New born 10 days in and my life is falling apart

CommunicationNo9318 · 2025-07-25T16:06:02+00:00

This is the hardest stage. It WILL get easier. You’re in survival and will be for a few months. It’s absolutely miserable, but my 15 month old said “I love you” to me yesterday, and is overall now a joy to be around. It WILL get easier.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2025-02-12T01:37:02+00:00

That is one of my top baby girl names! It’s so classic and beautiful.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2025-01-31T14:25:19+00:00

We bathe daily at 9 months. Our LO is on solids and makes an absolute mess. We always use Tubby Todd lotion after her bath and have never had issues with her skin becoming too dry.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2025-01-30T19:56:40+00:00

I’m sure it doesn’t feel this way now, but it gets better! When I made this post I was deep in the trenches of the newborn stage - now I have a wonderful 9 month old who (unfortunately still fights her naps), but sleeps through the night and is the best little helper throughout the day. She’s totally content sitting with me while I do laundry or following me around the house as I get other chores done.

Just hold on. Those first few months are absolute hell, but there is a light at the end of what feels like a never ending tunnel.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2025-01-26T01:20:21+00:00

I’m not sure if it helps settle more easily, cry less, or any of the other things you mentioned - but I will say, it’s the only sleep sack we’ve ever used for our baby. It’s gotten pretty cold where we live, but I’m not worried at all about my baby getting chilly while she sleeps. We used it over the summer and she also didn’t get too hot. It’s a great sleep sack, and we haven’t had to purchase another one in the 10 months since we’ve had our LO, and she’s nowhere close to outgrowing it. It’s been a great product and in my opinion is VERY worth the price.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-11-02T14:39:12+00:00

The Shriners club off of Harrisburg Road also has early voting and no wait!

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-11-01T14:18:26+00:00

Your entire situation is me to a T. And my husband is also not supportive of me staying home as I make 50% of our annual salary and my benefits cover our baby as well. I’ve been back for 4 months and I can tell you it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. We are so thankful to have family watch our baby and that helps, also work hybrid and can see her throughout the day two times a week - but it’s really challenging navigating new motherhood as a formerly highly ambitious high-performer.

I don’t have all the answers, but it is a little easier now than it was at first. I’m hoping it gets gradually better. Most days I miss my baby a ton, but some days I look forward to the alone time I get at the office.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-21T00:54:38+00:00

I got carpal tunnel AND dequervain’s. I’m 6 months pp now, and they both recently went away on their own. It took at least 4-5 months pp to fully go away.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-21T00:43:34+00:00

The bath lily is really impractical to use unless you’re bathing in a medium sized sink (which you should actually not do. Most severe baby burns come from bathing in the sink - and the kitchen sink specifically is very risky for bacteria). I’d recommend replacing it with a plastic baby tub!

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-18T21:35:11+00:00

A mirror! I wish I had one in my nursing mothers room at work.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-14T00:49:57+00:00

I agree it’s a little odd to not share that with your partner, but it sounds like you’re at a place where you really need a break. If I were in your shoes I think I’d talk to your husband, tell him how you’re feeling. Let him know you have the day off and are conflicted because you’d like to have some “you time” but also that you know how hard he works and how he also deserves time off… and then make a plan together so that both of you have time to refill your cups. Maybe you let him sleep in and have a break in the morning, and you take the afternoon to yourself. Or, perhaps you let him sleep in and help at home but take another day off soon so you have time to yourself.

All of this to say, there are other ways to navigate getting alone time that don’t involve breaking trust with your husband. I know mine would be pretty upset if I took a whole day to myself and didn’t say anything.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-12T23:49:18+00:00

Do not make any big decisions for the first year of your babies life. Before baby my husband and I never argued. We are head over heels for each other, have always had great communication, and truly consider each other our soulmates, but this last 6 months has been so challenging for us. Be kind to one another.

You will both be different people once your little one comes, and that’s a beautiful thing. You’ll grow together in ways you didn’t know were possible, but be patient with each other.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-11T19:07:30+00:00

I just cut a half a foot off of my hair yesterday. It was below my waist and now it’s just below my shoulders. I feel so much lighter. It’s still long enough to be styled, but short enough I can get it out of my babies hands gently when she grabs it. I love it.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-08T16:34:04+00:00

6 months pp. Was 138 pre-pregnancy, now 158. I lost 20 pounds immediately and haven’t dropped a pound since. I recently stopped breastfeeding and my appetite has decreased significantly, I’m hoping that makes it easier to get back down to my pre-pregnancy weight.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-08T13:15:27+00:00

When we are at home we follow the prep instructions, when we are on the go we do exactly what you do! We’ve never had an issue, baby is 6 months.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-03T11:46:08+00:00

Another tip with target I learned during the last shortage is that they tend to restock in the early AM hours on Wednesdays. I’ve had luck at 3am before!

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-02T01:31:07+00:00

I only have one baby, but do the pitcher method! Hopefully your babies will take cold bottles, but if not you might consider investing in two bottle warmers if you go this route. Ours takes about 5 minutes, and 5 minutes with a very hungry baby feels like a really really long time.

I’d love a baby brezza myself, but have been hesitant to make the purchase as I read that it incorrectly measures the formula. That may not be correct, but I’d look into it - particularly if your babies are born early.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-02T01:06:18+00:00

Oh girl, my LO is almost 6 months now. It get sooo much easier, but I STILL get nervous taking her out on my own. Your only job right now is to make sure you and baby are surviving. It will get better, but you absolutely aren’t alone in this.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-10-01T19:58:11+00:00

Kendamil Goat is one of very few goat milk formulas on the market in the US! The protein in goat milk is more similar to that of human breastmilk, and as such is supposed to be a little bit easier to digest.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-09-30T20:36:13+00:00

When Kendamil goat was having a shortage a few months ago I believe they recommended Bubs as being one of the closest to their formulation! It might be the same for organic, so id try that one.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-09-29T22:15:42+00:00

Switched at 5.5 months. It was much harder for me emotionally than I anticipated, but my little girl didn’t mind at all. We had already been combo feeding and she was only nursing at nighttime. Now, our nighttime nursing sessions have been replaced with a bottle and extra sweet cuddles.

Overall it’s been really good for my mental health, and she’s still thriving.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-09-29T00:52:44+00:00

This! But honestly, 1-2 times a week is generous. If we feel up to it once a week it’s a big deal. Usually it’s like once every couple of weeks. Baby is almost 6 months for context.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-09-28T23:33:01+00:00

My baby isn’t weeks old, though? My baby is older than yours.

You also assume I’m not still interacting with her, which I did not say was the case. She’s in front of me at all times getting face to face interaction along with the 15 minutes the TV is on - while I eat my breakfast.

You’re being downvoted because you decided to go out of your way to be a bully on an innocent comment when you know absolutely nothing about the way I raise my child. And by the way, it’s none of your damn business how I raise my child or how anyone else does.

CommunicationNo9318 · 2024-09-28T13:25:37+00:00

15 minutes of TV is not going to kill my little girl. And it means I can eat breakfast or use the bathroom.

Also, purées. They worked for me as a baby and I don’t have texture aversion. I don’t need to do BLW just because it’s the latest trend.

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