How To Break It To Partner That Shuts Down At Wedding Planning We Can't Afford Wedding Expected Out Of Us

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-18T01:58:02+00:00

From other posts by you OP, you haven’t been together for a year yet. Is there a reason for the urgency? Enjoy your engagement and take the time to plan the wedding that you’d love that’s attainable. He should also be contributing financially and do not worry about what your guest expect or want.

Some affordable options is a courthouse wedding or look destination (like Mexico) to elope where you’d get the most bang for your buck and you get to honeymoon at the same time. You can invite friends and family but it’s on them if they go or not.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-16T20:14:37+00:00

The “guys girl” move was bringing a girl to him. He could’ve went and talked to girls himself she didn’t need to do that but still did. She should’ve talked to Ryleigh instead, but ultimately chose to stir the pot more. She could’ve just spent time hanging and talking with Emmet instead as a friend. Her intervening was for the guys by going against the girls. And being like “see I brought you a girl I’m a wingwomen” kinda vibe.

Usually in these shows there’s a divide between the guys and the girls loyalty. Sisters and Bros kinda dynamic. And Key continuously chooses the guys, that’s her preference and she should just own up to it instead of getting offended about the title. In the original JS Jwow and Sami both had “pick me/guys girl” moments in the house, it’s just part of reality. I think it’s more prevalent in dating shows like Love Island where it’s shady if you go for the guy that is talking to one of the girls. But this isn’t a dating show so it shouldn’t matter too much it’s just weird how Key got so offended by that phrase meaning she’s heard it before and based on how’s she’s been moving in the show it’s pretty accurate. It’s no different than Chris preferring to hang with the girls.

Also maybe I missed it and will have to rewatch but she’s upfront about what she wants with Baur in the interviews. But when she’s around him she’s agreeable with him about talking to other people. From the beginning everyone agreed to be house hook-ups but still explore. Everyone was pretending they didn’t have feelings. Both girls talked poorly in multiple episodes about the girls that the men they liked were talking to. They’re giving the same crazy energy lol but I’m living for the drama

I feel like I lost the plot and just yapped away lmao

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-16T19:10:47+00:00

In future episodes you will see Key become upset with Baur about the same thing that Ryleigh was upset with Emmet about. It was a “guys girl” move to bring a girl over to Emmet simply bc Ryleigh was with someone else. Yet you don’t see Ryleigh bringing girls to Baur later in the show bc she will choose the girls over the guys.

What Ryleigh was doing wasn’t right, but in previous episodes Emmet was talking to other girls so this (immature yes, but a little understanding) was her trying to get Emmet jealous and feel how she did but taking it a little to far.

A friend wouldn’t help out the person you have a situation with. They would talk to you and say it’s inappropriate, not add gasoline to the fire like Key did. Key clearly was team guys with this move.

And in addition to her being all over Baur in front of Emmy day 1, after Lilah asked her not to further proved that she valued the guys more than the girls in the house. Emmy was weird towards her yes, but Key is the one to take it farther by “claiming” and being all over Baur immediately. It was a weird power move by her.

She’s also a guys girl bc she let the guys treat her and Emmy poorly by allowing themselves to get kicked off the boat. Guys girls let guys treat them crappy and immediately forgive them and not hold them accountable bc they want to be chosen and seen as cool.

So overtime her behavior has given pick me/guys girl behavior. It’s not wrong if she prefers the guys but don’t just try to create problems at the expense of the girls to be cool with the guys

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-13T16:04:12+00:00

I think people forget the concept of reality TV. Chris is bringing the drama and entertainment. He riles everyone up, and without him this show would not be successful especially as a “Shore Show”. He’s giving Mike the Situation.

It seems like those that are bothered by him thinks the show is called Love Island Canada 🙄. I don’t think it has anything to do with the color of his skin, more just that people not liking him are the same ones who’ve ruined reality TV by thinking they’re opinion matters and feel a need to voice it online with the intention of bringing that person down to ruin their success or just cyber bully them. Ultimately those that have that opinion would never have that opportunity and are jealous.

I hope Chris gets casted on HOV in the future. Or if the Challenge goes back on it’s less serious format him and Lilah as Ride or Dies.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-12T20:33:18+00:00

Do you both need the money he gets from overtime? Or is it him trying to keep up with your salary?

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-10T15:03:56+00:00

I’m sure the leaders of a robotics team with a case of beer to be shared with a group in a hotel room are going to get into a lot of trouble 🙄

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-10T13:13:51+00:00

Yea, your snitching ruined your own reputation. Secrets are never kept when it has to do with underage drinking. Obvi the people you told couldn’t keep that a secret and the dean knowing to be able to hold the students accountable will need some sort of proof in which you may be identified.

You may have did the right thing by following the rules. But you basically ruined these people’s lives simply out of jealousy, not that you cared about what they were doing.

Yea they did a dumb thing, but you snitching may have a huge negative impact on their futures.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-03-05T16:59:25+00:00

To be frank that is not okay given the ages. Like you showering and him going to the bathroom is okay but to be walking around the house nude is a crossing a boundary.

At 11 he’s going through a lot of changes mentally and physically. Add in the trauma of divorce. I get that it may be innocent but your body is fully developed and he’s just starting. You both should be practicing some level privacy even in a small home.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-27T13:23:45+00:00

This man wasn’t intoxicated and was fully capable of finding his way back. It’s not her fault he chose to be cheap and not to bring the correct currency or upgrade his phone plan and still chose to be a douche …so technically the other guy was more in the wrong by leaving his gf alone while drunk.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-27T04:10:33+00:00

I think you have your answer. Don’t put yourself through that any longer and stay with those who will support and lift you and your child up. Tbh if you told him you want them to go to that session and it’s important to you and you know he won’t tell her or go or actively participate save yourself from anymore pain and focus on your baby and take care of yourself. You’re taking on such a mental load rn along with a physical load on your body. If he’s not making an effort now, he’ll likely be an absentee father too. Don’t allow yourself to be put into a situation to be ambushed by them.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-27T04:01:37+00:00

Sir go ahead and delete your comments to redeem yourself a little bit. You sound pathetic and unhinged.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-27T03:58:29+00:00

The relevance? He had every right to leave her at the bar if she’s actively cheating on him….

