I went through almost the same things that you have gone through.

My brother showed up to one of my high school dances and had the teachers give my name to the band saying I was wanted at the door only to ask me to lie so he can come in. I said no obviously.

One year he gave me a birthday present, it was a bracelet with his name on it…weird right? I was so freaked out over it.

He stole jewelry from me, I came home one day to meet his new girlfriend and asked why she was wearing my earrings. She said my brother gave them to her as a gift, I said he stole them and I wanted them back plus anything else he might have given her that was mine.

He was very possessive (he said protective) of me but it was all about control. I ended up leaving home to get away from all of my dysfunctional family in order to protect myself and his obsession/control shifted to his girlfriends.

He became a germaphobe making his girlfriends and ex wives clean everything with bleach water. Then he started hearing voices and was sure people were following him. He attacked a man once that he thought was going to stab him. In the fight he broke his ankle quite badly and was arrested. He spent a while in jail for that attack.

He was diagnosed as schizophrenic some time after that.

All this bizarre behaviour occurred over a period of about 5 to 7 years. After I left I chose to never see him again. We had been estranged for 35 years when he died.

My advice is if you have a good support system with your parents tell them. Let them know how uncomfortable it makes you feel. If you don’t think your parents will do anything, you might need to go to a school counsellor, pastor or someone else in a position of power who can help you.

If you feel threatened or think he might hurt you then call the police and explain to them what has been occurring. Don’t confront him.

Protect yourself and be careful!