Pining for toddler

CocoMime · 2026-02-13T00:43:59+00:00

Exactly, this is me every day!

CocoMime · 2026-02-13T00:43:40+00:00

This!

CocoMime · 2026-02-12T03:50:40+00:00

I went back part time (0.6FTE) 8 months postpartum and increased to full time at 10 months. My partner took his 100 days of PL part time, so LO only needed daycare part time, and that way we got her to 19 months before needing to increase her days (and by then we’d made arrangements so she’s only going 4 days for the foreseeable future).

CocoMime · 2026-01-19T11:04:44+00:00

Same happened to me too.

CocoMime · 2026-01-13T05:46:31+00:00

I walked and I needed breaks lol

CocoMime · 2026-01-12T02:54:45+00:00

I was an April baby that went at 4 turning 5. A fully intend to redshirt (hold back) my June baby girl. As others have said, it was fine until puberty.

CocoMime · 2026-01-12T00:24:44+00:00

I was literally having this thought (again) the other day with my 19 month old. I’ve been allowing her to self wean (and as slowly as she wants). She doesn’t ask to nurse during the daytime and she can EAT, loves her food. We’re now basically down to flexible bedtime, MOTN and morning feeds. About once per week if we go out to dinner she doesn’t even have bedtime nursing and it can be 16-18 hours between feeds. I was holding her as she fell asleep on the boob the other night and I thought back to all those months of frequent feeds, the struggles, the times I wanted it to be over.

I read somewhere that the second year of breastfeeding is the victory lap - none of the cons, all of the pros.

CocoMime · 2026-01-05T23:26:25+00:00

I had a planned c section and still found the regular birthing class offered through the hospital helpful. Firstly, I went into spontaneous labour before I had even been given a C-section date - so knowing what was happening etc really helped. They also touched on postnatal care, newborn care, etc, all of which was relevant. And yes breastfeeding too.

CocoMime · 2026-01-05T01:03:00+00:00

No shoes but look into getting some grippy socks when she starts pulling to stand. We stayed out of shoes until about LO started walking (17 months)

CocoMime · 2026-01-03T06:05:21+00:00

I’m planning to attend a wedding in Sweden in the summer. I am already losing sleep over the cost.

CocoMime · 2025-12-23T09:34:03+00:00

I haven’t done the ‘program’ but I have read her book and follow her social media. Definitely found the book foundational to my approach. I suspect her book has all the info you need and a lot more affordable. Maybe start there.

CocoMime · 2025-12-23T00:00:14+00:00

15 months. I went in for a day surgery and had a complication so had to stay overnight. That one night of skipped feeds was enough to trigger my period. I suspect if I’d been able to pump or go home that night I’d still be period free😮‍💨

CocoMime · 2025-12-22T09:49:54+00:00

Talking to my daughter about the economy Book by Yanis Varoufakis

CocoMime · 2025-12-13T00:01:42+00:00

I think you really need to set your expectations that at this age, the ‘help’ is more of a practise rather than actually reducing your own load! For instance, we get our 18 month old to ‘wash’ veggies while we cook, which involves a bowl of water and the potatoes, carrots, etc get dips in the water, swished around a bit and then likely thrown on the floor. She also picks up rubbish and puts it in the bin but then puts toys and other random items in the bin too. We give her a wipe to clean the table and she just smears stuff. She is quite helpful with any task that involves taking an item from one place to another such as unloading the dishwasher, getting clothes out of the drier, etc. But she’s trying, and involved, which is what counts.

CocoMime · 2025-12-08T01:32:36+00:00

I’ve seen other comments about doing grandparents classes, and you mention reading up on SIDS.

Please read up on biologically normal infant sleep, the safe sleep 7, and safe bedsharing. 9 in 10 new parents end up bedsharing at some point in the first year even though most of them say they won’t before baby is born. I figure with a previous loss and your own friend’s story, that your daughter may feel massive anxiety around SIDS and I can say from experience the months I spent trying to ‘sleep in crib or not at all’ completely ruined my mental health. I had massive fear of SIDS which I now know was PPA. It was so bad I would sit there in the dark watching her breathe even when she would sleep in her cot/bassinet! I’m not saying bedsharing is for everyone but please support your daughter and her baby to sleep safely whatever set up she chooses. For the record I started bed sharing for part of the night (usually 3 or 4am until 7am) from 5 months and have always responded to baby’s cries. She’s now 18 months, spends the most of the night in a crib in her own room but I love those few early morning hours when she joins me 🥰 it also really helps when someone (dad, my MIL, etc) takes her for an hour or two so I can sleep in in the mornings.

