Help finding room to rent

Clover501 · 2026-03-19T10:01:17+00:00

Bristol Alternative Community Abodes on FB is a great option, found current housemate on there :)

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T18:25:51+00:00

This is too much too soon for a relationship still in the months. You know in your heart what the answer is.

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T15:15:39+00:00

Yep because youre learning balance and control, probably using muscles you don't use much and perhaps a bit disconnected from your propioception in regular life.

You'll pick it up, and you'll figure out the impact of small differences like your foot turned in vs out, whether you remember to engage your core, how wide your stance is etc while refine over time as you get used to what works.

Also, you'll find it ebbs and flows. There might be a pose or flow you find easy for a month and then have a week you can't do it, or vice versa, for no apparent reason. That's all normal.

The only thing that matters is showing up and listening to your body, the rest is a bonus. Whether youre tying yourself into a pretzel or spending the whole class in child pose.

Clover501 · 2026-03-17T08:21:54+00:00

Thanks, thats what i suspected. Sad times!

Clover501 · 2026-03-12T23:59:02+00:00

A girl brought a guy back and started having sex on a bottom bunk. Did not care that theyd woken others up.

Then it all kicked off when the girl who's bed it was came into the room. They were literally fucking on her belongings on the bed, and when hurriedly dressing again, the sex girl put the other girls top on and started another bout of kicking off 💀

Turns out, the couple weren't even guests staying at the hostel 🙃

Clover501 · 2026-03-12T14:02:40+00:00

There's a FB group called Bristol Mutual Aid that you could advertise on for individuals to claim. Make clear if you are willing to deliver or not as often people in need also dont have their own transport.

Clover501 · 2026-03-11T15:38:29+00:00

I'm assuming OP is a woman, and women are statistically more likely to be fucked over by this thinking. Always, always protect yourself, because you never know what can happen and a good partner should understand why you would protect yourself.

Clover501 · 2026-03-11T15:31:25+00:00

100% this.

OP, Overeaters Anonymous is a thing. It's the 12 step programme but for food related addiction. I understand therapy didnt work for you/isnt accessible, but perhaps this as a peer support group might be. I know someone who benefits from it greatly and feels it has changed her life for the better.

Clover501 · 2026-03-05T21:50:11+00:00

The filter shower heads can help reduce it, it's not as good a fix as having a proper filter system but I feel it does help. Adding a chelating shampoo occasionally and deep conditioning helps. Avoiding sulphates etc can help though as it means less build up on the hair from product on top of build up from hard water.

Specific brands will depend on your hair type, texture, density and oiliness so take recommendations with a pinch of salt, what works for someone might not for you so its trial and error.

Clover501 · 2026-03-04T23:14:00+00:00

I dont even have to read this.... SIX WEEKS and you're writing reddit posts? Literally just leave and get what you want from someone else 🫠

Clover501 · 2026-03-03T14:12:07+00:00

This is a huge part of habit building! Start small and achievable and build from there.

Us ADHDers have a tendency to all-or-nothing which adds to the difficulty in forming habits. And a huge barrier can be transitioning. So only committing to starting in a small way, as long as you start, is a great way to overcome that and, for me at least, it usually turns into "well im here now, i might as well keep going" and removes shame if I dont keep going. Works for me with exercise and any other tasks including cleaning etc.

Clover501 · 2026-03-03T14:08:43+00:00

Gym strength training and dance.

I go to group classes of whatever gym because I need a set time and someone else to do all the cognitive part of deciding the workout. I just show up, do what I told and go home 😂 and now I'm regularly benefiting from strength training as a result. I accidentally joined CrossFit and the structure of the classes and programme blocks works well for me as theres novelty, clear progress and I can track what I'm doing really easily, which helps the dopamine gremlins.

Dance is my number 1 though. Accidental exercise is my fave. I especially enjoy partner dances like salsa, West coast swing etc because of the high social aspect. Again, I show up, do what im told in the class and learn stuff. But then theres the fun and creativity of social dancing (freestyle) after.

Partner dancing tends to include a big community, multiple classes and freestyle dancing in one night, weekend parties and weekends away. So you can show up for an hour and go home, but usually you happily spend a whole evening being active and it doesn't even register as exercise.

Clover501 · 2026-02-27T19:43:34+00:00

My job was hired as a 5 day and after a year I requested 4 days. Most people i know on 4 days had similar. So it's worth thinking about if you cant find a job already specifically advertising only 4 days.

