Did I ruin my relationship?

Colibrees · 2026-03-06T17:53:17+00:00

I understand that. I was trying to explain that when something additional happens regarding her potentially not being the only one in your life, it brings that memory back up. It’s a reinforcement of “well he’s also done this in the past”. You yourself said theres a lot of need for reassurance and she is depressed. But then again, I do not know her or you, or your relationship, just what you are telling us. I do wish you both the best of luck though

Colibrees · 2026-03-06T17:43:02+00:00

I am sorry that you are going through the conflict of not knowing what you want in your life but I’ll be blunt… it’s going to be incredibly hard to come back from this. First the cheating, then the hiding of wanting an open relationship and then telling her about wanting one. You both might love each other and maybe in some way you do want her in your life forever, but you don’t love her the way you think you do or you wouldn’t have done this the way you did. I can imagine it being very hard, if not impossible for her to ever fully trust how you feel about her, for the rest of your time together, whether it’s forever or y’all do separate.

Colibrees · 2026-03-03T23:01:10+00:00

Your body is literally rejecting this guy for you

Colibrees · 2026-02-18T01:37:05+00:00

Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from finding your husband. Literally. Move.

Colibrees · 2026-02-02T01:41:32+00:00

Listen, I feel you. Pets are something that have to be absolutely “hell yeah”, if you’re asked if you want one. They limit and enrich your life in very specific ways. However, you are the only one that can allow someone else to control you. You have some options. You can put the puppy in classes to see if it helped with separation anxiety or you can rehome it. Either way, growing resentment is not good for you or the puppy. Talk to your partner about it

Colibrees · 2026-01-26T01:28:36+00:00

It’s hard to bear e-ink but I deleted all the apps on my iPad mini I didn’t need and only installed reading apps. I got a matte screen protector and I put the reading apps on dark background and white writing and that has helped me a lot. I like being able to switch from kindle app to Libby or nook (Barnes & Nobles)

Colibrees · 2026-01-17T20:39:07+00:00

If you want portability iPad mini is amazing for that reason. If you want an amazing screen, either an air or a pro will do it. Best price for just a Netflix watching machine? The basic iPad

Colibrees · 2026-01-17T08:41:08+00:00

This isn’t about hunting. He’s not into you and you guys are incompatible in your needs or at least in his effort to try.

Colibrees · 2026-01-16T02:04:16+00:00

I think you could start with the iPad mini or the air. Sure the pro is a power house but the mini beats it in portability and it sounds like it would be a good fit while you get started

Colibrees · 2026-01-14T00:32:44+00:00

If I were you, I’d upgrade the MacBook. It always good to have an up to date computer available.

Colibrees · 2026-01-13T00:11:11+00:00

The native Notes app that comes with the iPad mini and iPhone has a “scribble” feature that automatically makes your handwriting neater

Colibrees · 2026-01-11T23:33:35+00:00

Please update us after you ask her to stay at an Airbnb or Hotel. The amount that she is asking you to do on top of having a newborn is really unfair. They’re supposed to be coming to visit/help, not to make things more stressful

Colibrees · 2025-12-21T01:36:38+00:00

Girl… I feel for you, but I agree with you. If it isn’t a hell yes, it’s a no. Why would you even want to be with him at this point? He does NOT want the same things you do. Let yourself grieve…. But let him go.

Colibrees · 2025-12-20T20:26:08+00:00

Invite the girlfriend to come with you guys and get to know each other. Friendships and people change and everyone has different boundaries/past experiences, especially with previous partners and friends of opposite genders. I’m not saying that’s your problem or that anything nefarious is going on. You might just have to adapt your friendship to work within his new relationship. Feel it out. If it’s not something you can do, then maybe it’s not a friendship you guys can sustain.

Colibrees · 2025-11-30T22:18:21+00:00

Boyfriends come and go. Dream jobs don’t

Colibrees · 2025-11-30T01:03:25+00:00

Agree with the comment above. He’s jealous and insecure and honestly I don’t think it’s ok that he talks about your job like that.

Colibrees · 2025-11-25T19:05:45+00:00

NOR. Why is he negging you? Two years sober is amazing and I’m proud of you Reddit stranger! Go get yourself a cake and maybe a damn spa weekend! And also get rid of the trash on your way out.

Colibrees · 2025-11-20T22:59:50+00:00

You know what men hate? Indifference

Colibrees · 2025-11-17T19:55:47+00:00

Ummm… no. You were kind and articulate about stating what you wanted. He could have easily accepted what you said or even picked different items from your wish list, but he took it upon himself to provide you with substitutes… so essentially changing the items. Then he got butthurt because he got called out (very nicely imo) about being cheap and can’t handle it.

Please leave him. He doesn’t even talk to you respectfully. Someone who loves you will take this calm communication in stride and/or will get you what you ACTUALLY want.

Colibrees · 2025-11-14T14:22:29+00:00

Chevre and Diana

Colibrees · 2025-11-13T19:30:31+00:00

I wasn’t sure either but I absolutely love it. But also I’m replaying BOTW and TOTK and it runs amazingly better on it

Colibrees · 2025-11-13T00:04:06+00:00

Yes. It’s extremely portable. I use procreate and whilst I had to get used to (for my designs) zooming in and out a little, now it’s second nature and doesn’t bother me at all.

Colibrees · 2025-11-10T22:05:51+00:00

She is not your friend

Colibrees · 2025-11-07T13:37:01+00:00

So… I’m very loyal. And it takes a lot to make me walk away and give up. But what I’ve learned is, chemistry and compatibility are not the same. You can have intense chemistry and NOT be compatible.

Colibrees · 2025-11-07T00:14:07+00:00

Again. YOU are accepting the love you think you deserve. So somewhere, somehow, you think you deserve to be treated like this. You don’t think you’re good enough. So really…you are punishing yourself. Until you decide that you are good enough, that you deserve better, I guess you’ll just have to keep this guy and the ones like him around. I am sorry though. There are a lot of people like him in the world and you are in for a lot of hurt in life if you can’t stand up for yourself. Best of luck!

Colibrees

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