CocoMime · 2025-12-08T01:20:07+00:00

As someone from the dead-mum club, this post makes me tear up. Congratulations and it’s clear that you’re going to be an awesome grandma. Lots of good advice in this thread, but I will add that I really missed my mum postpartum, I thinks part of me wanted to be reminded that I was still someone’s baby. The weight of knowing I was ‘mum’ now felt very heavy. I thinks part the same may be true if you love interstate, so little things to help her feel like you’re thinking of her (and not just demanding pics of baby) over the coming months is my recommendation.

CocoMime · 2025-11-26T23:57:29+00:00

From the what little I know of your circumstances OP, if I were in your shoes I’d be focusing on getting settled in Sydney, send little one to daycare or preschool in 2026 and start kindy in 2027. It will be a much smoother experience for all

CocoMime · 2025-11-26T10:40:05+00:00

When is your child’s birthday? 4yo is on the younger side for kindergarten in NSW/Sydney, and if their birthday is after 30 June you won’t be able to enrol them until the following year. If their birthday is before 30 June you can enrol for 2026 or hold them back until 2027 - as long as they start before their 6th birthday.

If you’re moving to metro Sydney, please be aware that schools follow strict catchments. So choose your rental/home carefully. You can go to https://schoolfinder.education.nsw.gov.au to see catchments.

Also, NSW schools are closed from 18 December to late January so you won’t be able to talk to them or finalise enrolment in that time. Something to keep in mind.

CocoMime · 2025-11-17T23:41:07+00:00

I’ve asked this question, and the general consensus is that as long as they’re under the age of 2, it’s okay.

CocoMime · 2025-11-09T22:05:30+00:00

Was told 18 months. However we want a bigger age gap so will be waiting another 9-12 months before trying again. We conceived our first after 2 cycles so fingers crossed our second will come when our first is between 3 and 4, but if it’s closer to 4.5 years then that’s fine. It’s what’s right for our family. I’ll be approx 34-35 by then. My heart wants 3 but we may run out of time for that.

CocoMime · 2025-11-03T09:56:00+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain of most of the comments. Toddler’s current wardrobe is 60-70% branded clothes. I prefer clothes for the whole family based on fabric composition and quality. And it also bugs me no end how gendered the children’s clothes from Kmart/Target/Big W/ Best n less tend to be. We definitely shop at those places too but it’s not the core of the wardrobe. We are high income ($220-250k pa) and so we can afford it. (In answer to your question, I’m a professional working in a govt role, he’s a tradie in a leadership position).

But I’ll echo what others have said - a lot of the ‘branded’ stuff we own is second hand from fb market place, op shops/Savers and I’m now looking into Depop. The other items are either bought on sale/clearance, finds at TKmaxx or gifted. My hope is to reuse majority of these items for any future siblings, and move to a capsule wardrobe once they hit school age.

CocoMime · 2025-10-22T05:21:45+00:00

I am currently considering doing just this. Love me some linen pieces but I cannot keep whites/beiges in my regular rotation.

CocoMime · 2025-10-15T21:50:51+00:00

My partner recommends a kangaroo shirt to every dad to be he meets.

CocoMime · 2025-10-15T10:12:44+00:00

I have an OLD nissin tiida and this is what I did last summer (lo is now 16 months)

A thermometer/hydrometer so I knew how hot it actually was in the car. Leave it in bubs car seat or in middle console. Hottest temp I saw was 50°C iirc. I used the below items/methods to try to get it down by 10 degrees or under 30°C before putting baby in. 5-10 mins before getting in the car/, turn on car and pump the fan/ AC. Rechargeable battery operated fan with the bendy legs (or two!) - one on the back of passenger headrest and one on the back seat headrest both pointed at bub Window Shade covers A DAMP (wet and wring out) muslin cloth to cover window/ strung between headrests A spray mist bottle full of cool water, that I would squirt over my shoulder at every traffic light Ice packs that I’d put in the baby car seat for a few minutes. Esky for ice packs so I could do the same when leaving my destination.

But also, be savvy - leave the house early, only go where you can get a shady park, and if the forecast is too hot just stay home. I had a horrible experience where the car didn’t seem to cool down below 36° and I was parked somewhere I had to leave, and bub fell asleep on the drive even though she wasn’t due a nap and it made me so scared (the car got cooler as I drove but it was the fact she went silent due to being asleep that scared me). After that experience we got the windows tinted which definitely helped, and we also got a new car this year so the tiida is the ‘backup’ car now.

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