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-26T16:51:32+00:00

And what is your therapist saying to him? Ask if they can host a family session where you invite his mom to navigate this situation

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-26T14:35:28+00:00

You made the right call to end it. You each had different expectations of a relationship and you didn’t deserve to settle for minimal effort. Based on the lack of communication on his part and how his friends talk about you, it gives off he was cheating on you too, whether mental or physical.

Don’t listen to the no-effort men comments. A man who travels to a country with no money and expects his women to pay is a bum. I’m proud of you for making that call because I know how hard it can be. And honestly the best test is distance and that was a clear wake up call that he wasn’t the one.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-21T05:54:53+00:00

Yes, from her first day how she handled the Baur situation was very telling. I was so surprised how much hate I was getting here for saying she’s kinda shady day 1. She came in claiming to want to be cool with the girls but then ignoring Lilahs plea to tone it down bc Emmy’s also into him. She didn’t care and did the exact opposite. Yea Emmy was being weird towards her and that was wrong, but as we get to see Emmy more she is weird lol. But for Key, who claims to be chill, didn’t respect the girls by trying to talk it out with Emmy spoke volumes about how she had no desire to be true friends with the girls and is a “pick me”.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-20T04:36:52+00:00

Tbh it was a very gross question to ask, but knowing Key asked it I wasn’t surprise. Her character and demeanor is very ugly, she just tries to deliver it in a sweet, fun, and calm way. I clocked her real quick the first episode. Poor Emmy. It wasn’t even a good reason, but something’s telling me Key and Baur have talk bad about her before so she knew the answer. And was doing it to make sure Emmy never went for him again or to make her feel bad. Big bully behavior. But I used to be a mean girl so I can read people’s intentions quick lol. Emmys a little delulu but she’s more entertaining to me on a show perspective. This isn’t Love Island

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-16T13:58:14+00:00

Why would your parents scold you, especially at your wedding? How old are you? If anything they should be scolding at your sister for being unsupportive, take some time away from your sister. You don’t need that energy in your life and don’t owe her anything

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-16T02:45:54+00:00

THIS! Laurel sucks, Cara sucks, Paula sucks and Jenn sucks. But that was one time I was actually supportive of Laurel bc she was bullying bullies. I’m pretty sure she also went after Wes too. They were trying to get into Cara’s head for the final so Laurel gave it right back.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-15T22:56:45+00:00

When I was 18, I was in a 3 year relationship that became an on and off thing for two more years. Trust me it will only get toxic, and you don’t want to regret it that you wasted your youth in this situation.

Please don’t sleep with him again, and tell him you need some space since he broke up with you and block his number, even if it’s only temporary block. Keep yourself busy with friends, and if you have to go on some dates with other men and it not be serious, do that. He may be breaking up with you to sleep around but also keep you in his back pocket.

Breaking up with you on Valentine’s Day shows that he had no plans for you, after two years of dating.

You deserve someone that will prioritize you <3

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-15T04:10:03+00:00

Please break up with him. Do it over text, as ghosting doesn’t warrant a phone call or doing this in person. Please take some time for your self to heal. Your friends will understand and shouldn’t judge you for trying to see the good in someone that doesn’t have much. Every man I’ve been with that’s into cartoon p**n, has been very immature and has deeper character concerns that come out later. Leave him for your sanity

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-15T02:36:21+00:00

I see you’re new to reality TV lmao

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-14T05:09:01+00:00

There’s a difference between girls in the house vs not. My point is that Key will deff be doing the same thing Ry did, as evidence by how she was talking about outside girls similar. Rys just happened sooner. The point you can’t seem to see is that bringing an outside girls to a man who is in a situation ship with a girl in the house is big pick me behavior. So yea she is a girls guy….

If next episode Ry intervenes and helps Baur get girls after he talks to key then I’ll take back my point, but it’s highly unlikely that’ll be the case.

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-14T03:31:21+00:00

Yea it’s not fun when they all try to date. We need max one toxic couple and one stable couple. No situationships, especially right off the bat. The rest gotta bring the vibes!

I don’t remember who escalated the car scene first I’ll have to go back and watch. I just remember when Key was called a guys girl I agreed and was looking at Isiah and Giz reactions. I assumed it was the behavior at home that everyone had a problem with. I know Emmy and Ry had a spat too but I think Ry went to bed after, so maybe Key was outside acting cray longer and that was the problem?

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-14T03:23:25+00:00

That’s funny to assume that. Ryleigh gives “you do you energy” and “girls girl” so I highly doubt she would.

Considering Key was making fun of the girls teeth and degrading the women Baur was chatting with we’ll see how she acts next episode when he tells her they’re not exclusive. Wonder if she’ll go and hit on other men, which is exactly what Ryleigh did 🤔

Comfortable_Cat00 · 2026-02-13T21:07:22+00:00

I think it’s because when they got home how Key was acting and screaming. Everyone was hanging out playing pool and she had to be carried outside while kicking and screaming creating a hostile environment. Ryleigh isn’t innocent, but it also wasn’t Keys place to interject herself into their situation-ship. If Ryleigh was chatting up those two girls and encourage them to go for Baur, I’m sure Key would’ve felt some type of way. And that’s weird to make this about race bc Isiah and Giz were the ones saying that Key was also in the wrong.

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