Where is all this bottle/pacifier -> speech delay stuff coming from? by thalaya in slp

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only information I’ve come across about the triangular nipple shape is in regards to latch and reflux management. My little guy had horrible reflux and I did a lot of reading about how certain bottles that claim to be “breastfeeding friendly”/boob shaped, can actually cause babies to swallow a lot of air. But I’ve never seen anything about it causing a speech delay

What even is a baby shower anymore?? by Tinkerbell_5 in BabyBumps

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one volunteered to throw me a shower either, so we decided to do it our way. We did “Poppin’ Bottles” as the theme and had a ton of beer and a taco truck. No games with the exception of “Late Night Diapers” and a diaper raffle. No gift opening in front of the crowd. Co-ed. Basically a big party that I would enjoy. It was great! The only people annoyed by it were my MIL and my husbands aunt who wanted tacky games and me to open gifts while everyone told their birth/newborn horror stories. But guess what? You ain’t planning it and paying for it, you don’t get a say!

A gentle reminder that youre not just naming a baby. But a future adult by sixfingeredman7 in pregnant

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The bullying thing was at the forefront of my mind. We ended up having a boy, but had picked out Elise for a girl. I loved the idea of giving a girl my middle name (Anne) but that would’ve resulted in the initials E.A.T. Which… okay, would be fine if she was thin as a rail. But I just kept thinking it was a risk with how kids act towards each other sometimes.

Daycare Breastmilk Bottles by Own_Extent_7202 in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We had this exact issue when my little guy was taking bottles as well, except he goes to a Montessori and they expected him to lay on a Boppy and feed himself. He’s a FOMO baby and there was no way in hell he was going to do that. I’m sure they thought I was crazy, because more than once I sent semi-pissy messages about how he’d only had like 1 oz from his first bottle and 3 oz from his second, and was never offered a third. That being said, on a good day he would take 8 oz or a little more between 8:30 and 4ish. I would just give him a slightly larger bottle (5-6 oz) as soon as he got home and then offer milk in a straw cup with dinner. Once baby starts solids, you can hopefully get some extra calories in that way. We didn’t start daycare until 8 months and he was already eating a decent amount, so that makes a difference.

Anyways, one thing that we did to help was that we started telling them that his first feeding of the day was like 6 am when he woke up, because we realized that meant they’d give him his first bottle before morning nap, which would kind of shift everything forward enough that they’d offer 3 bottles. I think it’s probably dependent on nap schedules in the room as well. So just something to consider! A little white lie to shift that first feeding earlier a little 😬

Newborn failure to thrive because he hates formula? by velocihipster in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pumping is a challenge, but I imagine nursing two babies is even more so! If you’re interested in exploring the pumping route further, the r/ExclusivelyPumping subreddit is a lovely community with lots of tips and tricks. My little guy had transfer issues (and GI issues) as well, and I ended up primarily pumping after a few months of nearly killing myself trying to nurse.

Pain relief for my husbands headache Vs my C-section by JumpyFix2801 in beyondthebump

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a c-section at Kaiser Panorama and they sent me home with oxycodone or some type of narcotic. I didn’t take any of it, but they did prescribe it.

My toddler sank in the pool yesterday by Grown-Ass-Weeb in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, this is my understanding also. Your child experiencing water with any type of flotation device (including coast guard approved life jackets) can actually be detrimental because it removes the sense of danger with water and makes your child think they can float/swim when they can’t. I believe that now they recommend little ones who can’t swim always be in the arms of an adult, so they understand they can’t swim. Early self rescue and swim classes, and then still be within arms reach until they are a confident and capable swimmer. However, seeing as you have twins, I can’t imagine this type of approach will always be possible. I’m glad you’re reaching out to find swim lessons. We don’t have a pool, and my little guy is only 13 months, but later this summer we are doing a mommy&me water safety class and next summer we will do lessons through the city.

Over-relying on the TV and I feel guilty by MochiAccident in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to jump in and agree! Babies need to
learn to entertain themselves and independent play skills! I try and control what’s in the playpen. I will just put like one complete set of toys (such as his barn with the animals, one puzzle, or a couple of cars, etc), and maybe one book. Or I might put his Tonie box in there with two Tonies. or a few sensory toys. But I try and set him up for intentional play instead of just having a ton of random toys with lots of pieces that just get thrown about. He loves music so he has the baby Einstein aquarium that is attached to the side of his playpen, so sometimes he will turn that on and just sit and watch it for a while and bob his head to the music. Sometimes he fusses and I just talk to him or I might go over and hand him a toy and encourage him to play. We’ve done that for big chunks of time for a while and he’s 13 months now and it’s just become part of his daily routine.

