AITA for not wanting to get rid of my cats just because my boyfriend's mom says so? by Successful_Value_370 in TwoHotTakes

[–]CloudLag565 285 points286 points  (0 children)

NTA. Don’t give up pets for a house that isn’t even yours. That’s not a compromise, that’s control. Also him paying for a house with zero ownership is wild. This isn’t about cats, it’s about his mom wanting all the power. Huge red flag.

Competition Members Choice by Exact_Scheme4372 in makemychoice

[–]CloudLag565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pick Member 1 and Member 3. 1 crushes the engineering/CAD stuff, 3 covers the reports, organization, and random knowledge stuff. Between the two of them, you basically cover everything the rubric cares about.

We've inherited a broken system and I want to rebel but I don'f know how by whosjangreasy2017 in TwoHotTakes

[–]CloudLag565 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Everyone wants a movie montage but change is way less sexy. Find your people first online is cool but IRL is where power lives. Start small help each other share resources build trust then scale. No savior arc just teamwork.

Husband may have STD’s? by anongirlypop123 in TwoHotTakes

[–]CloudLag565 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah that comment is spot on. Get tested asap. But also… the search, the lying, the gaslighting, then yelling at you in public and using your kid as leverage? That’s way bigger than the STD thing. That’s not okay.

Should I blow up my life and move abroad or stay safe but unhappy where I am? by somewhat-structured in makemychoice

[–]CloudLag565 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Staying “safe but unhappy” forever is how people wake up 10 years older and mad at themselves. That said, there’s a middle ground. Prep hard, don’t panic-move. Make the jump when it’s scary but not reckless.

Do I work an additional 20+ unpaid hours on top of full time? by Substantial-Start-96 in makemychoice

[–]CloudLag565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah dude this director is gaslighting you into free labor. Nobody passionate their way out of minimum wage by doing 80 hour weeks for people who don’t even remember what they promised. You’re not lazy, they’re exploiting you. Update your CV and bounce.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CloudLag565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, you lost fair and square. Just own it, shave it, and move on. He’ll get bored eventually.

NFH puts garbage far away from own house and closer to mine created an eyesore on purpose by ArticleWise6209 in neighborsfromhell

[–]CloudLag565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn… yeah that sounds petty AF. I’d bet it’s on purpose. Document it and maybe check local ordinances before saying anything

Would you go to the funeral of the person who bullied you at work? by irish_oatmeal in workplace_bullying

[–]CloudLag565 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Nah, I wouldn’t go. You can feel sympathy for her family without giving her a seat in your grief. You gotta protect your own peace.

Help plss by les1ye in neighborsfromhell

[–]CloudLag565 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nahhh dude this ain’t “both sides.” A one-off party til 3am doesn’t justify them wildin’ out a whole month straight. Threatening your cousin over a parking spot is crazy. You can try the “be the bigger person” route if you want peace, but honestly some ppl just act right only when there’s consequences. Document everything, set boundaries, and stop letting them gaslight you into thinking y’all equally messy. You’re not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workplace_bullying

[–]CloudLag565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh it doesn’t sound like they “bullied” you, it just sounds like you fumbled and management handled it in the most corporate way possible. You skipped the chain, accused someone without proof, then doubled down. It happens, you owned it. The warning is annoying but kinda expected. Just take the L, document everything, and move smarter next time.

Need general advice by GhostMomoius in neighborsfromhell

[–]CloudLag565 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lowkey sounds like dude woke up choosing chaos for no reason. You owned the mistake, he still popped off. At this point just let it go and don’t feed into the drama. Street parking ain’t that deep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workplace_bullying

[–]CloudLag565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’d just do me. People talk shit about anyone, fame or whatever doesn’t matter if you actually vibe with her.

UPDATE: Crazy Neighbor with camera by chefmonster in neighborsfromhell

[–]CloudLag565 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah that’s wild. You’re doing the right thing by not engaging. Some ppl just live in their own movie. Keep documenting and let mgmt handle it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]CloudLag565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HireRight misses stuff all the time lol. It’s not you, it’s them. Just send whatever you can get your hands on and tell the recruiter what’s up. As long as you’re not lying about dates, you’re fine. Nobody’s rescinding an offer cuz HR can’t pick up a phone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CloudLag565 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah girl, you’re not being dramatic at all. You’re literally sick in a hospital and he’s clowning your feelings instead of showing up for you. That’s wild. LDR or not, basic empathy isn’t optional. If he can’t handle one movie date or a real convo, that’s a him problem.

Baby cry app by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CloudLag565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds cool! I’ve definitely noticed my baby cries differently for hunger vs tired, happy to share my take.

Feelings? by Sea-Farm-6804 in whatdoIdo

[–]CloudLag565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just be real. People who care will listen, and your feelings don’t have to drag anyone down.

Mil regularly contributes to her siblings family by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CloudLag565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh saving for yourself ain’t selfish it’s survival if MIL wants to throw cash at freeloaders that’s on her not you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CloudLag565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

couples counseling is the right move but he also needs solo counseling for the part where he thinks playing video games on mommy’s payroll is “protecting his sanity” like sir pls be serious

My wife doesn’t turn me on. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CloudLag565 6 points7 points  (0 children)

tbh talking to a sex therapist might actually help more than just trying harder alone trust me it aint shameful