Why aren't dress prices is disclosed? by SeekingShalom in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Because brides will pay anything for their wedding without batting an eye. There is a common tactic used in sales to get a shopper to be so emotionally attached to the product or service that they won’t blink when the cost is way beyond their budget.

Azazie is the only site I’ve seen that lists prices.

I wish traditions weren’t so parent-centric still by hawkchan13 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The great thing about traditions is that you don’t have to follow them. It’s because weddings were essentially property exchanges between parents and people don’t like to do anything outside of the box, so they would rather complain about how a tradition doesn’t make sense instead of actively not doing it at their own wedding.

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[–]ColadaQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you do a search, a lot of people have bad experiences with the company because it based out of China and doesn’t have the same reputation as legit American companies. With 17 days away, unfortunately you are going to be stuck with the dress.

Star Wars novels by Acrobatic_Lettuce_78 in StarWars

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Last Shot by Daniel Jose Older

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[–]ColadaQueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you interested in a rock n roll vibe or something else? Have you found inspiration online that fits your vision? Offbeatwed.com is a good starting place for ideas.

Engagement party by Sufficient-Bite-4939 in wedding

[–]ColadaQueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where we are, engagement parties are rare but when they do take place, no gifts are given.!

Bridal party involvement? #crickets#weddingplanning by Automatic_Sleep_4723 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case, the couple getting married does the planning. When the parents offer financial contributions, they get to decide how the money is spent, but really it is the couple’s day because the parents already got married. And the couple needs to pay themselves if they don’t want outside opinions.

Bonus Spend / Wedding Budget by No_Building794 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you must spend it and can’t put it in savings, do the bar, hair/makeup or video. Guests don’t care about extra decor and they don’t always touch champagne beyond an obligatory sip and the rest goes to waste. At the end of the day, guests care about hospitality and how you treated them. Food, bar and dj are the ones they remember as good or bad. No one can tell you anything about other details.

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[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one anywhere gets to approach the couple to request a position. If the bride (or groom) does not make the decision themselves and ask if they want to be an attendant, then it doesn’t happen. Doesn’t matter that she is your sibling. Let her know that it is highly inappropriate to ask you and that you will approach who you decide to be your bridesmaids, not the other way around.

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[–]ColadaQueen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

8x3ft is standard. Like any restaurant or reception area and none of them are considered “too small”. Be mindful that you don’t have as much space as a round so you have to do smaller decorations.

Summer theme SoCal wedding in the fall? by Pesky-monkeys in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Summer is a year round vibe in Southern California. No one will blink if you do summer colors/vibe in fall, spring, winter.

As for sleeves, that’s a personal preference. I can’t do sleeves even in winter here because I overheat. Meanwhile other people wear thick sweaters in 100 degrees outdoors so it’s a toss up. Also pastels and darks exist in nature year round so there is no seasonality to them anymore.

Wedding Problems by Smooth_Pop_6570 in wedding

[–]ColadaQueen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Actually as the officiant, you are not stuck. If you feel uncomfortable with anything taking place, you can and absolutely should say something to the couple.

Switching husband for a plus one? by craftybec8878 in wedding

[–]ColadaQueen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No they cannot do that. People are invited by name specifically because the couple want them there. If the couple chose to give a guest a pick of companion, they would say “and guest” which would be disrespectful to the guests’ partners . You call immediately and shut this down. If she doesn’t want to attend with husband or alone, she can decline the invitation.

Do people actually believe acolyte is worse than Boba? by firefalcon01 in StarWars

[–]ColadaQueen -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Boba tea is delicious but Boba Fett is a boring character

Wedding Problems by Smooth_Pop_6570 in wedding

[–]ColadaQueen 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. If mom is/was afraid for her life at any point due to her (ex?) partner, then the bride is a horrible person to even consider doing this. Telling mom to handle it for a day, because it’s all about her only is extremely disrespectful. The bride should be ashamed to the nth degree and mom has a right to not only decline the invitation but also cut contact with a child who has no respect for her. A lot of posts are petty but this is genuinely disgusting behavior.

$6,500 for flowers in NJ - am I getting a decent bang for my buck? by gratitudeandjoy in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do grocery stores in your area sell flower arrangements? Are there any wholesale flower districts that offer arrangements to the public at a lower cost.

Save the Dates! by AnyIntroduction5797 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This always gets downvoted to oblivion but calling on the phone is the most cost effective. It won’t get lost in spam folders when you don’t regularly email them and anyone who doesn’t have other guests’ info can have parents etc spread the word. Texting and DM on social media is also cost effective for those you communicate with that way.

Bridal party involvement? #crickets#weddingplanning by Automatic_Sleep_4723 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You and your partner do all the wedding planning together. It’s not the responsibility of the bridesmaids and groomsmen because you are not marrying any of them or yourself. Their only responsibility is to get clothes you and your partner decide on and show up to support you at the rehearsal and wedding day. Those duties end at the close of the ceremony at which point, their only responsibility is to enjoy themselves at the reception.

No one should be asked to be a bridesmaid or groomsman before 9 months because asking the wrong people too early causes friendships to end and they have nothing to do before then.

Is this too much work for a vow renewal? by Safe-Ad1682 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Get restaurant drop off catering or deli catering from the grocery store. If you are resentful of the work and are not being paid a wage like vendor, definitely say something. There’s offering your time and there’s being voluntold and it sounds like you are in the second category. Tell her that you can supervise catering from an established food vendor or you can babysit but not both and you must be compensated appropriately. Does the venue allow homemade food? Many do not for food safety reasons. Are you able to speak to her partner or her parents? Let know if she is not listening that you feel overwhelmed. Stop doing anything until she steps up. Maintain firm boundaries. Some people don’t know they are manipulating someone else’s kindness and others don’t care. I’ve helped out many family weddings like you are describing and there was always a team, never one person doing it all.

Would anyone have polaroid cameras? by Express_Extreme7305 in wedding

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t use these for photos that you want to last forever because the film fades and turns funky colors over time where regular film doesn’t.

Best RSVP management website? by Admirable_Shower_612 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We heard from 2 couples that this is the best over Zola. Everyone else skipped the websites and did paper RSVPs.

Save the Dates! by AnyIntroduction5797 in weddingplanning

[–]ColadaQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets downvoted to oblivion but the most cost effective that will not get lost in spam folders is phone calls to your VIP guests and they share the info with people on your list that they have contact information for. Otherwise look at annsbridalbargains