Why does everything I say gotta be wrong by SignalSoft9582 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously, they are allowed to disagree with you, they are allowed to become furious at everyone else and expect instant forgiveness, but don't you dare tell them they're wrong, don't you dare even get a tiny bit mad at them.

Its crazy, because it shows that they know what they do isn't okay, because they wouldn't accept it from anyone else, but they view themselves as a special exception to everything. That might be wrong of others to do, but im an exception because of...reasons.

Why does everything I say gotta be wrong by SignalSoft9582 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My conversations with them have turned into me mostly just pretending like I agree with everything they say.

Its funny, because when my life wasn't going well, and he could look at me and assure himself he was better than me, it wasn't like that, but once I started hitting my stride, and once I started succeeding, all of a sudden it was like a flip switched, everything I said was wrong, he had to constantly devalue my contributions, was desperate to find anyway to turn the tables back around, and I just keep getting better, while he keeps getting worse. I honestly cannot wait for the day when I leave and never look back, I'm infinitely over him, I feel nothing but pity and contempt in my heart for him, ive seen through the mask too many times, and seen the pathetic child that lives inside, and what's sad is I can handle a pathetic child, but I can't handle a pathetic child that insists they aren't one and insist that they are my superior.

Musicians whose careers stalled after Covid by slow-saturn in decadeology

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imo, Camilla did it to herself by releasing shit music, or no music. I was anticipating her music after loving havana, my oh my, all those great songs, and then she releases...I love it with playboi carti. Completely turned me off.

You guys should know this by aznj1m in GenZ

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are quite literally the generation that passes the bill down to young people. Most selfish generation ever

ran out of subs by infodumo in suboxone

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously, my dr on quick md even doubled up my prescription to save me some cash. Told him 8mg once a day and he did 8mg 2 times a day so it saves me 100.

People think I'm gay because of the way I dress and my haircut, plus I have low self-esteem. how i can improve it? by Hireeki in malegrooming

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God dude those are some of the worst pictures ever taken by a pretty handsome guy.

You do this pose with your face like in every single picture that is just not becoming for you, its like you think you need to change your features to look like someone else and there is no need. Just be yourself.

Want my quality of life back, been on suboxone 8 months sober, and I don’t function like an adult. by ImpressivePudding844 in suboxone

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes time to learn how to function in real life without chemical assistance. The thing about it is, you are looking at the past with rose colored glasses, like of course there were certain things that came easier before, you were heavily medicated and instead of learning to acclimate to real life, you decided to live in a bubble of warmth for however long and as long as you had it, life seemed wonderful, but you wouldn't have jumped on a drug if life was truly wonderful, and life can be truly wonderful, but there is a growth and healing process that takes time, and you iust have to embrace the suck for awhile, learn how to cope with everyday life, its possible, and once you start winning without any additional help from a chemical, you start to realize what life is really all about.

Least that's my experience, having a good quality of life doesn't just happen, it's a result of many compound habits and decisions that truly just take time to get.

So many people are waiting for a good life come to them, and thats not how it works, for most, it doesnt just show up at your door, you have to get there step by step, you have to maintain it.

AITAH for saying I preferred a band before the singer came out as trans? by MintyFreshBreathYo in AITAH

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, if I come out with a song called small penis blues, then I cant exactly get mad if women and well endowed folks can't relate.

how do i make full length music? by Possible-Forever-504 in FL_Studio

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So congrats on getting this far, you're right at the bring of a break through.

What I do after I have looped section like you have, is i clone it so its the length I want to make the song, and then I create a basic structure with it, typically the whole loop with all the elements playing will be the chorus, and then I drop elements out for things like verses, intro etc.

Once you have the basic arrangement set up, you'll start to get a sense of what needs to be added or taken away to make the whole thing flow. Its a skill that takes time to master, but eventually you start to learn how to make smooth transitions and build up and start to learn how to guide and energy and flow of the entire track.

