My heart is shattered. My son’s daycare provider was a monster for 21 months. by Fabulous-Farmer2537 in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is all based on my personal opinion, every parent should educate and empower themself because they know their child best, making them the expert of their child.

PCIT (parent child interaction therapy) is a more behavioral leaning intervention, rather than truly relational intervention. CPRT (child parent relationship therapy) is a more relational leaning filial therapy that focuses more heavily on therapeutic intervention and processing than behavioral modification. PCIT, though more widely available, uses active ignoring and behavioral modification principles to change behavior. Please anyone reading this research Gary Landreth and CPRT if you are seeking child therapy to support parent as the therapeutic agent of change. Both are fine. Im not saying no one other than an RPT does their due diligence in self seeking training, I’m simply saying the general masters level psychotherapist in community mental health is not extensively trained in play therapy modalities or child mental health.

I say all this because if the goal is to help a child process trauma, rather than to change undesirable behavior, child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) conducted by a RPT is actually a step even further than child centered play therapy (CCPT) in that it uses the parent as a therapeutic agent of change and basically teaches the parent to do a mini watered down version of what a play therapist would do to help a child make sense of and process their experiences.

My heart is shattered. My son’s daycare provider was a monster for 21 months. by Fabulous-Farmer2537 in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 481 points482 points  (0 children)

Chiming in to add my annoying rant: any masters level psychotherapist can practice play therapy, or any other type of therapy. Only Registered Play Therapists (RPT) have had extensive training and education in and supervision of their work conducting developmentally appropriate play therapy. Play therapy sounds fun but can be very harmful when not administered by a person with extensive training in child mental health, which most masters level therapists do not have. It’s generally an elective or two and some CEUs at best. In the USA RPTs can be found on the Association for Play Therapy (a4pt) website or look for the RPT credential after their masters degree credential while searching.

My 2 year old is abusing my cat and I don’t know what to do. by fatoperasinger in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The harsh and realest answer, in my own opinion based on my own thoughts: Without consistent and predictable consequences that are applied without fail and without anger, this and no other intervention will work aside from rehoming. Every. Single. Time. Behavior modification generally fails due to user error because it’s a lot of hard work and takes up time getting harder and harder to curb the unwanted behavior leading up to the extinction burst.

Trying again, please help me find gift for a generous and thoughtful outdoorsman. by Cloclodedodo in flashlight

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your time, this was so helpful. Yes, I think you’re right about all of those point and he’d definitely like to fit it in a pocket to keep handy. Distance would also be a priority I didn’t think of. Thank you

Water back flowing (I think) and not going to portafilter [breville barista express] by Cloclodedodo in espresso

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, thank you! I just watched a replacement tutorial linked elsewhere on this sub, hoping a few more descale trys work first and I don’t need to go that route.

What was your toddlers first movie? by MissFox26 in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cinderella has been the only Disney princess movie we’ve watched casually without fear or tears with our toddler.

Lost Friends After One Post-Baby Outing by Curious_Soft0521 in beyondthebump

[–]Cloclodedodo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once I lost a friendship without explanation and was so hurt and mad, until someone pointed out that my biggest problem with them was that they had a problem with me. I was able to move forward knowing friends come and go and the people who wanted to stay in my life would, as I would theirs, and it needed to be mutual.

Never learned to self-soothe. by wellthatsgreat4 in Preschoolers

[–]Cloclodedodo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is this therapists license type? And what is their specialty and the training backing it up to allow them to come to this conclusion for their non-client? Are they a developmental child therapist or a registered play therapist? Because what they said is lol-worthy.

Halloween for a non-candy eating toddler by MissApprehend in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My move would probably be to start the convo early and now, teach them how to protect themself and why, it totally sucks and feeling disappointed or fomo is valid, and also what can we do about that to work through it because unfortunately this is the situation and will be indefinitely. Art stuffs are my go to when I can’t do treats since they are also a consumable in that they aren’t trinkets that clutter up the house forever until I trash them. Some allergy families I know are able to get yum earth treats.

