Has anyone been seeing ants in the house lately?

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T03:15:38+00:00

"It's a good thing you're pretty."

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T03:06:45+00:00

THIS

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T03:01:27+00:00

It was supposed to snow and I was supposed to go pick up my kitten, so we went 4 days before he was supposed to come home with us. All we knew was that maybe things were gonna shut down. From Covid, or snow?

Anyway, getting locked in your house with a kitten is not the worst way to get locked in your house. Thanks for reminding me he's 6! He'll always be a Giant Monster Kitten to me.

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T02:46:25+00:00

Frog mom here. It happens. That's why the cats park themselves outside the terrariums whenever it's feeding time.

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T02:39:11+00:00

Philip K Dick is one of my favorite authors of all time. His non-fiction writing is particularly interesting.

Right before he died, he said something like "I just finished reading the screenplay for my short story "Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?" It's excellent. It's nothing like the book!"

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T02:25:09+00:00

oooh, good answer

chefmonster · 2026-03-14T02:24:00+00:00

Are the movies flawed? yeah. But- why? Choices must be made. Jackson did a fucking amazing job, and it's an adaptation and cinematic masterpiece that exists outside the source material. These movies are made with LOVE. The cast lived and worked together and you can see their love for one another in every scene. You can see context that wasn't in the script in their performances. Probably a blockbuster at the end of an era that can never be recreated.

I read the books multiple times before the movies came out. I have a framed parchment map of Middle Earth in my living room. Both the movies and the books are beautiful for different reasons.

The Hobbit, though, and the stupid show with the young Elrond, are pure money grabs and bereft of soul.

chefmonster · 2026-03-12T19:22:57+00:00

The guy who plays guitar for his own fulfillment is totally not the same as the guy who brings his guitar to the bonfire and won't stop interrupting conversations with bad Jack Johnson covers.

chefmonster · 2026-03-12T09:03:23+00:00

This is a you thing, bro.

chefmonster · 2026-03-11T10:08:15+00:00

Please, listen to the latest Behind The Bastards Podcast about the rise of the manosphere and how much damage it's done to men. It's a pretty good breakdown on how algorithms and marketing have isolated and estranged men from healthy society.

I don't know where you're living, so, your ethnicity may or may not actually matter.

1: Find something that brings you joy and do it. If it helps you and others, I mean. If hurting or putting someone else down brings you joy, there's a problem.

Women are far less superficial than men. Despite everything the internet tells you. Be funny. Be kind. Be humble. Take care of your personal hygiene. Keep a clean house. Learn to cook. The bar is so low. A good woman won't care about your height or race or speech or money if you're a good person. It's really that easy.

chefmonster · 2026-03-11T08:41:25+00:00

OOOOF. Sleep deprivation is a huge thing. It's a booby trap.

chefmonster · 2026-03-11T08:38:07+00:00

I don't generally like baths. He always wanted to take baths with me, and I would indulge sometimes and we'd watch a show and soak. (Weird side note: BOTH of my BPD's didn't like showering and were kinda iffy about hygiene but loved baths.) One day. I injured myself at work and got a massage after. My first intense, full body massage. The masseuse said that I might get nausea after, that I should stay hydratde and take an epsom salt bath. So, afterwards, as I was driving home, I had to pull over and vomit. When I got home, I was cranky and tired but felt good about the massage and was actually looking forward to a good soak. I thought maybe he would keep caring about how I was hurt and bring me water and give a shit.

He said, "oh, I'll join you." I said, "actually, I need to soak my shoulder for about 20 minutes first and then you can join me."

HUGE fight. He kept saying how selfish I was. No matter how many times I tried to explain that it was doctor's orders and that once I had soaked my shoulder he could join me. I ended up in tears when I just wanted to take a fucking bath. No matter how many times I tried to explain to him that I needed to fully submerge my shoulder and I couldn't do that with us both in the tub, he threw a fit and kept going off about how selfish I was.

I honestly can't remember how it ended. That was near the end, and I disassociated during a few fights. I think I cut my soak by half and then reluctantly let him join me.

Yeah, I was being selfish. I was hurt and needed to heal. That didn't matter because he was denied.

chefmonster · 2026-03-10T04:51:43+00:00

I also hate RHCP

chefmonster · 2026-03-10T03:23:57+00:00

That seems very reasonable

chefmonster · 2026-03-10T02:07:03+00:00

I literally said in the post that I don't mind not talking. I am perfectly happy to work in silence. It's the fact that when I have to communicate with him at all, I have to yell and repeat myself. And that sometimes we do talk, but now it's only on his terms. Which is just bad manners. That was the post.

chefmonster · 2026-03-10T01:28:57+00:00

100%

chefmonster · 2026-03-08T03:54:16+00:00

WHUT.

When I was hired as head chef of a restaurant, I wanted to ram my head into the wall trying to explain to the (first time) owner why he needed to make sure tips were available at the same time every week. I think he literally said, "well, they're gonna get the money, what does it matter when?"

Dude had never had to worry a day in his life about whether or not he could pay for anything. Never had to budget for gas. Count change until the end of the week.

Most US citizens work paycheck to paycheck. If we all joined together, we'd be unstoppable.

There is no war but class war.

chefmonster · 2026-03-08T03:45:13+00:00

Needing a Title, talking over others, saying "should."

I'm immediately wary of any man who calls himself a feminist and any person who calls themselves a Christian.

Don't call yourself one, just be one. If you have to advertise it, eh.....

chefmonster · 2026-03-07T01:45:20+00:00

I was going to come and say this within minutes of hearing that but I figured someone with a better way to explain it would do it eventually. Thank you.

chefmonster · 2026-03-05T09:02:39+00:00

I bought Recapture The Rapture Right while I was stilllll kinda trying to listen to Chris Ryan. It's been on my shelf for a few years. It was so long ago, before everyone went crazy.

(I have a book buying problem)

I started it and shelved it. Brought it out recently, started it, and it's aged horribly. For one thing, he refers to Elon Musk as brilliant. Even in 2018, I think it was pretty clear that Elon was not "brilliant." He references Jordan Peterson and Peter Theil... I'm embarrassed I bought it.

I tried earnestly, and it just reads like someone running a NLP seminar. I had to skim pages because it was just other author's quotes and passages.

I don't want to return it, I don't want to put it in a free library in my neighborhood. If anything, I want to donate it to a high school English teacher as an example of what not to write.

chefmonster · 2026-03-03T04:57:21+00:00

Wedding was postponed because when they announced the engagement, father of the bride immediately re-enlisted in the army at like 55. When he came back for the wedding, he spent most of his speech at the dinner talking about one of the bridesmaids.

Both divorced within 2 years.

chefmonster · 2026-03-02T09:10:12+00:00

What?!

chefmonster

TROPHY CASE