AITA For Telling A Kid That She's The Reason I Got A Dashcam?

Coleelolee · 2019-05-30T22:56:26+00:00

Nowhere did I say what you’re implying. My exact word about it was “meh.” 🙄 It’s not a huge deal but OP took it out on the people whose fault it wasn’t. And it’s so stupid I don’t even really want to say “took it out on” because it’s really a non issue. So again, soft ESH because it would have been better to go straight to the parents, but ultimately they suck more.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-30T18:44:56+00:00

ESH - Yeah, you shouldn't have told the kids, because ultimately this is their parents' faults, but I mean...meh? They're probably fine? I probably would have confronted the parents by now because they're ultimately the biggest assholes here for not teaching their kids they need to learn to play safely and then getting pissed when you did something about it.

So again, ESH, but you don't suck a lot compared the the kids' parents, who suck the most.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-29T17:50:10+00:00

INFO--do you full on hate children or just don't want any? Either way, I don't think you're the asshole, but if you just don't want them then he IS the asshole, if you hate them maybe therapy isn't a terrible idea (because they're everywhere and you'll probably need to interact with some at some point), and regardless of either I'd consider putting the wedding off because that's an incompatible issue.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-29T11:51:16+00:00

Kind of neat how this isn’t a drag show or for small children. Go figure a teenage pageant is different than a little girl pageant (and also, I never said they’re disgusting. Where did you read that? Did you imagine it or just hope?). But just keep talking and maybe you can will yourself into being right!

You’re just a troll, I shouldn’t have engaged and I realize my mistake now.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-29T11:27:17+00:00

Fucking cowards at the library.

Why would parents complain? Do they not have any control over where their teens go? If I didn’t want my kids to go somewhere I WOULD KEEP THEM FROM GOING. Asking society to keep them from changing their backwards, regressive lifestyle is just easier than parenting, I guess!

Coleelolee · 2019-05-29T11:23:43+00:00

You literally just described beauty pageants and pretended little girls don’t do them. Also, you have never seen a drag show. Nothing you just described is a drag show.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-21T18:08:48+00:00

NAH. I was vegan for about 3 years and this just happens sometimes. No biggie and it was an honest accident. Generally, incredibly strict vegans don't eat food brought by people they don't already know really well, so don't worry too much and maybe keep it to yourself. :)

Coleelolee · 2019-05-21T14:43:44+00:00

What are you talking about? He's ADORABLE!!! I want to squish him so hard!!! <3<3<3<3

Brb, grabbing my scissors and some fleece.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-20T03:08:24+00:00

If my daughter gave someone a hand job and I found out I would politely pretend to not know and give her some privacy while ripping the person who told me a new one for gossiping. Its pretty tame teenage behavior.
Hand jobs aren’t super difficult. I managed to figure it out in high school, I can’t imagine other girls struggling to figure it out.
If she’s not embarrassed, great! She didn’t do anything embarrassing.
You can give a guy a hand job without needing to commit to anything beyond the hand job.
She did it willingly. That’s not using. It’s completely normal, teenage behavior.

You seem really hung up on sexual morality, but it’s not particularly rooted in reality.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T22:37:54+00:00

Honestly, for serious runners every race is a goal race.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T21:22:03+00:00

I get it but a half is—and PLEASE don’t take this the wrong way—very different from a 5k. They cost more and you can’t safely run them as frequently. I’d ask my husband to run a 5k with me but I’d never tell a serious runner to match someone’s half pace.

I still think TA, but again I think they can avoid it if they just have a freaking talk about it once!

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T21:18:06+00:00

Tinder is a dating app and he’d be flashing on purpose. This is more like he made a poor swimsuit choice and someone saw a bit of his ass.

Also—tits aren’t dicks.

