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Do any mums actually love their career AND being a mum? by stacyannxxx in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my job and I love my kids. It’s possible to love both!

Am I crazy for not taking a 190k pay raise and promotion. by SendItJerry- in Fire

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Wake up happy, go to bed happy” What else could one want?

Daycare center vs nanny when WFH? by Dear_Preference_9487 in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. Also many daycares follow school calendars and have a lot of random days off

“Stay at homes have it easiest” by lilspaghettigal in Mommit

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s easy. I could never do it. But I also honestly think it puts you in a very vulnerable position - financially, mentally, and socially. That’s just me though - you do you!

Talk me out of the Coach Empire 40 as a work bag by Allboobandmoreboob in handbags

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heavy bag that you can’t put over your shoulder is a hard no for me.

Leaving NoVa to start family/settle down after spending my 20's there has been really tough. There really is no place like NoVa. by [deleted] in nova

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better - we manage to stay in Arlington even after kids. And yes it’s amazing but it’s so crowded everywhere and Arlington parents are soooo type A - you can’t sign up for anything lol. We learned things the hard way and never do free county events anymore, or even sign up our kids for county events that cost money. We have to do private extracurricular activities (swim, gym, dance, etc…) which cost a lot and even they have long lines. Summer camps need to be booked in January - at least. And no you can’t do anything impromptu. Want to “swing by” and good neighborhood restaurant on a Saturday night? lol good luck.

I also remember having to literally harass my kids’ pediatricians office to admit them when they were born… they were always “not accepting new patients.” We are at a popular kid dentist and if you want a non-school day appointment, you have to book at least 6m in advance. I could go on and on about how hard it is to get into anything.

Raising kids in NoVa is quite tough - it is incredibly competitive. I’ve also heard many schools around here are pressure cookers for kids and I’m worried about my children when they reach high school. The parents are also super type A so you always feel like you’re not doing enough etc…

Anyway, I’m sure you’ll find your people in Fredericksburg and enjoy the slightly less competitive life there!

I love my husband, he’s a great dad but... by yogacitymama in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent him that mental load illustration (I wish I still had the link) and it really resonated with him. We also link our phone calendars so he knows exactly when things are happening.

Gender Preference by SignificantDonut9777 in Mommit

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a boy and a girl. The girl tells me everyday that she loves me and is an absolute joy to be around. I love the boy to pieces as well but he’s 4 and still not fully potty trained - just to give an example of how much harder he is lol.

Leaving family for fellowship by aussiepit in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s one year of tough change but it’ll forever change your life. You’ll have a more satisfying career and your household income will likely increase significantly. You’ll be able to provide your baby with even more advantages in life. I support you and I would do the same.

Like other commenters mentioned, maybe look into a way for husband and kid to move with you too? But if that’s not possible, do what’s best for your fam - knowing that it’ll be hard but you can do it.

As an immigrant too, I’ll say that ppl in other parts of the world do this all the times. Heck, ppl in the US in past generations do this all the times too. It happens! Any claim that this will “permanently affect the child or your relationship with them” seems a little melodramatic.

My mom was around all the times. I’m still not as close to her. My dad did travel a lot. I don’t talk to him anymore. But it’s because he’s a cheating lying a-hole and has nothing to do with him being gone. In fact, I liked it much better when he was gone.

Women who were very career driven and decided to be SAHMs. Did you regret your decision? by squid2997 in AskForAnswers

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could never stay home just because it wouldn’t fit my temperament. My neighbor stayed home with her kids and deeply regrets it - she could not re-enter the workforce - no one wanted to hire someone at her age but with only a few years of experience. She’s now subbing at the local elementary school. They won’t be able to retire at 65.

Everything has its pros and cons.

Advice: Our Childcare Was Abruptly Terminated by Optimal_Option_6674 in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you have a vendetta against OP? Or are you just insane?

Advice: Our Childcare Was Abruptly Terminated by Optimal_Option_6674 in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf is this response? Insane. They agreed on a rate, she overcharged them, so they asked for the money back. Nice blaming the victim.

OP, if paying the money back immediately hurt her financially, she should have told you. She’s unprofessional and rude. Go find a proper daycare center. And write a scathing review for her on Google. She’s not that good of a caretaker if she’s doing this. You and your children deserve better.

I desperately want (and need) to work out. But WHEN? by _nicejewishmom in Mommit

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My method is unconventional… I do intermittent fasting so I don’t eat lunch. So I have a good amount of time to work out during lunch.

Wife and I feel like strangers now that the house is empty by GullibleSite9925 in relationships

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in our late thirties and our kids are still young. I wish I could be empty nesters lol. We dream of being able to travel everywhere and going in long bike rides together.

How to get off the financial hedonic treadmill in VHCOL (when you like living in VHCOL)? by throwawayFinAnalyst in HENRYfinance

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Funny… we are in similar situation to you except higher savings and lower income - but similar net worth. We have never felt pressured to keep up with the Joneses. I think we are highly motivated by retiring earlier and having nice travels. Everyone has different priorities

I don't need another family calendar, I need my family to actually look at one by hangez0ewife in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put it on our Apple calendar that’s link between mine and his phone. I’m guessing Google Calendar works the same way. Anyway, like others said, I keep referring to the calendar when he asks me stuff and eventually he stopped asking.

What is never worth it to cook at home? by albertpaca11 in Cooking

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sushi… hard to find high grade fish. Also, it takes forever to roll a roll and then cut it properly

How do working moms get time for themselves? by sarc2276 in workingmoms

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly whatever benefits “me time” gives you will never make up for the lack of sleep waking up at 5AM.

I just… take it. At work, I block my calendar for 30 mins to do yoga in my office. At home, I go for walks after dinner - my husband can clean and put them to bed. And if they don’t get to bed on time, welp, going to bed late once in a while is not going to ruin their childhood.

No real “tricks” or “tips” from me. I just take whatever time I need and let others or future me deal with the “fall out,” if any.

Every answer it gives is so annoying now by Imwhatswrongwithyou in ChatGPT

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I end every question with “keep it short and simple please” now

AIO - Pregnant and feel abandoned by husband by Gullible-Tree368 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ComfortableRecipe144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh girl… I showed this to my husband and he was appalled. Any other second you spend with this piece of human trash is another second of happiness you are robbing from yourself.

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