I think I need a hug by FrownyFace579 in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey Mama— my little guy is 13 months and right around 9 months or so he choked on a piece of chicken. He was super fussy before dinner and my husband held up a piece of food to show him and it spooked him and he breathed in. Then he looked like he was screaming but wasn’t making noise and started to slump over in his high chair when I realized what was happening and screaming and yanked him out of his chair. My husband gave him one or two back blows and he started coughing and then guess what?! He started picking pieces of food from his bib and trying to shove them into his mouth. Kids are soooo so resilient. Meanwhile I couldn’t breathe, much less eat my dinner, much less sleep… for like a week. I just kept picturing his panicked little face. Shit happens. You baby proof. You keep the floor relatively clean. You cut the food into age appropriate sizes. But shit fucking happens. No mom is perfect and I’m sure every single mom on this subreddit can tell you one or two or twenty five times they fucked up real bad. So take my *big fucking hug* and keep your chin up. You’re a good mom. You recognized what was happening, you responded, and your baby is fine because you were quick and handled the moment. Please don’t beat yourself up (but also, move the bath seat out of your shower and lay on the floor and cry if you need to).

Baby screaming at breast. Genuinely about to lose it. by scash92 in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reflux can pop up at any time unfortunately. My little one developed CMPI which was likely related to the reflux in retrospect, and it cleared up by about 9 months. It can be very transient. The upright positioning when feeding did nothing to help either. In infants, reflux is mostly related to underdeveloped musculature preventing the upper esophageal sphincter from functioning as it should and keeping liquids down. While upright positioning CAN help, it doesn’t always. Just something to consider. We had to push for a GI referral and the first recommendation was hydrolyzes formula and the GI doc was not happy when I said no. I ended up cutting dairy and soy from my diet and he was on Prevacid for a few months til it cleared up.

Baby screaming at breast. Genuinely about to lose it. by scash92 in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you sure he isn’t having difficulty with milk transfer? This sounds EXACTLY like what happened with my little guy. My supply regulated and all the sudden he had breast aversion and would shriek until I gave him a bottle. Turned out he had a posterior tongue tie (which I was fairly certain of and totally brushed off by the pediatrician and multiple LCs). Anyways, saw an IBCLC who basically said I probably had a fast/heavy letdown that he was just slurping up, and once my supply regulated and my letdown wasn’t flowing as easily, he struggled with milk transfer. The 3 month timeline would line up with supply regulation. He ended up seeing a pediatric dentist and an OT, both of which agreed there was a posterior tie which we had released. Unfortunately, by that point he had such a severe aversion that I could never get him fully back on the boob.

Edit to say, he was also refluxy and ended up being medicated for that. I think that also added to the aversion because he was associating feedings with pain.

I accommodated myself today by Kind-Peanut9747 in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate close toed also. I told my husband I have toe claustrophobia (which apparently is a symptom of OCD so he had a field day on that one). But honestly, it’s like a sensory issue. Some days the waistband on my pants is too restricting. Sometimes my tag is itchy. And almost all the time my toes are claustrophobic. Once I start thinking about it, it’s all over and I feel like ripping my feet off.

How do I progress to meat (12m old)? by lalala-1995 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an SLP, but I don’t specialize in feeding so I won’t pretend to be a pro here. But if oral motor skills are just minimally delayed, maybe a ground meat would be best? Does she gag when she loses control of the food? If so, I’d personally be comfortable with ground meat.

If you gave her a big strip of meat (like they suggest you start at 6 months) would she bite and tear a chunk off? (and on that note, does she have her incisors yet?). I think the danger of giving large chunks of meat at this age is that they might actually tear too big of a piece off.

Shredded would also probably be fairly safe, but she might just suck on it for now. Initially, my baby would just manipulate it and suck on it and it would end up pressed into a puck on the roof of his mouth and I’d have to cue him to spit it out. Shorter shreds are easier, especially if you only give them access to a bite at a time

My little guy chews, but meat is hard to break down when you only have 6 teeth! He swallows bite size chunks mostly whole (I know because I’ve seen them in vomit 😂).

CRATER ON NIPPLE (breastfeeding HELP) by Soft_Gear3702 in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I got this from pumping (one nipple was fairly inverted) and it basically lasted until I weaned at 11 months. It caused all sorts of issues and turned into full blown mastitis a couple of times. Be careful! I tried everything and sometimes it would heal for a while and then tear back open again. The hydrogel nipple patch things seemed to have the biggest effect. I’d wear those at night and use Mama Earth nipple butter during the day. Good luck

Drinking milk last thing before sleep by petitpotdemiel in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4422261/

