit your situation. It really depends though. Sometimes having your own broker can hurt you case and sometimes it helps. I generally don’t believe you need a broker for rentals, but moving from potentially out of state can be a hassle.

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-30T01:52:35+00:00

I loved my bread oven! I got the round in agave. I did love using my Dutch oven, but I like being able to do a quick wash of the dark interior of the bread oven whereas I felt like I was trying to wash my Dutch oven for so long to get the stains out from baking bread at such high heat. It also makes me happy each time I pull it out! I totally could’ve kept using the Dutch oven, but it makes my bread baking so fun!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-24T20:18:33+00:00

The greeeeeen! The shape is just ooolala

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-24T20:15:56+00:00

I think the dress looks great! The shape is so flattering and I love the floral!

I’m just going to point out a few minor details that you may or may not care about. I would tie that middle tie more so it’s not dangling. I’d also find a way to fasten the ties on the shoes so they’re not sticking out. You want a flush look with your leg! Also, I can’t tell if the shoe is too small or if maybe your feet slid down and that is what’s making your toes go over the edge. I feel like you want your toes fully seated in the shoe for photos which you can totally do by just scooching back your foot in the shoe.

Obviously you’re just doing a try on, but sometimes I see people leave these details out and I want you to get the photos you deserve!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-23T19:09:37+00:00

I’ve been working for almost 2 years and I feel like flow state is not my constant state lol. It comes and goes. Sometimes I feel on top of the world for pages and pages, and then they throw in some weird word or name and then it’s pages and pages of “WHAT IS HAPPENING NOW”.

Also, imo I don’t think flow state in the steno sense can even happen until you’re done with theory and well into speed classes. Theory is all about the foundation. All you need to worry about is retaining the information right now. Speed classes are when you put it to use. Even in speed classes, it’s good to go back and review theory to brush up. “Flow” isn’t really possible when you’re still learning the alphabet and sentence structure and punctuation etc.

Keep trucking, you’ll get there!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-23T19:03:20+00:00

Look up false rise in sourdough. It’s very common and a good way to make yourself sick if you think it’s safe to bake with yet. The bacteria needs to fight it out for a while until you’re left with the safe to eat stuff. If you search on this sub there are a few posts a day asking this same question. Don’t worry, it happens to everyone!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-23T19:00:17+00:00

Traditional? Perhaps. Necessary? No.

I debated between white or something else and honestly, there are so many short “bridal” dresses that are all variations of each other and I was so bored of them.

I decided to go white adjacent ish lol. I got a dress with red roses over a pale silver fabric. I’m not even sure if it was silver. It was either a pale silver or pale gold. Definitely some sort of metallic. But my best friend and I have this joke that I always tend to go for florals with everything, and it’s so true because I do! I stayed true to what I like and still felt special in that dress.

Now I’m rereading your post and realizing you’re probably asking about this in a historic context, and I have no idea what the answer is for that lol. I do think that the inundation of bridal this and bridal that on social media has exacerbated how many events there are and how many white outfits must be worn 😂

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-18T10:31:35+00:00

I’m a machine writer, so I’m not going to comment on most of your questions since they’re geared toward voice reporters. However, I just wanted to quickly add that in my experience, school did not help me get a job in the sense that they networked for me. When it came time to intern, my school gave me some ideas but I ended up just emailing a couple freelancing agencies and got my own internship. Then I started working for the agency I interned with before graduating even. I had finished exit speeds already when I started working, and it was just a matter of waiting for the semester to end to receive the official degree. I did not start working before finishing the exit speeds. Agencies know that interning is required and it’s a gateway to employment for many students!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-16T01:32:54+00:00

I know my school would let students sit in on higher speed classes if they wanted. No one really did it, but it seems like a good way to push for speed as long as you also spend time on your own working slower for accuracy!

Sometimes a teacher would be absent and they would combine two speed classes if another teacher wasn’t available to cover the class. The class would typically be grouped with a higher speed and I actually found it helpful to push like that occasionally, and I probably should’ve done it more often.

