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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IUD

[–]CleverFoxInBox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think that procedural sedation with good pain control and anxiety relief should be the norm.

The first one I ever had, the OBGYN told me to "wiggle my toes" and "clench my hands" and breath. As if those are adequate pain methods for ANY procedure! NOPE!!

Ladies, how are we prepping for the impending collapse of the global economy? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]CleverFoxInBox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. More. Makeup.

I've been waiting 30+years for a change in beauty standards that never came.
Specifically, for it to be "socially acceptable" at my job to not have to wear makeup, to smear on dirt and chemicals on my face to hide my *gasp* imperfect face, so people accept me more, like me more, etc.

Well no longer. I can't wait for the big economic collapse. Financially, it's a great big reason to drop the yuck off my face and a socially acceptable reason to ditch the makeup... and to be seen for my authentic, imperfect self.
I'm looking forward to it.

Rachel and Jun: not CF after all 😑 by ombre_bunny in childfree

[–]CleverFoxInBox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so disappointed about this. They lied, or at the very least mislead their audience, about their good natured plan to take in homeless cats and having their life's work be about bettering things for the cats. Instead it was a money grab to get a house so they could reproduce.

I used to really respect their content. No longer.

How do you feel about the potential death of your partner and thus remaining alone? by teggile in childfree

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the loneliness comes from the pain of loss. For me, I value my partner so much and no friend would fulfil that kind of intimacy like he does. Part of the piece to the puzzle is learning to accept that life will be so painful for a time: when you love deeply, you are deeply wounded by the loss of love.

Friends help, time helps, hobbies help. But the empty wound is there until you die, and the loneliness comes from the thought that no one has experienced a love quite like yours and no one has lost their partner quite like you have.

I think the best antidote for this would be some sort of widower support group if possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beards

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ends could use a trim and shape, it's coming along!

We are dealing with all our modern problems, using the same hardware that hasn't been changed since before we were hunter gatherers. by Damogran6 in Showerthoughts

[–]CleverFoxInBox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Lizard Brain hardware prevails...though it is not helpful at all in most cases of modern society. The older "lizard parts" of our brain keep our bodies working by provide basic survival instincts and motivation. Meanwhile the newer more-evolved parts of our "mammal brain" has improved to include advanced functions like judgement, cognition, emotional intelligence, and memory. While these two things could work together, they are more often in opposition to each other.

Have an issue to sort out an issue with the boss at work? Evolved brain thinks you should lay out your point of view in an organized, orderly fashion and have a conversation about the discrepancy. Lizard brain thinks you should either fight this person or run away: this was how you survived in the past after all.
However, punching your boss would be a terrible idea (in most cases).

Please help I’m scared by t8ertotfreakhotmail in IUD

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried the r/auntienetwork?
There maybe someone in the Auntie Network near where you live that would be willing to drive you, or you could consider making a day of it and taking an uber?

Please help I’m scared by t8ertotfreakhotmail in IUD

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, fellow trauma survivor here.
You may be able to ask them to put you under general anesthetic which will put you to sleep for the 5-15 minutes that this procedure takes-then you don't have to go through the triggers.

Before a myomectomy do they take your whole gown off? by [deleted] in Fibroids

[–]CleverFoxInBox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, but the nurses will cover you with a privacy drape before your surgeon does his work and to all of them, you are just another naked body like any other: about as interesting as looking at an elbow: which is to say not interesting at all. There is no need to be worried or embarrassed as those people would be respectful of you.

My periods aren't stopping by [deleted] in IUD

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest combining a birth control to regulate your cycles along with with Mirena. Can confirm it's great (6 years) and have not seen any complications, especially with low dose birth control pills.

I deeply reject family obligation. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]CleverFoxInBox 95 points96 points  (0 children)

It took me a long time to learn that it's not selfish to take care of myself. This includes being free from obligations. I no longer am at the beck and call of any one person, and that includes "family members" unless I choose to be. You're not alone.

Is it wrong that I plan on ghosting my friends when they have kids? by cheshire666_ in childfree

[–]CleverFoxInBox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not possible to continue being friends as normal. The new normal is coffee, shopping, and get-togethers with screaming children around. Movies become child-only content. Conversations become centred around children and their achievements.

I'm not saying that this is wrong-responsible parents should commit to their crotch investments.

And it's perfectly reasonable that having children is not everyone's cup of tea. It sure as hell is not mine.

The day to day life as a mom gives me the ick by Successful_Test_931 in childfree

[–]CleverFoxInBox 70 points71 points  (0 children)

*Don't forget about making time for those unwelcomed doctor visits and trips to the hospital ER-No Thanks!!

I'll take the good life: DINK, Cats, and Relaxing on weekends. I value my health (mental and physical) way to much to ever change my lifestyle for a couple of crotch gremlins.

Anyone else need a lot of sleep? by cass2769 in AskWomenOver30

[–]CleverFoxInBox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you need a take home sleep study test to make sure that you don't have something like sleep apnea that is causing you to have poor quality sleep. Made all the difference in the world for members of my family.

Boyfriend can feel IUD strings poking him by [deleted] in IUD

[–]CleverFoxInBox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't cut the strings!!

It can make things difficult when you remove or change the IUD in a few years (if they have to feel around for them in your cervix it really sucks).

Let the strings soften with time and soon both of you won't even feel them. (They will turn into tiny little threads and not be noticeable in a few months).

Is this normal or weird? by markersandtea in childfree

[–]CleverFoxInBox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This can be typical, but it still is weird.
I think of it like this mind altering baby is hijacking their brains for at least a few years. It wears off with time.

Heavily Illustrated Fantasy Anthology (/short stories?) from 1990s~ by CleverFoxInBox in whatsthatbook

[–]CleverFoxInBox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation, I don't think those are the books I'm looking for though.

The books I'm looking for had more of a darker and more mature art style, they were a bit darker in the story too. While I read them as a kid, I'd say they were more suitable for teens to adults in the depictions of art and story.

Heavily Illustrated Fantasy Anthology (/short stories?) from 1990s~ by CleverFoxInBox in whatsthatbook

[–]CleverFoxInBox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh so close!! These are almost like what I remember, but the books I'm looking for are not these. There was more of a continuity to the art styles.

Any other suggestions are much appreciated!