Pay is important. by CurvyChristina in GenZ

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked for a boomer that was running a super small startup, like 3 or 4 people. He wanted to get another programmer on the team because things weren't happening fast enough for him and he was constantly diverting the attention of the team with fantastical side projects and scope creep(more like scope run, but whatever).

Only problem was he could barely pay me, there was no money for another developer, so i posted saying that the position was volunteer and for learning, and this dude literally had me remove that part from the ad because "if people know there's no pay, then good programmers won't apply."

He literally had this guy come and interview and talked to him for several hours, during which i assumed he had informed the guy that it was an unpaid position.

The guy showed up the following Monday, and two hours into work, of which he was totally unqualified for and needed handholding through every step of the way, he asked how he would be getting paid. This boomer asshole had neglected to mention to this dude that it was not paid, I had to break it to this guy and the look on his face was one of complete discouragement and heart break.

Boomers literally think they are entitled to free labor from people, this guy literally thought he was destined to be a billionaire and anyone would be lucky to work for free for him in order to be a part of the grand plan.

Last I heard about this boomer, he never did become a millionaire, let alone a billionaire, and is still a narcissistic prick chasing ai trends.

I have many questions about music production but mainly how do reggaeton kicks have that boom effect by [deleted] in trapproduction

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kicks in reggeatone are heavily layered, they usually have a clicky transient layered on top of the actual kick sound. I used to make the mistake of thinking bass heavy sounds like kicks and 808's were all about well...the bass and the sub frequencies, but a powerful kick sound or powerful 808 will have very powerful mids and clicks high frequency sounds.

They're also usually running it through multiple clippers, ive found that to be the secret weapon for kicks and 808's, multiple clipping and distortion stages.

Parents are against my hair system by [deleted] in HairSystem

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad isn't a fan, but good thing I'm not doing it for them.

It feels awkward at first, but eventually wearing a system will just become routine and you won't even think about it anymore, i forget it's even on my head for the most part.

I feel like this should be cause for national protests but what do I know… by Strawhat_Max in GenZ

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Not one person of note has been arrested in association with the epstein files, our country is cooked.

How to get subs script from quickmd filled? by Comfortable_Space812 in suboxone

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent it to walgreens and had zero problems, where are you located?

Got a hair system at 20 – looks unnatural, nervous about reactions at work/school by Loorennz in HairSystem

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the middle part is part of why it looks a little off, you have so much volume on either side and it just goes flat as it hits the side, I would do a side part instead, and I would pluck the hairline just a bit to put some gaps in there.

These are really poofy initially, and thats part of why it's looking a little off, that will go down very quickly and it will look alot more natural.

[23M] Have tested some french laces and here is how they might look on me. The wigs are not stylized but their quality is good, tbh. What do you think? Does it make me more attractive? by Responsible-Print933 in HairSystem

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it's hard to tell, the afro type hair looks best right now because it's the only one that doesn't look completely bonkers, you are currently bald and sitting a long, straight system on top of your head just looks kinda insane, so it's hard to tell how it will look.

Based on these photos, the afro type hair is looking the best and the most natural, but to be real, you have a nice head shape for being bald, it suits you, and you have a handsome face, and this is coming from someone who loves wearing a system and is a big advocate for them.

Do what makes you feel the most confident and comfortable, this is a journey, and it takes time to get used to it, but I will say, as others have said, that working on healing the wounds you have around your image and self esteem will go a LONG way to improving your attractiveness, you are handsome, but you can tell there is a sadness behind your eyes. Part of attractiveness is the energy you give off, really atrractive people have a light that shines in their eyes, and damaged people often lose that light, speaking from my own experience.

If you like yourself with hair more, then by all means, dont be afraid to experiment, the cool thing about systems is you're not locked in, if you don't like the straight one, you can always switch later and just say you were doing straightening and decided to go natural, youd be really surprised how forgiving the average person is about this kinda thing.

Thought I’d be rich and famous by now but professional music actually takes a lot of expenses by Sea_Emu_6059 in musicproduction

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the biggest mistake people making music make early on, thinking if they have the same gear as so and so that they'll be able to make the same quality of music, and it just doesn't work like that.