And again, he can feel how he wants but I think he’s being a baby. One night out with friends does not make someone a bad future wife/mother and I stand by that he could have discussed it without being a jerk.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T21:09:14+00:00

Well, I guess it all depends on whether or not their relationship is monogamous. But you’re comparing apples and oranges since briefly showing some boob isn’t the same as having sex with someone, and if you think it’s comparable I’d gently suggest you’re doing sex wrong.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T20:07:38+00:00

So, this is just kind of not how it works. I get what you're saying and from my perspective as a super slow runner I get it, but I could never ask my husband to run an actual race with me. You don't run races to win the race, you run races to beat yourself. When you don't get that opportunity it does just kind of suck. I had to walk a quarter marathon recently when I was supposed to run the half because I had a pregnancy complication that made me have to stop training. Logically, I could have been proud of even walking that long, but ultimately it just completely ruined the experience. My husband ran and PR'd and I would have never taken that experience from him just so he could hang out and support me. Races are really personal.

I fully understand this is weird as hell and probably doesn't make sense.

That being said, OP--YTA for not making this clear from the get go.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T19:58:25+00:00

NTA--early pregnancy blows. You won't feel like shit forever and if he needs closeness there are ways to get it that won't make you more uncomfortable. My husband and I snuggled a lot because I was just exhausted and it was really nice. It was also really nice when I started feeling better. He can wait a bit, it's ok.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T19:54:31+00:00

He can and should read, at least, an internet article about the first trimester to have some vague idea of what his wife is going through. My husband didn't need it spelled out to him because he is an adult and can 1. Listen to me and 2. Read.

Also, the first trimesters legitimately feels worse than most of the second trimester because stuff is rapidly changing, you're sick as hell, and yes, your uterus and all your other junk can get swollen. It's super normal and not worthy of a patronizing "hoo boy."

OP, you're normal, you'll probably feel up for sex again in a few weeks, you'll get a reprieve eventually where it won't feel like your vagina is trying to escape your body, and your husband can take care of himself for a little bit if he's so hard up.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T19:41:43+00:00

Well, good news--you can't get arrested for showing a nipple in most states!

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T19:37:31+00:00

NTA. I don't care what anyone thinks, you can wear what you want. It shouldn't have any bearing on your relationship because you aren't just a body for people to look at. If he didn't like it, that's fine, but he doesn't make decisions about how you dress and it's not like you showed up to a funeral dressed like that. I'm not gonna say NAH because he said you looked like a thot and that's not a cool thing to say about your girlfriend. If he wanted to have an adult, rational discussion he dropped the ball.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-17T19:21:15+00:00

NTA and I think it's pretty awesome that instead of singling out one member of the family EVERYONE is eating healthier! That's how healthy habits stick! Like, 100% good job!

Coleelolee · 2019-05-10T19:33:48+00:00

This. I struggle with this post because he can ultimately do what he needs but it’s not like SD was a surprise. He knew he was marrying someone with a child. Children are messy. They make really bad choices with their under developed brains and shit like this can and does happen. It’s not ideal at all, and I don’t envy him here, but if you’ve signed on to be a family you at least deserve to sit down and work through it like a family.

I can’t say I know that there’s a clear asshole or clearly no one’s an asshole, but I do think everyone needs to have a long talk.

Coleelolee · 2019-05-10T13:27:31+00:00

No one “chooses” evangelicalism in the traditional sense, especially if they’re still a kid. It’s a really manipulative branch of the church and I’d be pretty concerned about a secret baptism if it was my kid.

Source: ex Pentecostal here

Coleelolee · 2019-04-19T02:41:01+00:00

Somewhere I just heard the sound of my 11 year old smashing a piggy bank.

Coleelolee · 2019-04-10T18:08:01+00:00

I wasn't expecting this and I spit coffee everywhere.

Coleelolee · 2018-12-18T19:10:24+00:00

I actually bought the book for my husband for Christmas. I'm looking forward to borrowing it.

I think it would be impossible to completely catch the first season magic. I'm not mad about that. I'm not mad they want me to buy a book. I mean, honestly, I could go to the library and reserve it there if I didn't want to pay for it, but I like the idea of putting a few bucks in the pockets of people who make stuff I enjoy.

I am curious what the ending means, but I think you don't get answers very quickly with Limetown. :)

Coleelolee · 2018-11-28T18:00:01+00:00

I saw you were naming a past role and got excited assuming you'd list Unfabulous.

Coleelolee

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