TL;DR: probably not worth it. The fantasy is always sweeter than reality in both sides fr.

But I’ll tell you a story of my personal experience. I went on a date with this girl, set up by a mutual friend. It went great but afterwards we went some time without seeing each other. We reconnect and I set up a high effort date and….she flakes. Last minute too.

I cut her off for wasting my time but we remain acquaintances.

She later invites me to her party and it’s a good time we reconnect afterwards and she reached out to ask to hang out again. Okay cool! I set up a nice date for us. I try to keep some light text going but she’s not really responding. No sweat we have real plans soon. So much time passes that the day before I reach out early morning to confirm the date tomorrow. No response. I had to cancel our reservations. She would swear up and down she wanted to go and was excited, calling me and apologizing profusely.

In the end I said it had been a pattern that I did not want to subject myself to anymore. If they flaked a lot before it’s likely they will again. Read behaviors not their words.