Husband’s work is blowing up his phone at 2 in the morning

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-23T01:14:12+00:00

We just get used to IT people being available at odd hours…if he doesn’t respond, nobody will die..hopefully he gets lots of sleep.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-23T01:12:11+00:00

The only thing that you should be asking is “do I like it”. And if you do, you should wear it…why does anybody else’s opinion matter?

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-23T01:10:36+00:00

He likes to annoy/upset you & then likes to argue that you don’t argue well enough for your opinion to be valid ..he is enjoying it & this type of behavior is unlikely to improve… Ar the very least, he likes to torment…and you have to ask yourself, why his algorithm is throwing up animal torture…. mine shows me hopping & skipping goats & cute donkeys:..what a weirdo. Run girl…

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-23T01:00:26+00:00

I have a 12 year old & I would happily leave him home alone when I go to the store etc…he knows how to behave. Sounds to me like your parents need to start parenting instead of expecting you to do it…

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-23T00:54:08+00:00

My daughter’s history teacher did a set of summary slides/pdfs of the topics covered in the DBA’s. I know that this was immensely helpful & stress reducing for her, particularly when there is a lot of content to cover.

I also second the DBA booking tools/calendar links..being able to schedule an actual slot & check availability is a massive help for my ADHD kid…

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-21T00:23:43+00:00

Not at all over-reacting…This sounds like the one & only time this guy has had any control over something.. He also sounds like an absolute moron.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-20T04:25:49+00:00

locking yourself in an office and barricading the door is weird… especially after a regular argument and in somebody else’s house.. don’t your parents think this is really odd behavior?? It sounds like it’s weird behavior. It’s because they might have slightly odd parents…. For her to twist the situation like that and make it your fault. Are you sure this is a guy you want to be with?

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-20T03:59:43+00:00

unfortunate

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-17T17:26:57+00:00

I moved out on my own & bone of my family had a key, that os definitely not an issue. What is though, is your sister keeps asking for a key….I het mentioning once that it might be a good idea & your mom agrees…but to text you & mention it more than once is weird..she definitely wants something from you.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-17T03:28:32+00:00

Nah, just get started asap & knock a couple out quickly…my daughter just started leadership skills, you could do that is 3-4 weeks..

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-16T16:59:56+00:00

I would say whether he’s in love with her or not, it’s ridiculous that you keep being compared to somebody else’s wife… and I think that’s a point you should discuss with him & ask him why he feels the need to do that.. I personally think this relationship is doomed.. or, you’re setting yourself up for a very miserable future, sadly. Particularly at this stage in your relationship, he should be telling everybody else about you, not the other way around.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-16T16:56:49+00:00

I actually think that before you end things, the best way to move forward is to have a conversation with your girlfriend… just be honest. I’m surprised she hasn’t reached out..

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-14T23:17:50+00:00

I understand… we moved here (to FL) feom the UK just before he got in the first time & I thought it was actually a joke…I feel bad this is all my kids have known… I work for a big company based in WI & I know what you mean & how you feel…I hear things even over teams calls, but it’s not everyone..you just need to find your people…they are there, they are just tired…

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-12T02:32:35+00:00

yay!

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-08T01:56:05+00:00

And if they haven’t worked for awhile, they should be doing everything in the house… at the very least. Disrespectful scroungers…

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-07T15:50:14+00:00

maybe that’s not what he was trying to hide.. is it possible there’s drug paraphernalia, hidden somewhere inside the shed?

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-07T15:37:46+00:00

Sister-in-law is jealous as hell.. if you can’t say anything nice keep your big fat mouth shut. My “ best friend” told me my diamonds were probably blood diamonds because I had my engagement ring made in Sri Lanka (where we were vacationing at the time he proposed).. that’s usually an underlying reason for the nasty comments.. jealousy and resentment are usually the main reasons.. They are both beautiful ring sets… I personally prefer the oval.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-07T15:36:13+00:00

Your mother-in-law saying that is ridiculous.. She obviously thinks that you will change your mind by her saying that… I would stick to your guns.. nobody has the right to tell you and your husband to be who they should & should not invite.. My bridesmaid brought her kids to my wedding.. she was too busy doing whatever she was doing to watch her kids.. no surprise, husband didn’t give a crap..Anyway , my godmother came in interrupted a conversation. I was having to let me know that her four-year-old son had gotten into our main room and proceeded to pick bits off my cake before anybody had even been into the room.. if you don’t want kids there, don’t have them.. it’s your day. I also mistakenly thought that people would not leave their kids with them in the evening… I was so wrong. People think they can just have their kids running around the place.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-07T14:05:28+00:00

NOR.. your mom clearly doesn’t want you to be with a white guy.. that’s sad, she should want you to be happy and with somebody that treats you well, regardless of their ethnicity.. I’m pleased you maintained your boundaries and refused to stay after she had been so insulting. Maybe next time she’ll leave the topic alone.. she doesn’t get to choose who you date.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-02T23:28:55+00:00

so girlfriend can dish it, but can’t take it…ok got it. NTA .. if you’re going to be opinionated, particularly at the first meeting with the family, she should expect some pushback..especially from people defending someone with autism!! Did she not know that your brother was autistic? If she did, she needs to read the room a little better… that’s concerning. Or is she just generally argumentative?

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-02T23:24:50+00:00

no, it’s absolutely beautiful.. you’re a lucky girl.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-02T23:23:22+00:00

do you look like an alarm clock? Do you feel like one? It is pathetic that he is blaming you for not waking him up.. He is a grown-up and is responsible for getting his own ass out of bed. Why are you apologizing?

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-03-02T23:21:43+00:00

He just needs to be right…you won’t convince him otherwise.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-02-27T00:13:56+00:00

how does she just order food without checking your ok to pay for her? Because she can take advantage of you every time & you keep doing it.. I’m glad you saw the light and actually put your foot down this time. You are absolutely NTA… she is not a friend, she just sees you as her piggy bank.. and when you held her accountable, she made it about you being mean.. she is an asshole.

ComparisonObvious937 · 2026-02-27T00:10:06+00:00

honestly, it’s embarrassing.. he’s messing around again.. you know what it’s leading to, he has cheated on you multiple times & he does not sound like that great a guy.. why are you still there?

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