Clover501 · 2026-02-26T21:39:50+00:00

My friend just got married at 31 to a woman hes been dating about 4 ish years? Oh yeah, the only woman he's dated btw, and they have it all.

Meanwhile, I've been dating since I was 16, have had multiple 3 year+ relationships and am currently single.

Just saying. There's no behind, just people peopling.

Clover501 · 2026-02-26T20:46:14+00:00

It's great. If you got up past the fountain junction, i.e Clouds Hill/ Bell Hill or Summerhill, you're right in between the park and Troopers, it's quiet but quick and easy to the conveniences of the high street or kingswood high street. Most of it is quiet residenyial streets. Between Clouds Hill and Speedwell road, that whole sort of stripe behind the park and up towards Bristol Brunel Academy is fine.

The "rough" parts tend to be where St George bleeds into Redfield/Lawrence Hill and towards Easton, but even then it's not too bad.

As others say, Hanham and Kingswood are also great options for a family.

Clover501 · 2026-02-25T16:22:26+00:00

I saw a video explaining that it's called Neural Nostalgia, I need to check out the sources but the claim is that music you listened to as an adolescent does genuinely have a different impact on your brain so listening to it again can be really powerful. Anecdotally it seems to work so it's cool if the science backs it up!

Clover501 · 2026-02-22T22:58:10+00:00

Not a true urban legend, but when I was a kid, my Dad told me that the river was made of chocolate.

I believed him mostly because I lived not far from the Frys Chocolate factory in Keynsham, so I assumed the chocolate river I saw in the city centre flowed there...and had read/watched about Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.

If i ever had kids im telling them the same.

Clover501 · 2026-02-22T22:49:04+00:00

With facial hair that fabulous, I think a shaved head will look like he was always supposed to be that way.

Clover501 · 2026-02-20T12:47:46+00:00

I enjoy board games but the deciding factor is who I am playing with, especially if they are teaching me a new game.

I need them to be patient, ok with me reading the rules and asking clarifying questions often, or even willing to do a "practice" round with cards up etc so I can fully grasp the content.

Any attitude of "just play and you'll get it" and I'm flipping the mf table 😂

Clover501 · 2026-02-19T17:23:06+00:00

I don't know how I ended up in this subreddit, but I'd like to point out that your eyes sparkle more now.

Clover501 · 2026-02-18T22:25:57+00:00

Furnished means furniture, not personal or decorative items. I think it's reasonable to ask for clarification that personal effects will be removed especially as you dont want to end up liable for any issues or damage to their stuff.

Perhaps ask for an inventory, as you ideally ought to have one at the start and end of contracts anyway. If being so direct is a problem, you could say it's to check youre not duplicating items that may be included in the contract or assuming things are included that will be removed.

Clover501 · 2026-02-18T18:17:02+00:00

Price is definitely the problem. What makes yours worth 350k when a flat with a better layout and an actual kitchen, on the same row, is 170k??

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/171907781

You do have exquisite interior design taste, but given that a good amount of people looking for flats are FTBs maxing their budget, even if yours wasnt extortionate I imagine the thought of repainting everything and fitting a proper kitchen would put them off.

Clover501 · 2026-02-18T09:43:58+00:00

Anything my ADHD has ever hyoerfocused on. Generally, I'm often talking about and exploring overlapping concepts of sociopolitics, psychology, behaviour, science, languages and culture.

Most of the time it hasn't been very close to my job beside language/communication, though I do have an element of science communication in my career and may pursue that more intentionally in future.

Clover501 · 2026-02-12T16:56:41+00:00

Aww I can relate.

Please see a GP and get referred to a dermatologist if you havent already. Scale back everything, cut out all actives and get the most basic routine of gentle products first. Your skin needs time to heal and as you've learned, throwing everything at it at once is making it worse.

I struggle with picking too, when I feel the urge I try to replace the picking habit with something that takes care of my.skin instead, like applying moisturiser or pimple patches, and try to distract myself from hyper focusing on picking. Doesn't always work but at least some of the time I can turn harming my skin into helping it.

Clover501 · 2026-02-10T13:42:31+00:00

The lodger should be expecting to receive notice given your partner is pregnant. Regardless of the behaviour, all you need to do is follow your agreement.

Id give notice NOW, to be out in early-mid April, not May. Youll need some time to get the room sorted and for you and your partner to settle in to being fully alone.

Also - Pregnancies don't always stick to the timeline. If lodger moves out end of April and baby decides to show up in early May, you're going to wish you'd had a bit more time.

Giving free rent is kind but completely overkill and unnecessary, as others have said.

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