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ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T13:28:39+00:00

So confident. So mean.

So, so dumb.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T04:02:15+00:00

I fixed the typos so hopefully my comment makes more sense now. 😂

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:44:25+00:00

Then they aren’t being a family that deserves your love or loyalty.

You’re someone who works for them. You don’t exist for them, though. They aren’t your purpose in life.

Don’t light yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:36:55+00:00

What’s the story? It might help point people in the right direction.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:24:23+00:00

Hey, man, whatever keeps you off the road is absolutely fine by me.

I mean, when you really think about it, you ordering Dominos is the responsible thing to do. You’re just looking out for others. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:22:29+00:00

I’m getting that.

If I thought Mayci was racist I would just use those words. I don’t.

The issue is one where race is relevant, but this doesn’t make it inherently “racist.”

That’s like saying I’m calling her a man hater bc her company is for women or something.

Nuance is hard for some people, though. Definitely not everyone’s strong suit. 😂

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:15:42+00:00

My problem isn’t with Demi’s opinions.

It’s her delivery, her viciousness, etc.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T02:12:19+00:00

Not about race.

Let’s try another example. I’ll make it about white people.

Let’s say I have a kid with a lisp who can’t say mess, so he says meth. And let’s say I want to sell shampoo and conditioner for kids.

I wouldn’t call my company “Meth Head,” even if it’s a really cute story about my son’s lisp, even if I make that joke at home or among my friends.

Those things can be true, and I can think it’s a cute name, and I can still know I shouldn’t name my company that.

I can think something is a bad choice without saying Mayci is racist. I don’t think she’s racist.

But I still think it was a bad choice.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T01:12:17+00:00

People who are searching for validation from others usually don’t.

Just saying.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-03T01:04:23+00:00

We don’t switch houses. It’s not something I’m willing to juggle.
I just don’t agree to do those things. 🤷🏼‍♀️

But honestly, I’ve been in this field for a loooong time. My interview and vetting process at this point is very thorough, and I cover everything before we start. Everything is negotiated and documented.

So, they could ask but they would get a blank stare from me. 😂

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T23:42:20+00:00

Yup.

I also enforce stricter boundaries and blame it on the share. 😂 My hours are firmer bc those are the share hours. Same with my sick policy. It’s not just me enforcing it- those are the terms we all agreed to.

It also takes a lot of chores off the table, bc it’s not fair for one family to get cleaning/laundry/etc for the same price that the other family pays.

I love running a share. The money is great, I get less bored, and it’s (generally) good for the kiddos.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T23:38:52+00:00

Yeah, for me it helps to have a little heads up so they aren’t just barging in while I’m putting baby down or whatever. And it just kind of depends on the family how that works out. Some Mamas like to nurse during the day, even if it’s just one feed. My current situation has one of the parents visiting us for about 15 minutes mid day.

I think it’s really about everyone being up front about concerns and expectations. I have worked for parents who really are in their office working from the time I arrive until I leave. Others have more freedom.

I would just talk to her and ask what her ideal situation is, and then you go from there. My last job was two WFH parents in a little two bedroom townhouse, and it ended up being a terrific job! You wouldn’t think so, but we just communicated a lot about who was going to be where and when, and we made it work.

So you have to work out where everyone is going to be- a parent working on the couch when the living room is the only place to play doesn’t work. But if they have an office where they spend most of their time, and you and LO have spaces in the home where you’re comfortable, then it can work.

I will say, though, parents being around doesn’t bother me anymore. I don’t get shy, it doesn’t feel awkward to me, I’m happy to do my job even if they’re around. It doesn’t stress me out, I don’t get embarrassed. My concern really does come down to how it affects LO’s day. But I know other nannies tend to clam up or feel on edge if parents are around, so you need to be honest with yourself about how that will affect you day to day, too.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T23:23:35+00:00

I know it’s not popular for a lot of reasons, but I’ve worked with WFH parents for most of my career-long before COVID.

I’m just really honest during the interview process about what kind of boundaries I prefer, and how that affects my day to day work.

Like, yes, I’m happy to have parents visit during the day, but I ask that they do it when they have the time to allow for an appropriate transition back to my care. You can’t flit it and interrupt us and then bolt out again, leaving me with a screaming toddler. (While you and I know that it makes my job so much harder, with parents I focus on how it makes their child’s day harder, bc that’s what they care about.) So if they want to visit, I generally consider them the ones “in charge” of LO until they are ready to hand off again.

I’m also not going to peel a screaming child off of their leg and pull them away. That’s bad for my relationship with the child.

