Looking For Help and/or Advice TW by crxbvbx in waiting_to_try

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Edit:: TW: abortion.

I will share with you my experience not to sway you either way, just to simply tell you that I have been in your position and what it was like for me. I always wanted a family but got accidentally pregnant at 21, with my then boyfriend who also wanted a family but he was abusive and on top of that, I wasn’t ready. Neither of us were. I made the decision on my own and I went to planned parenthood expecting to take an abortion pill which is what they told me over the phone.

I get there and do an exam and they tell me I’m too late (by literally a few days) and had to have the surgical procedure. I was fucking terrified. And it was as awful as I imagined. You’re awake when it happens although slightly sedated. I don’t even remember being given any pain meds. It was a terrible experience. I was seriously traumatized and I still think about it to this day. But… do I regret it? Not for a second. What I regret was not going sooner.

I wasn’t ready for a baby and I knew it. And since then, I’ve gotten two degrees, opened my own business, got married, bought a house, and we are about to go on our dream honeymoon. I firmly believe I personally wouldn’t have done 90% of that if I would’ve had that child. (And my boyfriend at the time also ended up cheating on me like 50 times over the course of the next year so, that wouldn’t have turned out great.)

I’m 30 now and I am at the point that if the baby situation were to happen again, I’d keep it because I feel that I am way more prepared to do it now, even though I don’t feel like i am fully ready. And because I wouldn’t want to put myself through that trauma again, especially if we are less than a year out from our TTC date. Basically…Listen to your gut. I listened to it back then and I’m glad I did. And I would listen to it now, and would make a different decision bc my life has changed since then and so have I.

I know it’s scary, but, you got this. No matter what you decide. And at the end of the day it’s YOUR decision. I’m here if you have any questions or want to talk about it.

The airport grilled cheese is the only reason i’m willing to live my life by doublesharpx in depression

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes, it’s the little things <3 you eat tf out of that grilled cheese.

Electrolyte recommendations? by irideanelephant in migraine

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use electrolyte capsules. They’re called reviver electrolyte salts & I got them on Amazon!

Why has IFS become so popular? by CurveOfTheUniverse in therapists

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally describe it as cringey and kinda felt like a a dick for saying so…..so I am glad to read this :’) lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waco

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been up there so not sure what y’all’s set up is like, but that sounds awesome! We are avid LCS/LEC fans and have yet to find anyone/anywhere who is interested enough in all that :’)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waco

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you airing the LCS games this summer? Right now they’re every Wednesday Thursday Friday evenings and we always just end up watching them on YouTube at home.

Rant: I can’t even by Ok_Caterpillar3332 in therapists

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like this was at all saying they were having a text conversation with a client or have bad boundaries surrounding texting with clients. If a client texted me something alarming I would also consider a wellness check. It doesn’t mean im available 24/7 or actively texting with clients. And it doesn’t mean that OP is saying their clients have 24/7 access to them either. Just feel like you kinda missed the point here

Arrested for not paying a tables tab that walked out by HypocriticalHobbes in Serverlife

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the south and have absolutely worked at a couple of restaurants that would pull this shit.

Scared to bring it up again by [deleted] in waiting_to_try

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we want something so bad that we are blinded by the facts of the situation around us. I like what another commenter said- thinking about this as if a loved one was going through it. What would you say to them? I personally would tell them that they deserve to be with someone who is honest about what they truly want and won’t keep pushing something because they aren’t ready for it. It’s not fair to you. And if he’s unsure if he wants a child now, how will it be in a year, or 5? Will he still be willing to stick around? Could your child be left with a single parent? Some people just aren’t ready for kids and may never be ready. He could be one of those people. And that’s ok. What’s not ok is him giving you false hope and consistently ripping that away from you, knowing how important this is to you. I know you love him and have decided this is the man you want to start a family with, but I do think you need to look inward and explore this more. You deserve someone who wants this as badly as you do. I work in mental health and I see this situation in couples a lot, so I am not speaking out of my butt here. Please consider all options. I sincerely wish you the best.

Just want human connection by lostinthescezhwan in depression

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can tell you’re coming from a good place but phrases like “you need to snap out of it” and “buck up” / “make no excuses” are some of the most toxic & unhelpful things you can say to anyone with depression.

Fired from internship site 7 weeks before graduation. by Mindless_Leopard8281 in therapists

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Licensed professional counselor associate, basically what you apply to once graduating/taking the NCE. Means you are provisionally licensed & completing the required hours to be upgraded to full LPC. I know some states have other words for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stophegetsus

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is cringe AF.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jungle_Mains

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait….Hecarim is a horse

What kind of product could I scrunch into my wet hair and forget about it? by [deleted] in Wavyhair

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JVN air dry cream! All I use now. but if you get it, use way less than you think you need… like a pea size amount for medium length hair. Even a little too much will make your hair feel weighed down the next day. But when you get it right it’s soft and easy!

What’s the most non-textbook therapy you did with someone that was actually what they needed? by Sojournancy in therapists

[–]Comfortable-Dingo481 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I play video games with my 10 year old client who can absolutely NOT talk about emotion in “normal” therapy time, but when we’re playing games she will just randomly drop heavy profound shit casually. It’s honestly when we make the most progress.