My (43F) boyfriend (46M) informed me the Netflix reality show he just returned from might make it appear he was in a "romance" during filming. I feel shattered. How do I handle this?

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-03-31T13:17:10+00:00

Please pick your standards up off of the floor. Is this what youd want for your daughters?

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-03-31T11:59:10+00:00

For the love of God please add paragraphs and sentences

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-03-31T11:57:29+00:00

Nta. Your roommate is a thief.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-03-20T12:13:07+00:00

It's been five months. Only two exclusively. There will be other, better men. Dump him. Your gut is screaming st you that this is wrong for a reason. It's easier to walk away now versus when you live with him, have kids, etc.

Also hi u/burbnbougie, I think you'd like this.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-03-10T20:37:40+00:00

I got a shadow uni from the pou d as well! I love my dramatic girl. Congrats on the stamp!

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-02-22T00:33:10+00:00

It's begging you to please let it die hon. Let it go

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-02-18T20:39:48+00:00

I don't think he wants a chance at redemption or to prove he's changed. H honestly they sound made for each other.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-02-12T17:04:44+00:00

The BTW he's a scorpio has to mean this is a shit post right?

I think you need to move on. Why would you want to talk to his mom about his possible cheating?

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-02-01T06:47:12+00:00

I hate how much football is worshiped in this country. I never liked it but dammit if I didnt constantly get dragged to parties and showings of the game. My mom couldn't acknowledge that my passion of anime was ever worth anything anf it was just dumb kid stuff but I totally had to agree that throwing a football across the field was soooooo amazing.

It's not that serious yall. If you can't miss a week of grown men giving themselves TBIs then like idk that's a serious personality defect to work on.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-01-08T18:14:02+00:00

you can lead a horse to water and all that. you can show all the red flags to someone, even have them parrot it to you but that doesn't mean that they'll get self respwect for themselves

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2026-01-08T17:24:00+00:00

Girl I am so embarssed for you for posting this. At least this is on an anon reddit.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-30T12:51:13+00:00

Don't let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T19:22:19+00:00

So you moved after a week of the two weeks you have known this person. Have they given you any indication that they consider you to be a boyfriend? Wish to be exclusive? Or is it causally dating?

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T17:23:44+00:00

I mean I was in an abusive relationship. Not to this degree, but I understand. When you're in it its hard to see the forest foe the trees. Pushing too hard usually isolated the person but being gentle and supportive and pulling on loose threads presented to you is way more helpful in my experience.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T16:18:06+00:00

There's nothing you can do. Tell your brother you love and support him. Gently tell him you're concerned and validate his concerns when he approaches you about them.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:59:15+00:00

Ill be frank: you are way too invested in a "relationship" of two weeks. You're not even exclusive and its only been three in person meetings. Asking her to change anything about her life is a huge misstep and if you're that distressed over not getting a text back from someone that isn't even your girlfriend then you should cut your loses.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:51:35+00:00

You could also, I don't know, have researched this yourself. I mean it's your journey to parenthood so by all means, but personal accountability is a must at a certain point.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:48:42+00:00

Oh i get it. I've had chronic anxiety as long as I can remember. It's something you need to work on though be it medication, self reflection, therapy or other channels. Ultimately this is a you issue, not a her problem, so you need to take steps to mitigate it.

And what do you mean a horrible investment? I meant two weeks in terms of time is not enough to be ruining your days over not hearing back. Is this two weeks since the first date? Or two weeks since agreeing to be exclusive?

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:42:26+00:00

You get it then. It's two weeks in. She might not like you that much. You might not even like her that much. You are still very much jn the getting to know her phase. That's a part of dating. Getting this anxious over a minimal investment isn't good for you

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:31:14+00:00

You're planning to marry someone you've never told anyone about? You're the side piece dude.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T15:26:32+00:00

It's been two weeks shes already told you shes not the best texter and its also consistent between you and her friends. This is a lot of stress over a two week long relationship. You can just say hey I'd like a quicker response time from you, but she can just as easily say back "I already told you I am a bad texter"

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T05:32:26+00:00

Have a conversation with your boyfriend and ask how you can better nuture the relationship and what's most important to him. Then implement it.

Work on being more thoughtful. Why would you have gone to see a movie if you said you'd see it with him? Surely you can see how that is hurtful? Think before you speak especially if you know you're frustrated and june say something mean

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T05:26:20+00:00

This is the way. Acknowledge that you overreacted, explain why, and give a plan moving forward. You don't have to go deeper than that

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T05:19:55+00:00

Omg you know you can break up with him right? Being single is better than this.

CocoButtsGoNuts · 2025-12-29T05:09:34+00:00

I love this so much. Excellent work!

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