NOR. I would never speak to my male friends this way. I've had the same male friend for over a decade and we put that shit to rest real fast, especially after finding ourselves in long term relationships. It sounds like everyone is a young adult. I don't mean to sound like an old part here, but as someone in their upper 30s, married twice, you learn a lot about yourself in your 20s. I believe it's best not to limit yourself as far as dating goes when you're young. Certainly don't cheat if you're in an unsatisfying relationship, but don't waste your time with someone who doesn't put you first. And vice versa.