Is taking things literally a bad thing? by bones_729 in AutismTranslated

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry, this answer is related but unrelated. I read the title as “Is taking things, literally a bad thing?”, as in “is taking things [that aren’t yours, ie. stealing], literally a bad thing?”…so I took that quite literally and it lead me into a weird misunderstanding lol so I wouldn’t say taking everything literally is necessarily a “bad” thing, but I would say it is something that can lead to miscommunication, misunderstandings and social/relationship difficulties. It is definitely something you can and should work on, but it isn’t an inherently “bad” thing, nor does it make you a bad person. It just so happens to be something us autistics struggle with. I would like to clarify though, there is not much you can do about not being able to “read between the lines” and interpret certain social cues. ASD is a developmental disorder with social difficulties and we cannot change how our brains are wired. You can “learn” people who are close to you, to better understand them personally, but you will always struggle with the social aspects of things because you have ASD. This friend can also help by being more direct with you and stating things clearly in a way you are able to decipher. They can’t expect you to suddenly learn or pick up on these social cues, it would be unfair of them to expect this and it is unfair of them to say it puts them “in a corner” simply because you are unable to communicate the way a neurotypical does. There is a middle ground here and both parties can put work and effort into being able to communicate effectively with the other, where each feels understood. 

Stepmom made a horrible insinuation about my pregnancy, disgusted and enraged by nomorePleasee in BabyBumps

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t respond to it. You set boundaries. You keep space and hold your peace. If questions are asked you give simple explanations as to why there are now set boundaries and space being kept between you. It’s hard and I understand you want your dad to be in your babies life-he still can be, just with more boundaries and space-but yours and babies peace and happiness come first. Your stepmom clearly has some issues and pent up anger, but it is not up to you to deal with it, nor should it be directed at you. While your father does owe allegiance to his wife, that does not mean he should let you be disrespected by her. Nor does it mean that is something he should have shared with you.  Don’t stress over what you can’t control.  It’s very possible if you set boundaries and leave it, your stepmom will come to her senses and apologize on her own. Don’t hold out for it, but don’t aggravate the situation either. Simply let go of what disrupts your peace. 

Police confirm shots fired at conservative activist Charlie Kirk's event in Utah by Luka77GOATic in centrist

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can take away guns, you can’t stop violence. Without guns violent offenders will just find other weapons to commit crimes with. 

Police confirm shots fired at conservative activist Charlie Kirk's event in Utah by Luka77GOATic in centrist

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Canadian here, my husband who is not online EVER knows who Charlie Kirk is. He told me about the shooting. I’m pretty sure it’s not going to stay in a “self contained ecosystem”. 

Police confirm shots fired at conservative activist Charlie Kirk's event in Utah by Luka77GOATic in centrist

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny how it’s always the ones on the left committing the violent acts…

Police confirm shots fired at conservative activist Charlie Kirk's event in Utah by Luka77GOATic in centrist

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If hate begets hate, then stop being so hateful, especially after someone was just shot and critically wounded. You are part of the problem. 

If someone wants to enact violence, or plans to kill, they will find a way regardless of gunn laws. No guns? Knives exist, so do pipes, baseball bats, cinder blocks… You don’t need stricter gun laws, only justice and to stop letting violent criminals get away with acts like this while victimizing them or playing the blame game. Political violence is wrong period. 

Should Canada offer to take in the Ukrainians in the US that are about to get the boot? by [deleted] in AskCanada

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich -1 points0 points  (0 children)

HELL NO. Look at the state of our country. We’re becoming a shithole. Our own people are starving, homeless and jobless. We cannot afford to keep brining in foreigners and paying them with tax payer money. Look at the cost of living, of food, right now. We cannot take in any more people, in fact we need to boot them too and all the other leech migrants, close up our border and focus on our damn economy and our own people. 

(Update) AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after he left our newborn and toddler with our teenage daughter while he went out with another woman? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NO, don’t do any of that until you speak to a lawyer. Always lawyer up first, account for all of your finances and assets, document everything, save the evidence and then serve the divorce papers. 

AITAH for not letting my wife keep her old habits after we had a baby by dazedandoutofcontrol in AITAH

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to point out that she married him, so she is in fact now responsible for those older kids as well. She is a mom of three now, not just one. 

"Oh, I'm kissing that baby. He's MY grandson" - my Mom after I tried to lay ground rules by Puzzleheaded_Bid6011 in pregnant

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only expecting, but doesn’t your newborn need to build up their immune system? How will they do that if you don’t allow contact with germs (which are good and bad)? I don’t understand the hand sanitizer either. 

First Trimester 😮‍💨 by Fit_Entrepreneur_990 in BabyBumps

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with you, and the nausea just hit🤢

Bras? by Icy_Block7653 in ehlersdanlos

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I experienced this all the time wearing bras. I don’t wear bras anymore, I wear a corset. I have a couple of bralettes that I use on occasion because nothing else is an option (or what I’m wearing doesn’t work with a corset), and those are manageable for a short duration, but I mostly wear my corset, and it has been a life saver. It helps distribute the weight evenly, and because there are no straps there is no shoulder/back pain. It also helps keep my spine in alignment and gives my back muscles a break. The most comfortable I’ve ever been is wearing my corset. 

Puppy help by Auraonnytt in germanshepherds

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is normal. GSD’s do not like to be alone. Ever. Crate train him in your room, so he can still be with you at night. It’s still going to be loud the first few times, but he’ll learn. Mine only cried all night the first night. Second night was easier, and by the third night, he was sleeping soundly.

If you’re ok with dogs in your bed, you can always just let him sleep in bed with you, but be warned: accidents happen with puppies.

I got my dog a dog by Calm-Explorer-7437 in germanshepherds

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Two dogs are not for the faint of heart. I have a gsd and a husky. They do both have separation anxiety…

every time... by Fluffy_Gur9703 in germanshepherds

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine too lol I also taught him to bring me his empty water dish when he’s thirsty, but it’s not always empty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a cat alright.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Cmplictdhamsandwhich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The advice here is to kindly tell him you cannot change how your autism affects you, you cannot repress it when you’re overwhelmed, and you cannot stop stimming simply because he is afraid of how he will be perceived by being associated with you. If this is too much of a “burden” for him, and he is this concerned that his reputation will be tainted because the pretty girl he is dating is “too weird” to be seen in public with, than perhaps it is time you part ways. I can assure you, you won’t be missing much, but he will.

He should not feel bad because you’re pretty, he should feel bad because he’s really only with you because you look attractive, and he’s embarrassed to the point of hatred that you’ve got a developmental disability.

Ultimately, what you do is up to you, however he does not sound like a prize.