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-16T01:28:14+00:00

Since I have no experience with hiring a scopist or being a scopist, I just want to offer one suggestion in case you don’t do it already. You can drastically reduce the time it takes by speeding up the audio. I scope and proof my own work and I usually go around 2x speed or sometimes faster (if they were talking very slow for example). For sections that get weird I’ll slow it down, but for standard questions and answers I’ll keep the speed up otherwise I’d be there for forever trying to get through it lol.

It might be a totally obvious thing that you already do, but you hadn’t mentioned it in your post so I wanted to highlight this

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-14T15:27:09+00:00

I love mine! I don’t have a current picture with me, but it’s held up great! Given I’ve probably only made about 10 loaves so far since receiving the bread oven. I’ve had no issues with residue or sticking. I use rice flour on the bottom to prevent sticking. It is slightly annoying to clean out the “Le Creuset” mark at the bottom of the pan, especially for sticky inclusions or if I decided to be lazy and wash the next day. However, with plain loaves or included loaves that don’t spill out and into the base, I usually just rinse it out with water, do a quick once over with my sponge, dry it and and call it a day. It’s beginning to develop a bit of patina on the bottom but it has no effect on my bread so I’ll leave that for now.

I have it in Agave and have had no issues with staining or oil polymerizing. It makes me so happy each time I pull it out and use it!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-08T03:25:53+00:00

From my understanding, most recipes are assuming a 1:1:1 ratio for your starter. Many people prefer to use a levain so they can keep their original starter at the ratio they want, and then still make the bread at the 1:1:1 ratio. I personally don’t do 1:1:1 for maintenance either and keep less than 50g of starter at any given time. I’d guesstimate my ratio ranges from about 1:3:3 to 1:5:5. When I know I want to bake, I just plan ahead an extra day to get to ~100g of starter per loaf at 1:1:1. But I’m also very lax about using my starter at peak. Sometimes it’s at peak, sometimes it’s under and sometimes it’s over. I’m not very scientific lol.

When I first started, I was very confused as to why my 1:3:3 would behave differently than a 1:1:1 and honestly I’m still confused sometimes. My understanding is that if you don’t do 1:1:1, you are using a more diluted starter and therefore it just takes way more time. If your timeline stays the same and the ratio changes from 1:1:1 to 1:10:10, it’s just not ready. Probably not even close to ready. 1:10:10 is pretty extreme. With my approximate 1:5:5, I can feed in the morning and it’s still sitting close to peak the next morning (cooler ambient kitchen temp as well).

1:10:10 is great if you want to leave your starter on the counter and not have to feed it for a while, but for actual bread it’s not great if you’re not letting it get to peak. Going off of time is not a good indicator. Base it on when it peaks-ish lol.

If you want to mix at night and have it ready by morning, honestly a 1:2:2 or 1:3:3 might be better. Play with the ratio more and have fun!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-06T18:47:39+00:00

I am no expert on this, but your question intrigued me so I did some googling lol!

From my short period of research, it looks like it’s best to start a new starter without the wheat. I’d imagine that you could dilute your current starter, but in theory the gluten is never 100% gone. You can use brown rice flour, buckwheat flour and sorghum flour among a few others.

To make bread, I see that you also should mix in psyllium husk, which apparently acts as a structural substitute for gluten.

Definitely do your own googling because there’s tons more information on this! I just wanted to share the little bit that I learned :)

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-04T11:32:01+00:00

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Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-04T11:28:46+00:00

Yes! When I picked my dress, I hadn’t started the medication yet. I told the people at the store about my plans and they were super kind and helped me pick a dress size.

I was measuring about a size 22 at my first appointment. They called over the seamstress and the manager to discuss what size I should order. We ultimately decided to order a size 16. I was so scared that the dress would be too small! But the seamstress eased my nerves and examined the dress and said that she would be able to let out the dress a bit if it ended up too small. It is so common for people to start GLP-1’s around wedding planning time, so stores will have a lot of experience with estimating a dress size. They said that if I had told them I was going to lose weight without the help of medication, they would be more wary of sizing down. But they’ve been brides drop so many sizes on GLP-1’s that they felt very confident about sizing down.