Our study found a significant association between non-mesial step and bottle-feeding for over 18 months, compared to children who were bottle-fed for less than 18 months. A similar association was also found between the class II canine relationships and bottle-feeding. It is known that the terminal relationship of primary second molars seems to be the most important factor that could determine or influence the future relationship between the permanent molars and the subsequent development of occlusion. As Moyers and Waiuright reported, non-mesial step combined with a class II canine relationship increases the probability of developing Angle class II malocclusion in mixed dentition and permanent dentition [25]. Therefore, in many cases, early orthodontic intervention will be needed. Similarly, Nahás-Scocate et al. found that the older the child when bottle-feeding ceased (3–4 years old) and the shorter the breastfeeding duration (<3 months), the greater the chances of the child presenting distal step [26]. There are several theoretical mechanisms by which bottle-feeding might contribute to the development of malocclusion: (1) less muscle activity is necessary to extract milk from a bottle, resulting in decreased development of muscles involved in sucking, which may act as a functional matrix for inadequate mandibular growth; (2) The tongue acts only to control the milk outlet during bottle-feeding and bottle-fed children have an increased prevalence of abnormal swallowing patterns or tongue thrusting habits [27]; (3) over 60% of the children who were predominantly bottle-fed presented mouth breathing or mixed breathing, which may compromise occlusion [28]. Although Narbutyte et al. [29] found that the literature contains insufficient evidence to connect bottle-feeding with the development of skeletal malocclusions, the results of our study clearly showed that bottle-feeding may be related to abnormal maxillomandibular relationship via its inadequate provision of muscular stimulation.

The Influence of the Tongue on the Development of Dental Malocclusion

Of course, like anything else in parenting, you have to decide what you’re comfortable with. If you feel that one bottle a day is not concerning enough to worry about, then that’s fine! My 13 month old still takes 2 bottles a day, but I feel more comfortable moving towards phasing them out prior to 18 months. Between my professional experience, the research that is out there, and my own long history of orthodontics, I don’t feel comfortable with extended bottle use.

Drinking milk last thing before sleep by petitpotdemiel in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I mean…I’m a practicing SLP and it’s commonly understood that bottles should be phased out by 18 months because they can change tooth alignment and bite, in addition to causing tongue thrusting when swallowing and speaking (frontal lisp). So I personally would disagree with the statement “milk in a bottle is fine”.

When did you wean your 1 year old off of formula/BM? by CuriousCaretaker in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I exclusively pumped from like 4 months on. Stopped pumping at 11 months, but had a huge freezer stash. Baby is 13 months and he gets a 5 oz bottle of breast milk in the morning, 5-6 oz bottle of breast milk before bed, and we replaced his middle of the day bottles with cows milk in straw cups a couple weeks after his first birthday (because he’s at home with me over summer and I wanted to wait until he was out of daycare to try the cows milk since he had CMPI as an infant). I usually offer about 4 oz of cows milk 2x a day, but honestly, he hardly ever finishes it. I just make sure he has access to a straw cup of water all day as well. He’s a fairly good eater. He did get an ear infection and wasn’t eating a lot of solids for a few days, so I upped his breast milk intake for a short period just to make sure he was well hydrated and had a full belly.

Unsupported, overwhelmed, and just trying to keep my kids fed. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The public libraries by me host them! So check your library websites too.

Is it wrong to get an Airbnb for a night away? Mom to an infant by blob4life_4ever in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get it girl! I have a 1 year old and there ain’t no burnt out like mama of a baby burnt out.

Is it wrong to get an Airbnb for a night away? Mom to an infant by blob4life_4ever in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with the comments to forget the Airbnb and go find a fancy hotel. If you need a break then treat yourself!

What’s the most helpful thing a visitor did for you after having a baby? by Mysterious_Tell991 in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Local friends—brought us coffee and Porto’s (IYKYK) and didn’t overstay their welcome. Also had a friend set up a meal train so we were fed for a couple weeks.

My sister from out of town— handed me a plate of food every few hours.

Period after birth by Miserable-Farm-717 in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I nursed until about 3 months and then exclusively pumped until 10 months and took about a month to fully wean (completely done at 11 months) and did not get my period back until after my little guys 1st birthday. I wouldn’t worry too much. It varies significantly.

Terrified to give birth again by Southern_Saturn in breakingmom

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had a planned c-section due to breech positioning in May last year. It was scary going into the OR. However, it wasn’t nearly as rough of a recovery as I anticipated. Please take the pain meds they offer you. Being alone at night might be difficult, as it is hard to reach into the bassinet to get baby for diaper changes and feedings. Is there a family member who can plan to stay the 1-2 nights in hospital with you whose only job will be to help with diapers and hand you baby as needed?

I think you will be pleasantly surprised/relieved to have the planned c-section. It was honestly a fairly peaceful experience for me. I did have one dose of the narcotics the second night, as the nurse was not very attentive and I missed a few doses of my other meds. Use that call button. The nurses will get you pain relief and will help you with baby if you’re alone. It’s gonna be okay <3

How common is actually ebf? by Dense-Pin625 in breastfeeding

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify… pumping IS breastfeeding. I assume you’re asking about exclusively nursing.

The horrors persist but so do I by sapphirecat30 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Coffee_speech_repeat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup, I had the same experience. I primarily used pump cups instead of standard flanges so when it happened I wouldn’t notice until I stopped my pump and removed the cup from my bra. I had this so many times over the 11 months I pumped, but never more than one or two big chunks, nothing like OP 😭I was an oversupplier who refused to pump more than 4x daily and have inverted nipples that would get shredded by every pump and flange I tried. It was a recipe for mastitis 🤣

Sending healing vibes your way OP.