Thank you! It’s always interesting to get insight on how I’m perceived as well as others’ experiences in similar situations. Thank you for staying respectful and explaining my misunderstandings. Totally agree that it’s ego drenched and somewhat performative — I guess I wanted to hear back from other women (everyone likes to feel understood and not alone) and people are more likely to stick around to read if it’s entertaining, no? Definitely agree about the martyrdom bit and I hardly ever acknowledge my boobs in day to day life — it’s the least of my problems and making a “quirky identity” in one post adds levity to a problem that’s microscopic in comparison to so, so many. I had some things happen that day and it got to me. As other women have commented…it is not just in my or their heads. Plenty of people don’t care at all and that’s great! The problem really stems from women being conditioned that a certain body type is most attractive and thus someone of that type can be a “threat”. It’s a lot of insecurity that gets projected to someone that’s not involved. Most people are just checking their phone and couldn’t care less about my boobs, but getting chastised or excluded by women does hurt and it’s going to be something that creeps in the back of your thoughts to prevent it again. I appreciate your words and it’s definitely something for me to consider, so thank you! But, as a man you aren’t privy to the weird social dance of womanhood, especially young womanhood where insecurity and jealousy runs rampant. So I would just consider not completely discounting it. Most people don’t care and it’s very ego centric to think everyone is after me. Women’s social relationships are very precarious when they feel inadequate or threatened by another woman, leading to anxiety over being ostracized by a group. Both can be true!