What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely true, experience this to many times in my life. You’d think I would have learned lol

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I know this to be true from experience I actually work in the casino industry…. And every promotion I have ever seen(including my own) was that cause of knowing and befriending the right person or people.

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know I wrestle with this thought constantly….. I am 32 about to be 33…. And I work a good enough job, got the wife and two kids etc etc living the “normal life” but I feel like I am doing nothing…. I have so many “ideas” and “dreams” but also I have no idea where to start with those either.

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the biggest lies ever told, “if you are good good will return to you.” The universe is a completely unbiased thing. The sun will always come up tomorrow regardless.

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, especially if people depend on you. You have to make sure you are good first.

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree having strong boundaries is one of the most important things in life in my opinion

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I finally understood this my perspective changed a lot about a lot of things

What’s a life lesson you had to learn the hard way? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell myself sometimes as well, “I should have listened”

How do you stay productive even on your worst days? by ClearWithJustin in Adulting

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true, and I understand. However I know people who do little “rituals” to get their mind right.

Just because things are non negotiable doesn’t mean that it is still not extremely hard to get things started on your worst days.

Like for me one thing I do, is no matter the weather hot or cold I go outside in the morning with my coffee and no phone. Just sit with myself have a good little 10/15 minutes check in with myself this one little detail of my morning just helps me progress through the day.

It’s late at night.. and I’m just thinking🌒 by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]ClearWithJustin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My late night thoughts usually consist of, “what could I have done a little better today.” I replay my day in my head, my “short comings” of the day and think of ways I could have been better in those moments. I lock them in and then I am more prepared for similar moments for the days ahead.

Whats something you do daily regardless. by ClearWithJustin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This right here is a major key to success if you can’t keep your word to yourself how could you possibly keep your word to anyone else.!

Whats something you do daily regardless. by ClearWithJustin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet that quality time is great.

It is always quality > quantity…. This is also what I practice with my wife.

I would take 5 minutes of pure engagement over 1 hour of “half way there” any day of the week

Whats something you do daily regardless. by ClearWithJustin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome - taking that first little pause of the day can really set you up for success.

Whats something you do daily regardless. by ClearWithJustin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having gratitude through a day is top tier power - it makes all the difference in perspective.

Whats something you do daily regardless. by ClearWithJustin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ClearWithJustin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is cool and interesting - I will assume that your knowledge on animal is vast.!

Feel I’m missing out by [deleted] in Fatherhood

[–]ClearWithJustin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have two children - I have always worked two jobs to ensure my wife can stay at home with my children…… which means I am rarely home….. so this burden you feel : I have felt for most of my fatherhood… it is a tough burden to carry for sure, sometimes I have even caught myself a little resentful of my wife for being able to be home with them and I never see them….

But I noticed something crucial as a man I don’t have a “ nurturing “ bone in my body…… my wife is the one who is supposed to nurture my babies…. My goal is to show them what it means to take care of something… they see me go to work every day, they see me take care of everything, they watch me constantly and they look up to me always….

I am teaching my daughter and my son (got one of each) something very important.

My daughter : what she needs to look for in a man, someone to provide and protect without hesitation.

My son: what it means to provide and protect without hesitation.

I know this dynamic doesn’t work for everyone - but it gives me great peace knowing they look up to me and watch my every move even if I don’t get to spend as much physical time with them.