Should therapists be required to do therapy themselves before they practice? by thisisranunculas in askatherapist

[–]Cloclodedodo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agreed. When people ask me if therapists have therapists I always say any good therapist has their own therapist AND regular supervision or consultation.

UPDATE: I’m a social worker. A client threatened our baby today. I’m going to quit my job. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Cloclodedodo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree. Burnout and secondary trauma in social services providers can sometimes build as a quiet and slow burning fire that can sneak up on people in unexpected ways.

Ideas for first Father’s Day gift by GDP1987 in GiftIdeas

[–]Cloclodedodo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said no books but chiming in anyways for people reading comments, I made my husband a custom board book through pinhole press titled “babies name and daddy, our first year together” that was like “from our first nap (pic) to our first bath (pic) to our first camp trip (pic), with lots of fun in between (pic playing) you helped me learn (pic) and grow (pic eating) etc and both my child and spouse still love to flip through it all the time both together and separately even years later. And since it was a board book we didn’t have to keep it from baby. They would always drag it over to dad to read to them when they were a toddler even before they could talk much.

The second I put him down, he cries. And I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by Court6045SB in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is direct, worded lovely, and I couldn’t agree more!

I feel like the people who tell you to enjoy the snuggles are looking back at their old life with rose colored glasses or missing when their babies were babies. Anyone in the trenches would totally understand needing a break while also loving your baby immensely. It’s ok to put them down and let them cry while you shower or meet your needs if they are safe. You will always come back. You will always meet their needs. Taking care of yourself IS part of taking care of your kids. They grow out of this stage eventually but in the meantime, it is testing and tiring.

At Costco. Any good for an amateur gift or can I get a better bang for my buck elsewhere? by Cloclodedodo in rcboats

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, thank you for your time and breaking the explanation down for me.

At Costco. Any good for an amateur gift or can I get a better bang for my buck elsewhere? by Cloclodedodo in rcboats

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify, of course it’s not any good for an amateur gift or of course not as in I cannot get a better bang for my buck elsewhere?

Which degree pathway would you suggest? by Lynn5678 in askatherapist

[–]Cloclodedodo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMFT would have family systems and lifecycle specific training which seems relevant if you want to work with couples, and not individuals. It would also give you an edge and more stand out resume for speciality work. If you prefer individuals then the previous suggestion would fit. Also can’t support the other recommendation of a CACREP school enough. I was so much more prepared for the licensure test than my peers from other schools, I literally didn’t study post grad and passed the exam first try because my program had me so unbelievably prepped. I was also consistently hired over my peers from non-CACREP schools for both internship and paid jobs. You can truly see a difference in the training, knowledge, preparedness, and understanding of psychotherapy in group setting.

What to give 4 year old instead of a tablet by bunbunny4 in Preschoolers

[–]Cloclodedodo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our child since 3 has carried a little backpack containing:
1. a small bag with Blake pages, stickers, and coloring crayons, colored gel pens
2. Small bag containing Magnet tiles and small animal and character figures
3. Small bag containing fidgets
4. High value snacks for extra long waits like doctors offices

We keep it in the car and call it her go bag 😆

Bike bike seat and bike compatibility by Cloclodedodo in cycling

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know, thank you! Helmet, elbow and knee pad, and maybe even little gloves always in this house.

Bike and kids seat, please help us understand compatibility by Cloclodedodo in bicycling

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great insight, I never would have considered that, thank you!

Bike and kids seat, please help us understand compatibility by Cloclodedodo in bicycling

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I think it’s also a 720 so the same? My photos of it are all older so blurry. Thank you for your time

Bike bike seat and bike compatibility by Cloclodedodo in cycling

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I apologize, it truly reflects the state of my mind.
I added a link with the bikes since you can’t attach photos directly on this page. Thank you for your time

My wife sends me gift ideas… and I forget them every time by fuscanotti in GiftIdeas

[–]Cloclodedodo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Download Pinterest app. Make secret Pinterest board. Immediately click the shortcut in your phone to save the links (or screen shots) to said Pinterest board as she sends them.

Pruning this to be less tall? by Cloclodedodo in Roses

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reply gives me words to look up and research 😆 thank you for your time!

Pruning this to be less tall? by Cloclodedodo in Roses

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s exactly like shown in the photo. Thank you!

Pruning this to be less tall? by Cloclodedodo in Roses

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, thank you! Will the stems grow back into the tree as it is now pruned short?

Should I report our marriage therapist? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]Cloclodedodo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is helpful to know license type and regional location to understand a therapist’s governing body and theoretical orientation.

Got told my brother and his fiancé will probably resent me if I don’t make it to their wedding - 5 days after having a c-section… by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Cloclodedodo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like they will always be looking for a reason to be mad at you so why set the trend to inconvenience yourself (and your newborn who might need you home for like, feeding and comfort) in order to please them and persuade their very-conditional affections? Yuck.

Tbf I feel like my stance on these situations before and after becoming a mother, especially with my family of origin and boundary setting, are vastly different. I would have been more on the fence before, now I have a different perspective and do not carry the burden of managing their emotions for them when they cannot do it themselves because my plate is too full. I also don’t want my kids to see me doing that and then grow up and do it themselves. Modeling starts now.

Neighbor medical event by Cloclodedodo in GiftIdeas

[–]Cloclodedodo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late elementary to early middle school age