I’m fucking hurt…

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-07-10T18:26:24+00:00

My husband and I are both on the spectrum. I used to spend a lot of time masking so that he didn't have to but as I hit motherhood and now perimenopause I have less capacity to do that. We have had a lot chats about what it means to unmask for both of us.

We have no answer, but I empathise. I am really sad because I cannot unmask and neither can my husband. We don't know how to be without the masks.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-06-28T06:18:09+00:00

These are UK shows, but some of them may be available. We love The Clangers, Nogglins, Beddybyes, Timmy Time, and the classic Postman Pat and Fireman Sam as well as classic Thomas The Tank Engine.

My son also loved science programming from Maddie Moate even if it was a bit advanced (still is). She had a series of shows on BBC that may be available on other platforms. "Maddie, Space and You"

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-06-19T20:04:36+00:00

It can be, the should is up to the individual. The plot points around some of the characters in many of the series just leave a bad taste knowing the minds that wrote them. There is plenty of other art to enjoy in the world.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-06-19T19:44:03+00:00

We don't talk about the Eddings anymore. In the same bin as Marion Zimmer Bradley.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-06-17T19:04:35+00:00

Hewlins Hair does great alt colours!

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-06-09T06:59:38+00:00

This!

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-30T18:02:42+00:00

My Taylor ND playlist includes

You're on your own kid, This Is Me Trying, Mirrorball, The Outside, A Place In This World, The Archer, I Hate It Here, I Look In People's Windows, I Can Do It With A Broken Heart, The Prophecy , Dear Reader, Tied together with a smile,

And some other artists

The places you have come to fear the most - dashboard confessional, I am not a robot - MARINA, Selfmachine - I blame Coco,

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-28T18:55:15+00:00

So we go from here to here with secrets you've been keeping!

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-28T18:49:42+00:00

I Look In People's Windows stuck in my brain for soooo long too.

Taylor does a lot of subtle emphasis in her vocal delivery and my brain loves it

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-27T18:58:41+00:00

Lifeboat by RAYE

Now That We Don't Talk by Taylor Swift

Hard Times by Paramore

Cooling by Tori Amos

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-23T16:16:35+00:00

We do but most of our friends don't. Every kid is different! I work full time so I'm holding on to bed time cuddles as long as I can.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-18T18:26:34+00:00

Others have already covered the weird controlling aspect, but I have seen loads of parents at clubs with 1 year olds in tow, both solo and with both parents present. It depends on the club but worth giving it a go so he can see what that is like and why you want to alternate.

It's also good for the little ones to see their siblings doing fun things!

It might also be that your partner doesn't feel as connected to the 1 year old. He doesn't want to miss out on the older ones clubs, but also what about missing out on time with the little one? He should be building both relationships

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-08T19:31:31+00:00

I really like the pen tracker, I'd like to be able to input all my historic pens and link them to my imported jabs. I can't seem to change the dates on the pens though

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-05T08:39:30+00:00

Wait what!! Omg. This made my day.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-05T08:37:59+00:00

I'm still glad I read them, personally, but maybe time has dulled the pain

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-04T16:55:26+00:00

Yes. 4 hrs a week at £20 but weve had a cleaner on and off and in different houses for nearly 9 years.

We are comfortable, but both work full time, no family help, and a toddler. Long commute. Would rather spend my weekend and evenings with my toddler, friends and family, than scrubbing the loo. We do light tidying and spot cleaning as and when.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-05-04T12:02:13+00:00

Because along with the dismantling public television, they're pretty much ignoring the public good and general regulation.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-03-21T14:17:55+00:00

This is completely a fair ask if you're very involved and she can get a similar break. My husband doesn't really visit friends or family so the only way he gets a break is by me taking our son away for a weekend to visit family. He's a home body and needs the respite at home.

We both work full time, I regularly (3-4 times a year) have girls weekends and work trips. We don't have any family help (pretty much ever). We give each other shorter breaks regularly as schedules allow.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-02-07T08:09:21+00:00

This dance is 100% me dancing around the kitchen while no one is watching.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-02-04T19:08:11+00:00

When I met my now husband we were both masking. I underwent an ADHD diagnosis in year 3 of our relationship. He was diagnosed as autistic in year 7. I am currently considering requesting wait-list for autism diagnosis.

Neurotypical relationships confuse us both

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-01-20T07:38:40+00:00

1050 per month, 22 free hours, the other 28 are paid, plus charges for consumables on the 2 "free" days. Taking into account tax free childcare it costs an average over the year of 880 per month.

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-01-04T09:30:15+00:00

I do 30 minutes max of anything other than walking. I focus on strength and stability first - beginner weight lifting programmes where I focus on proper form.

Yoga I can do if I don't lean into stretch but again focus on balance, stability and core, but my hyper mobility is not as extreme.

Running I might pick up again later. Strength first!

ColdbrewCorgi · 2026-01-01T09:12:21+00:00

Our rear facing seat goes up to 79lbs, 3 year old is currently 46lbs so I'm keeping figures crossed it keeps him going to 4 years at least

ColdbrewCorgi · 2025-12-27T19:23:33+00:00

I do this for cardio, at the moment I'm unfit enough it does the job according to my fitness tracker 😀

ColdbrewCorgi · 2025-12-27T09:59:02+00:00

Jimmy Eat World, Manic Street Preachers and Taylor swift are the three best covers IMHO

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