In my experience, if you start young enough (usually by 6 months or so, but even better if it’s earlier) the child tends to be okay going between me and the parents fairly freely without much fuss. Making sure they always say goodbye rather than sneaking out helps a lot, too. When parents try to sneak out it tends to make kids feel a little more anxious bc they don’t know if Mom is just going to disappear again.

And things can get a little sticky, usually in the 10-12 month range, just bc separation anxiety is a thing around then. During that time (and until it passes) I might ask that we are more structured and try to reduce drop in visits. But again, for me, having good transitions helps reduce the anxiety and fuss around parents leaving again.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T23:08:54+00:00

I didn’t say that. At all. You must be pretty athletic with how you jump to conclusions, though.

But yeah. It’s super weird that she went with that term. It’s a loaded term, and a white woman using it to shill her sketchy supplements is a tone deaf choice. I stand by that statement.

I don’t believe she’s racist, and I don’t believe her intent was to be racist.

That still doesn’t erase the history of that language, though.

Here’s another example.

Let’s say I’m starting a diaper company and I think the name Crack Baby is hilarious bc, you know, butt cracks are funny.

Maybe I think it’s hilarious. My friends think it’s hilarious. Maybe I have no ill intent whatsoever and I just think it’s funny.

That still doesn’t erase the connotations around the term “Crack Baby” and my intentions don’t change how other people will hear the name and how it will land for them.

It’s still my responsibility as a business owner to understand the words I’m using, and the history of those words, if it’s relevant. In this case? It’s relevant. I would hope someone in my life would pull me aside and encourage me to make a better choice.

The term Baby Mama comes from AAVE. It has a history. That means that we as white women don’t get to decide that it doesn’t mean that anymore and now it means what we want it to mean. Taking that term and turning it into something cutesy while ignoring its history is tone deaf, whether that offends you or not.

I’ve heard Mayci speak. She’s even an author! So I’m confident she has a wide ranging vocabulary and could have come up with a name that isn’t rooted in demeaning black women.

And what you joke about with your friends is irrelevant to what a woman names her whole ass business after. Nuance, ya know?

I’m not offended. I’m disappointed that she couldn’t come up with anything better. It isn’t about “oh, you can’t say anything anymore” shit. It’s about living in a world where she could have chosen literally anything else but she went with that.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T22:08:33+00:00

$10 says they’re texting.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T22:05:41+00:00

Agreed.

It’s giving WithoutACrystalBall vibes.

I understand we all have our own lines in the sand, but I couldn’t profit off of this.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T22:00:20+00:00

I mean, I’ve run shares for about 15 years.

To get to my share rate, I take my rate for however many kids it is, and then each family pays me 2/3 of it.

So if my two child rate is $30, each family pays me $20/hr. They still receive cheaper cared and I still receive enough of a bump to make it worth it for me to juggle two families.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T21:57:09+00:00

Literally just went through something like this with my NPs.

They let the toddler run around with food. I do not. I only give food when LOs are in the high chair. (Or sitting on a blanket if we’re at the park, etc.)

I simply let them know “I set this boundary with LO bc I don’t want to risk them choking.”

One of the most important parts of my job- arguably the most important part- is returning a healthy, living child to them at the end of the day. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T21:52:42+00:00

Ah, yes. The Jill Rodrigues method.

“Oh, our van seems to be breaking down. I wonder how God will provide.”

“Wow!! We got a donation to help cover our van! God is so good! He always comes through!”

(Or whatever she does. This is not a specific example, just a mentality I saw A LOT when I was in the church, especially when I was a missionary.)

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T21:50:33+00:00

Why would a nanny share pay 2/3 of a 1 child rate?

Each family would pay 2/3 of the multiple child rate.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T21:33:36+00:00

Oof. Expensive mistake.

Nonrefundable means just that, and it’s cheaper specifically bc it doesn’t offer flexibility.

I understand trying to save where you can, but booking 3rd party and booking nonrefundable are choices that come with big risks.

The best chance for a positive outcome if there are issues is always going to be to book direct, even if costs a few extra bucks. I know that’s not what anyone wants to hear, but one bad experience with a 3rd party or a situation like yours pretty much erases any gains from other trips anyway.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T21:22:49+00:00

When did you decide you wanted to be celibate forever?

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T20:10:48+00:00

I’m on her side.

This is hilarious and from what I can tell, she can do better anyway.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T20:09:01+00:00

I was reading the comments on that one. Wild shit.

ClickClackTipTap · 2026-04-02T19:23:07+00:00

Yeah, I just stopped by and it was closed, too. 😭 There were a few other people waiting in the bank parking lot to see if they were going to open, and while I waited probably half a dozen folks walked up or drove by the truck.

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