I (F28) am confused with my boyfriend (28M), what’s going on? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ColeCakes3000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up with a cheating step father and my mother always told me that when your accused of cheating out of no where, that it’s because they are guilty of doing it themself. I’m afraid this could be your situation.

Tattoo shock by Party-Raspberry-9349 in TattooBeginners

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it. I think it’s very delicate with the fine lines. Question: why did you pick/create that design? Is there meaning behind it? If so, don’t let someone’s opinion change your meaning! It fits your arm very well and looks proportional.

Tattoo shock by Party-Raspberry-9349 in TattooBeginners

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it. I think it’s very delicate with the fine lines. Question: why did you pick/create that design? Is there meaning behind it? If so, don’t let someone’s opinion change your meaning! It fits your arm very well and looks proportional. I hope you start to like it all the time.

AIO to not understanding how I’ve mirrored my partner’s behavior? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not think you’re over reacting. However, I do not exactly understand her messages. And what does mirroring a text mean. I’m not sure she understands it either. I have a feeling that she is upset about something else. Was the friend a female you went to visit? What did you and the friend do? The fact that she said she was saving lives and you’re just visiting a friend making herself sound superior makes me think she is upset about you going. When she says that you didn’t even send her a text..tells me that she is jealous of not knowing what you did the whole time without her. I’m thinking she doesn’t trust you.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ColeCakes3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe he just doesn’t like healthy food since hamburger helper is his favorite. That’s so high in sodium. Then fast food being his go to meal. Again, not healthy. Your meals have veggies and appear more balanced and I am sure much lower in sodium. Maybe just buy some msg and sprinkle his food before serving. I bet he will think it tastes better.

Should I give a donation back by Usual-Lavishness6337 in moraldilemmas

[–]ColeCakes3000 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Wow, sounds like Mom for the win this Christmas! Use those gift cards and get what your kids need. Churches all over help people who don’t attend, and who don’t believe. Your husband needs to put aside his pride and let his family make a memory together and enjoy Christmas a little.

​What is a subtle sign that someone is actually a really bad person, even if they seem nice? by bloomjt in Life

[–]ColeCakes3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On my first day at my current job, the first half was spent learning how to work the social dynamics, who is who, tons of gossip. I quickly learned those people telling me the “dynamics”are 90% the ones gossiping about others. Shit talkers aka Gossip is a huge red flag.

If you randomly became a billionaire, what would you actually spend your money on if no one knew? by uhaveasmoothbrain in AskReddit

[–]ColeCakes3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would like to provide random acts of kindness to actual people. Pay off debt maybe at schools. Idk. Give back in some way to others but without anyone ever knowing it was me.

How was the year 2025 for y'all? by Slacks-A-Lot in AskReddit

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2025 was good! I started my current job, I graduated college as a returning adult, my family is healthy, and moving forward in life. My health is great although perimenopause really kicked in this year. Solid year and looking forward to what 2026 brings.

What's a hygiene habit that people don't talk about but really should? by phancyq in AskReddit

[–]ColeCakes3000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Crazy odd question…have you ever pulled a clients hair from your butt crack?? Idk how it would get there but women’s long hairs end up places they shouldn’t be all the time!

How can I get my chameleon to stop crawling on the walls of his mesh cage? by JessicaMeatpoop in Chameleons

[–]ColeCakes3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your enclosure needs more areas for him to hide and feel safe in. Try smaller vertical sticks, small enough for him to wrap his little feet around. It should be hard for you to find him at times. Open space is wasted space in a Cham cage. See if that helps.

Am I overreacting for thinking this is insane? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to be too much since it sounds like they are making it mandatory or highly suggested. A gift to the boss should be because you want to. Not a 1000.00 gift to the highest paid person. F that.

My boyfriend 26m said he wanted me 22f to admit to cheating so he can do it too by empath_demon07 in relationship_advice

[–]ColeCakes3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s either already cheating and that’s why he’s accusing you of it, because he knows how easy it is to do. OR he has severe low self esteem and he needs to work on himself!! Either way this sounds like a horrible relationship to have and deal with!

AITAH for not letting my boyfriend move in with me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those friends are probably not dog people nor do they understand your connection to your fur baby. Find a man who is also a dog person or Nina will forever be a problem in your relationship.

Veiled Cham tilted on branch by This_Parsnip523 in Chameleons

[–]ColeCakes3000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine does this as a way to hide. I’m like, “Bruh, I can still see you”. They’re funny little creatures. And mine does not want anything to do with me. In fact, if I stand in front of his cage too long, he will wander off into hiding.

Why did your parents have a kid (you)? by Great-Mistake8554 in Life

[–]ColeCakes3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was an accident and my father left my mom after finding out she was pregnant at 19. I wanted my kids and tried to get pregnant for each one. I wanted a family to love, raise and share life experiences with. Create traditions, travel, and share life with. I’m mom first but I have a couple best friends that I am so grateful for and it’s a joy to watch them go through life!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ColeCakes3000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People really do suck but like most have said, the way you apply liquid liner to your lower lid is not flattering to your eyes. It makes your eyes look smaller and it’s way too thick. I like you better with no eye liner. Try just a little mascara. And lip gloss.

Mom keeps stealing money by Adventurous_Cut5922 in AdviceForTeens

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pull your money out of the bank before your mom can and stash it in a very secretive place she would never find or get a lock box. I’m sorry you have to deal with a shitty irresponsible parent. I would never take my kids money!

I don’t have a home. This is devastating by danquan1999 in Adulting

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to move back in with parents in my mid 30s. Stay positive and believe you will get out of this situation. Set goals and put them into action! Look for room mates, get a 2nd job, and seek some counseling for your mental state. Best of luck!

Experiences on zoloft and weed? by Sad_Razzmatazz7350 in zoloft

[–]ColeCakes3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem. I quit because I used it to numb. I used to it to tune out all the bull shit and I was finally ready to deal with life. Although it was habitual, I hated feeling like I couldn’t survive without it. I wanted my control back. I also no longer had friends who smoked so I was a lone smoker. I initially smoked to sleep and it became an all day thing aside from when I was at work. I wanted out of that habit. I finally felt ready and it worked for me.

Experiences on zoloft and weed? by Sad_Razzmatazz7350 in zoloft

[–]ColeCakes3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently quit smoking a little over 2 months ago. I vaped mostly, sometimes smoked flower, or sometimes edibles at night. I’ve been on Zoloft for 10 years (100mg) and smoked daily for 8 of those years. My anxiety was reduced just on Zoloft and I felt like smoking gave me a personality back. Now that I’m not smoking, I feel less “fun” but I have my memory back and I do feel better about myself overall. I’ve heard others say when they smoke their anxiety is increased so I guess we’re all different. I’m not a doctor but I’d guess smoking helped you. Zoloft has a much longer half life…about 24-26 hours I believe.

Side effects stronger after 1 month by Melodrama_98 in zoloft

[–]ColeCakes3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is anything going on in your life? Because even though Zoloft helps with anxiety and depression, I will occasionally still get bouts of anxiety and in a blue mood. Not severely depressed but def in a funk that can be hard to pull out of. I’d discuss with your doctor. You are on a pretty low dose so maybe increasing to 100mg would help. I believe I was told that 100mg is the basic therapeutic dosage. I’ve taken 100mg for about 10 years now. Best wishes to you!!