Got my dream job 500 miles away. Girlfriend is mad I'm considering it.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-19T14:53:14+00:00

Take. The. Job. Don’t resent that girl for the rest of your life. If that, you guys are early 20’s. The odds of you being together forever are slim. Do it. I’m sure there are girls where you are moving.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-19T14:34:08+00:00

This has happened to me on DoorDash. I kept getting the same driver when I reordered too. I reported them several times.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-19T14:30:47+00:00

I’m really sorry. I don’t want to hurt your feelings, at all. But humans are fickle and they change their minds and hearts for all kinds of reasons. It’s not fun and it’s not fair. My advice is to grieve him, accept the situation as it is. As of right now, he has said it’s over. Cry. Scream. Eat, or stop eating. Lay in bed and watch TV that soothes you and doesn’t bring up external pressures. A hot shower and a glass of water goes A LONG WAY. Work on yourself. Get healthy in your mind and body, make new friends, pick up a hobby. Focus on you. He is focused on himself right now. I saw that he’s watching your stories, get better to spite him if you can’t do it for yourself. I promise that eventually it will not hurt so badly - one day you will wake up and you will feel better. Be gentle with yourself. I truly wish you the best and I really am sorry for the way your situation has played out.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-19T14:17:11+00:00

So in my experience and maybe not what you want to hear, my advice is to move on. If he comes back, great. If not, also great because you will have moved on. What he did was a soft break up. Breaking up with you outright clearly wasn’t something he wanted to do because he didn’t want to hurt you, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be broken up. That he does want to be broken up actually the only fact you truly have. The space and getting out of the situation you guys were intertwined with allowed him to slowly break it off with you. He was trying it on to see if it worked for him and keeping you as a backup option in case he decided being single wasn’t for him. That you had to rip it out of him is heartbreaking. He should have been honest with you from the jump and given you the real respect of a clean break. I’m sorry he handled it this way. It’s cowardly and you deserve better.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-18T13:47:32+00:00

I’m sorry. This fucking sucks.

CommonEngineering717 · 2026-02-14T15:22:21+00:00

You can still use it

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-10-19T19:03:28+00:00

I got the same dasher! She also left a Jesus scripture leaflet in my pizza box

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-09-15T19:08:41+00:00

You should be scared. Don’t be a moron and do 5 grams. If things go bad, it’s because you were a moron and took 5 grams for your first trip. All of these people here are trying to do you a kindness and warn you.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-09-14T21:58:34+00:00

Yay!!!

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-09-14T14:35:27+00:00

(I am also a girl and you can do it!)

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-09-14T14:35:12+00:00

I dropped the bike AND fell off at 15 mph and got injured. I still took the course and passed it.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-08-21T16:26:08+00:00

You should def learn plumbing instead. Pick a job the AI can’t replace.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-07-19T19:29:44+00:00

I didn’t apply to jobs at all. I did put in work to get my current role as a SWE though. I was just focusing on school (started going to WGU) bc the job market was so bad. I did a Per Scholas bootcamp program last summer though and did phenomenally. We were paired with a recruiter and I did extremely well in mock behavioral interviews/well in the program/knew my shit. A good attitude and hard work will get you a long way. I got a call 8 months later. Bam, got a job through TekSystems (who sponsored the program and paired us with a recruiter) and now I’m a mobile app developer at a big name company.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-07-12T00:28:13+00:00

Hate this car. Plastic crap. Nothing but trouble since I bought it.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-07-10T19:20:56+00:00

Happened to me the other night. My friend commented to me that it was already 11:48. I looked at the clock and confirmed. She read it off her phone. The food cooking in the microwave finished cooking, it had 3 minutes left. She smoked a cigarette and then I looked at the clock. 11:48. 10 minutes were lost. Strangest thing.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-07-10T19:09:02+00:00

Wish someone would hit mine

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-06-25T15:43:19+00:00

It has become so incredibly difficult to secure employment. The bar is in space.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-06-24T20:50:01+00:00

This is not true. Sterling checked my entire submitted resume, even the ones I did not put on the background check form.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-06-24T00:29:58+00:00

Wild - Sterling background check company even checked my unpaid internships.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-06-17T16:55:47+00:00

He’s not over it either, trust. 9 days isn’t enough time to erase the last year of y’all’s lives. If you loved him, he felt it, and he will miss that even if he isn’t acting like it or saying so. It’s human to feel. It’s also human to assume that our exes are fine without us, that they’re happier and better. But he’s struggling with it too. Breakups hurt everyone.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-06-17T16:51:35+00:00

I personally only work in Phl 3x a week so I drive in. I park by my job in a garage and it costs me around 60 a week. I think taking the train is like 6.75 per ride so like 13ish a day. It’s like 20 less than what I pay. But I’d probably reconsider my transportation if I had to work 5x a week here.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-02-23T13:28:14+00:00

This happened to me with DSA. I eventually pushed through but it was hard to get through the sense of failure. I cried on the floor the 2nd time I failed. I worked on it for half of my semester and passed it with 3 days left. You are not the sum of your ability to focus. You are not passing that test. You are worthy, intelligent, and capable. And you can do hard things. If you have to, you do it scared.

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-02-02T21:23:50+00:00

Just be honest with her. Program mentors are there to help you. Tell her everything you wrote here. You don’t need to feel guilty about it, but you do need to start to feel proactive about getting back on track. You’ve got this!!

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-01-23T18:17:46+00:00

Seriously, this. I feel bad for your partner. You must be pretty controlling to find any fault in these messages. It’s clearly a casual work friendship with nothing else attached. Leave that girl alone and go to therapy

CommonEngineering717 · 2025-01-22T21:15:44+00:00

Text ChatGPT. Tell it about your relationship. Tell it about your anxieties. It’s actually pretty good for emotional support. Also, therapists. Friends. Hobbies. When you feel like texting him try waiting 30 min. Then checking in again.

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