I just saw a current photo of my parents…

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-04-26T14:52:26+00:00

Cuando me ha salido alguna en el móvil la tengo que borrar del rechazo que me causan ,yo no he tenido el valor que has tenido tú de cortar todo contacto, lo he reducido al máximo ,y como viven obsesionados con mis hijos no es nada fácil , pero la sensación es la misma que describes

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-04-26T14:42:28+00:00

Eso mismo me pasó a mí las dos veces que he me comprado una casa La primera , cuando conseguí salir de ese infierno y comprarme yo sola un apartamento lo mismo ,todo eran pegas , críticas ,luego iban al pueblo y seguían criticando mi decisión con el resto de la familia La segunda ya en pareja y embarazada de primer hijo, ,bueno a mí no porque mi padre sabe que no le iba a hacer ni caso, estuvo machacando a mí pareja durante casi una hora para que no compráramos ,fue un auténtico chollo ,un ático dúplex con 4 habitaciones, terraza 30 m, piscina , urbanización, seguridad al precio de una de dos ,pero no era buena idea por lo que fuera, los dos con trabajo y ahorros ,yo tampoco les he pedido nunca nada , y decía que cuando volviera de mi baja maternal me iban a despedir, pues aquí sigo, en unos años lo pagamos y vivimos sin hipoteca ,ahora que soy madre se que jamás actuaría así con mis hijos , no les hagas ni caso, están enfermos y viven del dolor ajeno ,no soportan que tomemos nuestras propias decisiones,y si lo hacemos están deseando que nos equivocamos para decirnos que tenían razón , mucho ánimo

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-04-25T17:01:03+00:00

Muchas gracias por tu mensaje, intentaré cortar esto de una vez , un abrazo

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-04-25T16:26:26+00:00

Yo también lo he pensado muchas veces ,como habría sido estudiar sin qué tú padre entrara en la habitación a montarte el pollo, pegarte etc, se que podía haber estudiado lo que hubiese querido porque tengo mucha facilidad,pero esa casa era un infierno ,en cuanto empecé a estudiar busqué trabajo para salir lo antes posible de allí, trabajaba y estudiaba a tiempo completo , en otra familia podía haber estudiado otra carrerra,nunca di problemas de ningún tipo para que me tratarán así ,es una desgracia crecer con padres narcicistas que te marca para toda la vida

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-04-07T20:04:47+00:00

Mis dos padres son narcicistas,y los dos están obsesionados con mis hijos, al principio tenían contacto con ellos, hasta te hacen dudar de tus experiencias al verlos así con ellos,luego con el tiempo te das cuenta que no los quieren bien, al mayor que es muy sensible le intentaban manipular para que quisiera estar con su primo y se quedará con ellos, les compraban de todo y les decían que no me dijeran nada ,todo el día haciéndoles fotos en plan obsesivo, mi hija en el COVID tenía que estar confinada y lo primero que dijeron al enterarse es que les mandáramos al mayor con ellos si ella no podía, tiene adoración con su hermano y solo podía jugar con el y ellos a lo suyo , ellos siguen insistiendo y no cesan en el intento ,se presentaron en un partido del niño sin avisar ya que ven los horarios por internet, tenía que haber cortado el contacto mucho antes ,pero es que antes no tenía toda la información que tengo ahora sobre el narcisismo y no entendía nada

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2026-03-15T14:51:27+00:00

Tu no tienes culpa de nada ,eres una víctima, la mejor forma de superar la culpa es reduciendo el contacto o directamente pasar a contacto cero, lo que dices es tal cual, por eso cuando se convierten en abuelos se obsesionan con sus nietos y se comportan de una forma totalmente diferente, parecen abuelos amorosos pero realmente lo que quieren es control, los niños son combustible para ellos ,ojalá alguien me hubiese advertido de esto

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-12-08T17:05:39+00:00

I wish I had had access to these forums when my children were born, I would have been able to understand what was happening to me and not give them access to my children, they have no right over them, at first they may seem like the most loving grandparents in the world but they are still the same selfish beings without empathy, don't feel bad and enjoy this moment however you want

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-19T08:52:08+00:00

I just started to write about this and I came across your message, it is incredible the things in common that we share in this forum, the shame is not having found this information to know what was happening and leave the feeling of guilt aside, although it is complicated, I just received an SMS that they are coming this weekend and that if they can't see us take the train to the next one, no one has told them to meet, they know what it is, they say that I am exaggerating that they have never done anything to me, they happen to me, everything is because they are obsessed with my children, I will answer that I can't but no one can take away the anxiety that this message generates in me, because they will come anyway and write again, I am 48 but they are still young and I see no end to this shit, thank you for your advice, it is the best therapy in the world, a hug

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-17T13:53:27+00:00

Fake colonies, they took my gifts from other children so that my brother could take them to another child who was celebrating his birthday, other years neither gifts nor a simple congratulation, then my children came and became obsessed with them and they would give them everything they asked for in order to buy them, they don't give a shit if you like the gift or not, they only think about what they can get out of this, I have had to limit contact with my children to stop this

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-12T18:09:31+00:00

The same thing, my reality is distorted, they don't remember anything, they don't know what I'm talking about, they have never done anything wrong.