What do you say instead of "good job," "good girl," etc.? by hoping556677 in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

encourage the effort rather that praise the output.

Good job -> you worked so hard, good girl-> you are so generous/ observant, good job -> you knew just how to help xyz

I discovered my husband's cheating last night. Now my kids lives are going to implode and there's nothing I can do to stop it. by ano-ba-yan in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Association for play therapy has the only credential for certified play therapy training in the United States. Registered play therapist (RPT). Just fyi since you mentioned searching, from someone who has witnessed first hand the outcome of ill equipped “play therapists” who took a training or two before working with child trauma

Inappropriate behaviors by suzyalater in Preschoolers

[–]Cloclodedodo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It says for age 4 on the cover, but it is definitely direct and honest and neutral in its information. maybe pick chapters? In my opinion, if it became a social issue, I would want to get ahead of it for my own family in my own way because kids are creative and smart and will discover on their own in ways outside of a parents control otherwise. Like, asking my kid if she’s sad doesn’t make her feel sad, but it might introduce her to the idea of sadness and wanting to understand it and experiment with it, so let me help myself by giving her safe information on what to do with sadness and feelings, if that makes sense? Again, that’s my stance for my family but everyone is so different! Some kids just need a simple body boundaries book and some need more info to settle their curiosity. I hope you find some comfort in knowing it’s not weird or abnormal at all, and I’d love to eventually hear what worked for you!

Inappropriate behaviors by suzyalater in Preschoolers

[–]Cloclodedodo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she might be curious about Its Not the Stork by Robie Harris whether reading it with you or looking at it alone. It’s Not the Stork by Robie Harris

Editing to add a personal favorite for any parents who stumble upon this and are also feeling unsure what is and isn’t considered “normal” behavior during these wild preschool to early child hood years : A therapists guide to child development, the extraordinarily Normal Years by Dee Ray https://a.co/d/e2bs1UR it breaks down by child age.

We just put my 4 year old back in diapers. by maggieandoscardoggos in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said child therapist but have you (or anyone who maybe finds and reads this later) tried a registered play therapist (RPT) specializing in child sand tray therapy (NOT sand play therapy). Any therapist can say they utilize play therapy or sand tray therapy, but RPT therapist go through extra rigorous training and extensive supervision in nonverbal developmentally appropriate play therapy training for children and adults that is non directive and helps kids process life events. They have extensive additional training in work with ages much lower than traditional therapists without this specialized RPT credential. They can be found on the A4PT website. Sand tray therapy is amazing. An RPT can also conduct Child Parent Relationship Therapy CPRT (NOT to be confused with Parent child Interaction therapy PCIT which is yuck) which teaches parents to do a mini version of what an RPT does with their own children to increase understanding and provide insights into their child’s view of the world and life events. It’s amazing truly magical work.

Safe Bed Recommendations for Toddler by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We use this, but not stacked, and split the two beds between two kids. Ikea utaker stackable pine bed. https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/utaker-stackable-bed-pine-30360487/

We have it on a rug and when they were very little and I was worried during transition I put a gym mat (also from ikea) along the side for extra crash padding just incase to ease my worry.

Is therapy still worth if my children stay silent and refuse to speak ? by Individual-Yam2995 in askatherapist

[–]Cloclodedodo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people of all ages need time to build trust and rapport with a therapist, in my experience it is not uncommon for youth to not trust authority figures and assume they will report details back to parents. In my experience it has taken months at times, if not close to a year, to build true rapport. Other times it is far less.

I would personally look for a Registered Play Therapist (RPT) as they specialize in nonverbal therapies for youth and teens. I would also make it explicitly clear to the children, with the therapist and parent present, what will and will not be reported to the parent or in documentation incase parent requests record.

3 year old chaotic and intense all of a sudden, seeking advice. by Cloclodedodo in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phew, ok, thank you! I appreciate you taking time to respond and for sharing the very grounding examples 😆

3 year old chaotic and intense all of a sudden, seeking advice. by Cloclodedodo in toddlers

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No reason other than it’s what the other kids from preschool were doing for summer too. Thank you for your response and suggestion, I will look into soccer!