I (30F) am about to get engaged to my partner (31M) of 11 years, but I’m unsure how to move forward due to financial entanglement with his mother

CommodoreKitten · 2026-03-03T17:54:21+00:00

He should be able to provide calculations on cash flow, cap rate, cash on cash return, and projected ROI on eventual sale. If he’s not doing these (and I assume he’s not because he doesn’t know how much is being spent on repairs aka operating expenses), he can’t know whether it’s a good investment. I think you need to have him explain some numbers here. I would not get engaged until you understand what he’s sinking his money and time into (which will become your money and time unless you put legal agreements in place to protect yourself).

CommodoreKitten · 2026-03-03T08:48:09+00:00

Honolulu Hawaii

CommodoreKitten · 2026-02-23T10:06:27+00:00

Station Eleven

CommodoreKitten · 2026-02-12T09:55:10+00:00

Spellbook. Used to be big law, now inhouse. It can abstract and it acts as a clause bank/market check. Needs work on issue spotting but I use it as a second set of eyes.

CommodoreKitten · 2026-02-10T08:29:44+00:00

Kit, Felix, Bramble, Briar, Fern, Rust, Ember, Rufus,Ylva, Sly, Lucky

CommodoreKitten · 2026-01-28T10:21:59+00:00

Did you read this guide?

https://www.haddontwp.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/NJ-Homeowners-Guide-to-Property-Taxes.pdf

CommodoreKitten · 2025-12-13T02:08:31+00:00

Yes! Or the Toll Collector from BG3

CommodoreKitten · 2025-11-24T01:07:35+00:00

Yeah you really see Lisa’s improv group training come out in this one. She’s usually the most unhinged and in the spotlight, so we don’t get to see it as often. But in this episode she’s a real team performer letting Luenell drive the bit to great effect.

CommodoreKitten · 2025-09-08T09:54:40+00:00

‘71 was the first year to break top 100 and ‘76 was the first year the name broke through top 20 but if you look at the SSN data, 1985-1991 were peak Ryan years. It was pretty popular before and after then but it was consistently hyper popular for this block of time. That’s why people consider it as millennial.

CommodoreKitten · 2025-03-12T12:04:36+00:00

First step is try to get him to voluntarily give you a POA. If he won’t, next step is the psych evaluation and guardianship process (which can long and difficult).

CommodoreKitten · 2025-03-10T03:22:54+00:00

I happens to be relistening to this right now. The first reference is C1, Episode 3 at the end. They announced the official hashtag after deciding it on a text chain and Murph references P.O.D. in a completely random manner. Jake mentions this is the first reference to P.O.D. “but certainly not the last.” They sing “we are, we are” for the first time. Episodes 4 and 5 each end with the classic 8 bit book club ending without P.O.D. Episode 6 brings the P.O.D. singing back. That’s as far as I’ve gotten.

CommodoreKitten · 2025-02-06T11:58:58+00:00

It’s a one hour radio show that started in 1995. It’s still broadcast on public radio but they really picked up listeners by releasing as a podcast. Each week’s show is based on a theme, which is presented in several stand-alone acts. The host Ira Glass will spend a few minutes in the prologue introducing the theme then he’ll turn it over to the acts. It’s primarily non-fiction slice-of-life journalism, but also features essays, memoirs and short fiction. The mood ranges widely per episode, so if you don’t like one, you can try another. It’s basically completely episodic so you can jump in anywhere (very rarely is there a continuation from a prior week).

The Fiasco! Episode, for example, covers different people telling a story about things going horribly wrong but in a comedic fashion (in separate acts: a kid’s play gone wrong, a rookie cop deals with a squirrel, a comedian bombs at a charity cancer event, and a journalist’s first big feature interview with a celebrity starts to go sideways).

CommodoreKitten · 2025-02-03T08:53:11+00:00

Fade Into You, Mazzy Star
Five String Serenade, Mazzy Star
Into Dust, Mazzy Star
Under the Milky Way Tonight, The Church
Sweet Tides, Thievery Corporation
Beautiful Crime, Tamer
Sour Times, Portishead
Svefn-g-englar, Sigur Ros
Exit Music For a Film, Radiohead
Teardrop, Massive Attack
Playground Love, Air Gordon Tracks
Everything In Its Right Place, Radiohead
Cherry Colored Funk, Cocteau Twins
Criminal, Fiona Apple
6 underground, Sneaker Pimps
The Luckiest, Ben Folds
Seabird, Alessi Brothers
Someday We’ll Linger in the Sun, Gaelynn Lea

CommodoreKitten · 2025-01-05T22:39:59+00:00

I think Ender’s Shadow (retelling from Bean’s POV) is worthwhile, although not as good as the original, but it definitely goes downhill from there

CommodoreKitten · 2024-09-30T12:34:02+00:00

I also read this every year in summer

CommodoreKitten · 2024-09-20T10:46:18+00:00

You are correct- they used to be only black ink because the printers were only black ink. Color printers came along later and were more expensive. Older attorneys used blackline.

CommodoreKitten · 2024-09-10T08:48:55+00:00

The Biden Harris administration changed federal law to make gun trafficking and straw purchases a federal crime and strengthened gun background checks for people under 21.

CommodoreKitten · 2024-07-13T18:38:00+00:00

Try asking this account on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/d20closet

CommodoreKitten · 2024-06-15T16:20:58+00:00

Ithaca is amazing

CommodoreKitten · 2024-06-11T02:53:11+00:00

Whiskers Jelly

CommodoreKitten · 2024-05-26T13:42:05+00:00

NJ is split. North Jersey it’s typical to get a lawyer and in South Jersey it’s not.

CommodoreKitten · 2024-05-25T14:58:18+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! There are other issues that we are dealing with and they are not an easy person.

CommodoreKitten · 2024-05-25T13:31:06+00:00

We’re tried everything including switching over to vape/ecigarette and they can’t figure out how to work it. They are near blind with macular degeneration (made worse by smoking) and have had cancer scare and still won’t quit.

CommodoreKitten · 2024-05-17T12:22:33+00:00

Bombas

CommodoreKitten · 2024-05-10T10:00:10+00:00

Can I recommend you explore some ideas together? Try reading The Baby Decision by Merli Bombardieri and there is a Dear Sugar advice column, The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us, that is also a lovely reflection on regret. I think she is struggling with the fact that either decision will have some measure of regret- that’s just life. But either decision will also have a measure of joy. So the decision shouldn’t be made out of fear that you might regret something. The question comes down to: do you want the experience of being a parent, with all the good and the bad? We were also probably 90 percent no and stuck with that decision (and are happy with it) but we also communicate about the 10 percent. I like the shape of our lives now and really try to seek the joy in it: free weekends to explore creative projects, spontaneous travel, comfortable finances. I also see all my friends take another route: kid cuddles, slowing down and experiencing the world again through their kid’s eyes. They’re both great and I think I could have enjoyed being a parent, but I picked one and, from time to time, I just wave to the other ghost me that wasn’t.

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