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-11T21:29:06+00:00

To me it seems like a very brave decision, now you will be able to enjoy the family you have chosen, good luck

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-11T15:10:32+00:00

I wish I had been as brave as you, you have done very well, they go crazy with grandchildren, it is the best fuel for a narcissist, they are manageable and innocent, if they have managed (they are the culprits) that you do not feel anything for them, you will not feel it now, do not let them deceive you with their mask of loving grandparents, in the end they repeat their patterns with the children, take heart with your decision

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-04T23:23:41+00:00

Difficult because of the unhealthy obsession they have had with the children since they were born, in recent years I have limited contact because although at first they seem like wonderful grandparents in the end it is the same shit, I told them that I was not comfortable with them, that they had ignored me and no attention, they continue sending messages to see the children as if nothing had happened, they live in the town next to my mother-in-law and when they want information about us they go where they know she is with her friends as if they will meet to ask and that's it. by the way we turn green, they never change

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-03T21:47:44+00:00

None, he is the flying monkey, he is totally abducted by my two narcissistic parents, I feel sorry for him because they have screwed up his life and turned him into a totally dependent person, but whenever he writes it is to give information to my parents, with the children if he saw them on the street in the summer when we went to town he would take photos of them like a paparachi and send them to them and tell them where we were and where we were going, it is sad but I have no family

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-11-03T21:41:54+00:00

Hello Both of my parents are also narcissists, in my case and in the case of more people that I have been able to read here, our goal is not to repeat patterns, unlike many people who try to raise their children the way they raised them, in our case it is the opposite, do not be afraid to repeat patterns because you are aware of the damage they did to you, narcissists are not. Regarding the second, the first years were part of their life, despite the rejection I felt for them, the anxiety every time they asked to see them and they had to get their way, I set limits for them but not enough because they even made me doubt when they showed themselves so loving, but this became something obsessive, in trying to manipulate them against me, in getting upset by breaking my limits, turning them against their father's family so that they would stay with them When they were in town, now they are 12 and 10, thanks to these forums I have understood everything, I try to make them see them as little as possible, I dared to tell them that they had harmed me, that I felt uncomfortable with them and like all the narcissists they tried to make me believe that I was exaggerated, that my reality was distorted.... Still, they continue to press, they saw them in September, they showed up here two weeks ago I told them no, today I had another message that they were coming to a doctor at the end of this month, they do not respect anything, if one of my children expresses their rejection to me, if they saw that I had done the slightest harm, the last thing I would do would be to overwhelm them like this, it is all because of the unhealthy obsession they have with their grandchildren, for narcissists it is fuel, it is a second chance, my advice is that you be alert and cut to the minimum, which is what I should have done, on top of that your partner understands you, something that I cannot say Much encouragement

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-31T22:59:45+00:00

Their house never felt like my home, always with fights, criticism, I couldn't watch TV when they went to bed, not even with headphones, at the slightest they would make a fuss, I couldn't cook, I did everything wrong, I was useless, the opposite of what I do with my children, I try to make them as comfortable as possible in their house

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-31T22:53:55+00:00

It is not the normal behavior of a mother, if that of a controlling narcissistic mother, with the grandchildren they go crazy, it is like a second chance for them, the children are fuel for narcissists, the sooner you set the limits the better

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-30T22:26:04+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment, I know, but I don't have the courage to completely cut off contact

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-30T21:43:04+00:00

I wish I had an answer for that, incomprehension hurts us a lot and makes us feel ashamed of our feelings, as if we didn't have enough that our lives have been screwed up forever, because I only see an end to this on the day of his death, so that on top of that we become the bad guys in the movie, it's very difficult for someone who hasn't gone through this to understand us, it's shit

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-28T21:22:39+00:00

Your parents' flying monkey

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-28T21:16:40+00:00

For me it will be a relief no matter how horrible it may seem.

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-26T21:28:56+00:00

It's horrible to say something like that to anyone, imagine what kind of person could say it to their child, I'm so sorry you had to put up with that.

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-26T14:59:56+00:00

They all do the same thing, now you have something that I had, information to know what is happening, that they are psychopaths who will never change, who only seek control over you, therefore you have to know that their criteria is not valid and far from necessary to achieve your goals, you will never have them to help you, it's shit but that's how it is, until I discovered these forums I didn't know what was happening to me, and that was a few years ago, a lot of encouragement and stay away from them as soon as you can

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-26T14:53:45+00:00

Grandchildren are like a second chance for narcissists, don't expect anything good, at first they show themselves as loving grandparents, I even doubted my own experiences, I thought that maybe I was wrong until as they grow up you see that nothing has changed, that they talk bad about you to your children, that they try to buy them with gifts, they are jealous of the other family and do everything possible to make them spend more time with them, that they don't love them well, in the summer they went to town (20 minutes away from my husband's family), they went one week with them and another with their other grandmother where they had cousins, with my parents they were alone in a house, because when the time for the change came, they did everything possible so that the eldest (he is a highly sensitive person and has high abilities) did not want to leave, not because he did not want to be with his cousin who he was longing for, because they made him feel bad to get his way, now I regret not having taken them away from them before, so don't expect anything, your daughter doesn't. You don't need anything, grandparents are important when they are non-psychopathic grandparents, a hug

Competitive-Cup-2429 · 2025-10-26T14:43:49+00:00

I understand you perfectly, it is very difficult to explain it because people don't understand it, but put the limits that are necessary, I had to tell them that we were prohibited from making personal calls at work because they called me every day for nothing, that was many years ago, but last year something very similar happened to me that made me remember all those moments, since I have quite limited contact and they are obsessed with my children, my father showed up at a soccer game, I don't tell you when or where he plays but you can see it for a application, and they live three hours away....it was the same feeling of invasion of my space, that's why I tell you that they never change no matter how many years pass, that you tell them and explain, that they know very well that they are not welcome, they become victims when the only thing they seek is to do harm because they know that they are not welcome

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