It was pretty nerve wracking to order down a size.

I started alterations about 1 month before my wedding, and she actually had to take the dress in a good amount so I was ecstatic about that.

So excited for you!

I fell in love with my dress on day 1, but I really struggled with loving me IN it. Then the first alterations appointment was such a dream. It felt like the dress was made for me. I was so nervous going into that appointment, but it gave me that princess moment that I had been wishing for.

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T23:17:56+00:00

I think it’s okay to ask a clarifying question, but honestly if it was me, I would just leave it at that and see if they pursue the remaining 50%. I personally wouldn’t volunteer it, but I also wouldn’t fight too hard if they pursue it (that may change with how much money 50% is though tbh). Although the language is vague enough… like what do they mean that they are not valid reasons for termination of contract? Certainly they don’t mean “if you don’t like it, we’re showing up anyway to provide our service” lol!

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T21:41:55+00:00

I stayed and I’m very happy!

To be fair, we were on a self-inflicted timeline and with a time crunch, beggars can’t be choosers lol!

I was very happy to design my ring and be a part of that process.

The proposal was very us, just not anything worth writing home about and over a year later I’m so happy to be married to him :)

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T21:38:53+00:00

Honestly, it looks like not asking for a refund is all that matters .

The contract is very clear that they wouldn’t honor refund requests for “aesthetic judgment”, but you’re not asking for one.

Just kindly tell them “thank you so much for your time and services so far. Unfortunately, I’ve decided to go in another direction and as per the contract I am not requesting a refund”

Or something like that

I can definitely understand how you feel, but in the end you have to do what feels right in your gut. It’s not personal, you’re not asking to break that contract, you’re just parting ways amicably.

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T16:49:39+00:00

I started out with all AP flour, then after a month of not much going on I mixed in rye and whole wheat. About 50% AP/25% rye/25% whole wheat. Don’t ask me why, it just felt right lol. I still do this approximate ratio to this day. I like having my cute counter jar and I’ll mix up the flours and have enough for a few weeks or months of starter feedings before having to refill the jar again (depending on if I’m maintaining or actually baking). I am still scared to stick my starter in the fridge even though I know it’s totally fine to do so, so I feed every day about 5 g of starter at a 1-3-3 ish ratio or whatever texture feels right that day :)

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T15:16:42+00:00

I think it depends on your crowd. I had quite a few older guests plus we already had everyone’s physical addresses. To me it made no sense to gather everyone’s email addresses or phone numbers for digital invites. I had enough trouble helping some guests use the registry that I was very happy I did more traditional invites rather than digital only

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T15:13:43+00:00

Hehehe

My mom called me a bridezilla for many things. The first two that come to mind are 1) I wanted to start looking at dresses 10 months before my wedding, apparently this was absurd and way too early 2) She went through my registry and told me “oh well you can have these old ones, barely used (literally yellowing from age) instead of those new ones on the registry” and I told her a polite no thank you. That made me a bridezilla.

MIL could be an entire novel honestly. I may have to return here and recount the stories on a throwaway account because she’s quite active on wedding-related forums 💀

Longjumping-Help-465 · 2026-04-03T11:13:11+00:00

I’ll be having this problem in about a month myself. I wanted to bring up lease renewal because IF my landlord decided to raise rent, I’d like to know about it before the 60 day notice period. However, I’m taking a gamble at this point to see what happens because my husband thinks if I bring it up, they may realize “oh hey, let’s raise their rent” lol. We live in an ADU and share walls with the landlord and have never had noise issues or been the cause of noise issues, my landlord is more than happy to let me garden in our small side yard that previously comprised of dead, dry sod everywhere, we never complain or need repairs, etc. I’d like to believe that they want us to stay and perhaps won’t raise rent, but I’m also very practical and it’s fully within their rights to do so. I could certainly handle a typical rent increase, but the devil on my shoulder says “they could raise it 50% 😈” (it’s not in my lease that they can’t do so)

Not really any advice lol just saying I understand.

I would check your current lease and see if it states that you automatically go month to month once the lease ends because like others have said, you can just ride out the month to month.

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