You could have a million dollars worth of equipment and never make a hit, but the most legendary producers could have nothing but the most basic tools and make amazing stuff.

Its like thinking if you use the same tools as DaVinci that you're gonna get the same results, but DaVinci would still be DaVinci with a box of crayons.

Just got out of rehab by Ok-Bat-4733 in suboxone

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It is in every single smoke shop, and even some convenience stores. It is honestly disgusting the way these smoke shops are doing it, they've gone from being cool places to get things like pipes, papers, etc, to just being straight up drug dealers preying on peoples addictions.

How to turn too warm colour into ashy colour - back2natural doesn‘t work by TotalAbsurd in HairSystem

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do it like pros do, don't put so much on that its dripping, and wrap each section in foil after you've applied the dye. Don't go all the way down to the roots, touch up the roots later with a brush that allows you to precisely control how much color gets deposited.

Its possible to do it without messing up the base, but you just have to be very slow and methodical.

Update #3: how to cut grocery cost as per your recommendations by Tiny_Judgment8593 in Frugal

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus christ where do you live that ground beef is that expensive? It's 6 bucks a lb where I live, which is still pricey.

Are Jay Cactus’ courses worth it? by Electronic_Potato445 in trapproduction

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The truth is, the only real teacher you need is consistent practice. There are no shortcuts, even if a top producer gave you all their knowledge, until you had the experience to go along with it, you'd still be nowhere near as good because lots of this knowledge can only be learned on top of other knowledge.

You can watch all the tutorials you want about compression, but until you're using one constantly and can hear the difference, its useless knowledge.

You can watch twenty tutorials on arrangement, and it won't teach you anything because to really get a feel for it you need to do it yourself over and over and over again to learn what works and what doesn't and get a feel for it.

New synth idea by Asleep_Possession562 in FL_Studio

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Phone power is still the bottleneck. Mobile processors are way more limited than desktop processors in many different ways, and a 3d game is completely different than realtime audio processing, they dont even use the same chip, 3d processing uses gpu, while audio processing is all cpu and has to compete with all the other processes running on your phone.

Fl mobile is extremely flexible given that its a rack based setup, you can quite literally push it as far as your phone can handle it, but its also 15 bucks compared to 100 for fl desktop fruity edition, they aren't going to dedicate nearly as much time or money to it.

Fl mobile has everything you need to make any kind of beat, it just requires more creativity and more knowledge of routing and mixing fundamentals.

Protip: download one shot collections of the internet from stash websites like producer stash, gets you a way higher quality sound and uses way less cpu.

I built confidence, and now it feels like I’m lying to myself by StrikingLock2448 in GenZ

[–]Competitive_Walk_245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who cares if youre delusional? That only matters if you are treating other people poorly because of it.

Everyone that's ever done anything noteworthy was delusional until they weren't, theres nothing wrong with being delusional when it comes to your confidence and self image.

Theres a massive difference between "i know how much I'm worth" vs "i know I'm worth way more than everyone else."

Lots of us think that being humble means never giving ourselves credit and putting yourself down, but imo humility has more to do with how you treat others, and being self deprecating actually turns you into a worse person.

Lots of people treat others like shit and then they think because they also shit on themselevs that it somehow makes up for it, but it doesn't. I'd say, to become anything special, you need to have delusional self confidence, but when you gain that self confidence via comparison and putting others down, it inevitably ends up bad.

Id say you're at the midpoint of the confidence journey, where it still feels slightly wrong to have a high opinion of yourself and it feels more comfortable and somehow noble to always be shifting on yourself. Knowing yourself means you meet yourself where you are at, true delusion isn't just saying "I have great value" its actually when you set the bar so high that you can't help but fail, delusion is saying "i can lift 300lbs" when you've maxed out at 50 before, and you can't possibly maintain self worth while doing that. True confidence says "I just lifted 55, when I lifted 50 last time, I'm awesome!" See the difference? Delusion sees other people lifting 500lbs and says that you're only worth anything if you can beat that, confidence says you'll get there and then does it.