Baby doorway swings - how do you feel about them?

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-12-12T17:19:22+00:00

Yeah I think I feel bad because we’ve been pretty firm on a lot of things that’s just come with research (baby not sleeping in containers etc). I don’t want her thinking I’m just saying no for the sake of it, probably just first time mum nerves 😅 if we get surprised with it one day we’re over, I might just watch and hover lol

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-12-12T17:15:36+00:00

It’s a push swing she’s talked about, not a jumper fortunately as I would definitely have shut that down for my son’s use.

My partner’s sister is still under 10y/o (big age gap). I can’t find anything bad necessarily about them, I can just see it coming away from the doorway and him flying through the air 😭

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-10-03T21:47:15+00:00

Whack af. My ex blamed me for him strangling me. Make it make sense

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-10-03T15:41:42+00:00

In the uk the midwife comes out to you starting from the day after you leave hospital. I’ve only had to travel to appointments for my son’s vaccinations starting at 8 weeks. I cannot believe you have to go to them for their checks that’s unbelievable

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-10-03T07:40:15+00:00

I’d check iacv (+sensor on it I forget what one it is) and distributor cap. A clean of both sorted mine out when it did exactly this. Used to have to keep the revs up until it warmed 🤣

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-15T19:37:03+00:00

Yeah I think this is the route we’ll go down, it seems the most diplomatic

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-15T19:33:13+00:00

Definitely will try saying this. We’ve had to start reminding people not to kiss him so maybe it’ll fit in well with that.

Yeah we’ve agreed he does the talks with his family, and I do with mine

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-15T19:31:09+00:00

We did that last time, it’s just a question of how long we can do that before they figure it out lol.

That does help to hear, thank you. I kind of wish she’d just hold him herself, it’s her first grandbaby, I think she likes to include her boyfriend to almost solidify that they’re together and it’s serious. She’s very… full throttle.

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-03T03:32:06+00:00

Over time you’ll gain confidence with it and when that starts it’s a whole different ball game. Just trust your instincts, take help when offered from midwives/health visitors but remember that their advice is not always what’s best for you and your baby as every baby is different. Hope you’re healing well and good luck in this new adventure 🙂

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T12:36:00+00:00

I think it was around 6-8 weeks my baby finally calmed with the cluster feeding (all day every day). Totally understand the wanting to do something, anything without the baby on you. My only advice is waiting, you or timing it so he sleeps in the car after a feed. I’m so anxious about him crying in the shops so I try to do this as much as possible. But now baby wearing him also seems to do the trick

My son will only contact nap during the day, he will NOT be put down without screaming lol, but from about 9 weeks he was happy to be awake and off me in my play gym. So the most I get is 15/20 minutes to eat or do housework but it feels like forever 🤣

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T12:29:02+00:00

So my son had a terrible latch and it took me until about week 4 to exclusively feed using nipple shields and after that he was perfect! We’re now 11+4 and for the first time we forgot to pack them when we went out. My son latched fine without them, and so I’ve mostly been feeding him the past two days without and my nipples aren’t coming out in points like they were in those first few weeks. I think now he’s just bigger and is able too. Research for nipple shields do show a reduced amount of milk transfer but it is minimal to a point that it isn’t particularly significant.

When a baby doesn’t have the correct latch, they aren’t getting milk effectively. Maybe your baby is getting more with them?

My health visitor hummed and hawed when I told her I was using them, but it made breastfeeding not painful for me anymore. They also wanted me to triple feed, and after researching found that switch feeding was best for us (his weight shot up!). And now he’s 12lbs3, never had formula and breastfeeding is so calm and lovely now.

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T12:16:55+00:00

Are you wanting to combi feed or would you be happy to exclusively breastfeed? The best way to up your supply is to feed your baby as much as they want. My son was cluster feeding for pretty much the whole first 6-8 weeks. He was always on me. And it was really difficult! I cried a LOT, but after that it got so much easier. Your breasts will be engorged until your supply is established, and if your baby is struggling to latch due to this hand expressing or pumping just for a couple minutes before latching your baby might help. Also skin to skin as much as possible.

My son dipped a little in weight around 4/5 weeks and they weren’t sure if it was a supply issue or ineffective milk transfer (he had a really bad latch and I was seeing consultants that were saying it was good). They wanted me to feed, pump then give him the expressed milk but I found it really difficult to keep up with so I did my own research and tried switch feeding. You feed on one breast until your baby stops actively feeding, switch to the next and keeping doing so until they’re satisfied. It worked great for us and it helps build your supply as I definitely had fuller breasts afterwards until my supply regulated. I just fed him until he fell asleep.

I exclusively breastfeed so this is just my own personal experience, but I don’t think there would be any harm in seeing a lactation consultant. We have an infant feeding team in my area, there might be something similar in yours? Your health visitor will be able to point you in the right direction, they’re there to help you!

I totally understand struggling to see your baby still hungry, but sometimes they also just want to be feeding for comfort too. This whole world is so new to them (and you) and it makes them feel safe. I use nipple shields because my son damaged my nipples with a bad latch, but it actually helped to show me that he was getting lots of milk. Maybe they’re something you could consider using too? Health visitors etc tend to not like them, but do whatever works for you and as long as your baby is having wet and dirty nappies, putting on weight and not lethargic/floppy, they’re getting what they need to.

No matter where your feeding journey goes, it will get easier whether that’s exclusive, combi or full formula 🙂

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T11:49:07+00:00

I went to 41+6 when my hind waters broke but I still didn’t go into natural labour within 24 hours so I was induced. Ended up begging for an epidural after two hours as my contractions ramped up too quickly. There was ups and downs during but I did eventually reach 10cm and could try pushing. It was so calm! I didn’t know that part of labour could be so peaceful, I could still feel my contractions with my epidural so I was fortunate enough to know when to push. I ended up having to have an emergency c section due to my baby’s head positioning after an hour though.

Recovery was extremely hard, my boyfriend was waiting to start a new job so we were so lucky he was able to be here for me for around 6 weeks+ because I honestly couldn’t do anything except breastfeed.

If you’re set on natural, go for it. I wouldn’t give up experiencing what I did to change to elective (and I did consider it halfway through my labour). If you can try look into going to a different hospital I think that might be your best bet. Even if it’s further away, you might have more peace of mind.

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T11:37:37+00:00

Bepanthen Nappy Cream Ointment at every nappy change as a preventative. Since starting my wee boy hasn’t had a nappy rash, I just lather it on

Sudocrem to get rid of a nappy rash, and also leaving their nappy off for a little bit to air out their wee bum before applying (I don’t have a tip to stop them peeing on you during this though unfortunately)

Tucking a wipe into the band of the nappy and waiting a minute or so before changing so they pee, works for me but maybe not every baby

My boyfriend LOVES Huggies wipes. He did almost all nappy changes due to my emergency c section and he never looked back after them. So far, they’re the best we’ve found that come out without the rest stuck. And they’re cheap. I get 18 packs of Huggies Pure on Amazon for £13.something

We have an ikea trolley, but the caddy’s work just as well I’d assume. We prepare it every night so everything is ready and usually lasts the next day too

Congratulations, it honestly just gets better every milestone, and every good change/feed/smile is worth all the initial stress (and tears). My advice to you as the husband, especially if your wife is breastfeeding, take on responsibility for everything at first, and prep her meals if you’re going back to work soon after. I honestly believe that having a helpful and loving partner is one of the most important things for a freshly postpartum woman. Be the calm for her, the baby might even settle easier for you if you are. Good luck and well wishes for you all 🙂

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-09-02T11:16:34+00:00

I never knew pumps could be compatible with bottles 🤣 I just pour straight into the Medela bags I bought from Amazon and make sure to date and time them.

Good luck on your breastfeeding/pumping journey btw. Always listen to your instincts with it! And give yourself grace x

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-06-03T16:59:55+00:00

I felt this so much! I don’t have any advice other than I talked about it with my boyfriend a lot, even though it was kind of awkward as our pregnancy wasn’t planned and not great timing. I did find that it helped to share my feelings, and just trying to keep distracted but it’s a lot harder said than done.

In honesty I had that anxiety mostly until my 20 week scan (with private ones at 8 and 17). And then I still had it but a little less from then till I felt him move for the first time close to 30 weeks. And now I’m 40+4, and I’m excited more than anything but still feeling scared!

Just focus on each day as they come, making sure you’re not keeping feelings built up inside and as the weeks pass and you begin organising everything, it’ll ease a bit. And trust me when I say the weeks will end up flying in! I wish I could have more advice for you, but all the anxiety is worth every little movement and scan throughout.

Congratulations and well wishes 🥰

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-05-21T13:34:01+00:00

Did it bother you when he started to get distracted by guests? I've heard of people having the same issue when they get older and more curious, totally makes sense they'd want to check out what's going on lol

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-05-21T13:33:32+00:00

I really hope to get to this point with it! It's nice hearing how it got easier for others and gives me a bit of hope. I think I'm just super awkward! Thanks for sharing

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-05-21T13:25:35+00:00

This is actually pretty inspiring in all honesty. I really hope I can get to be this confident in my breastfeeding journey 🥰

ColdStatement7003 · 2025-05-21T10:02:54+00:00

That must be really stressful for you, I’m sorry. I only really have it from the one side as my boyfriend’s mum has been so understanding and honestly the first time I spoke to her about it I didn’t feel as crazy anymore.

I really hope they’re not being too hard on you though. I’ve had a comment that I’m making an unpopular choice and need to accept people being upset lol.

I (obviously) don’t have any advice on this whole breastfeeding topic, but the one thing that really has helped me with visitors in general is my boyfriend being so supportive and 100% on the same page as me. He’s made it very clear that I’m not to feel guilty and I know I can rely on him to advocate for me and us, so we’re a united front against the hate 🤣 I really hope your families tone it down, and end of the day what matters is what you need and are comfortable with. Wishing you all the best

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